Questions tagged [middle-childhood]

Age specific questions from about 8 years to about 11 years. Younger: primary-schooler. Older: pre-teen.

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How to handle my 9-year-old's uncontrollable raging fits?

We have four kids: a 9-year-old boy, a 6-year-old girl, a 4-year-old boy and a 20-month-old girl. The 9-year-old boy is in general a delightful, well-behaved, kind and considerate boy. Sometimes he ...
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What's an appropriate age to involve kids in life changing decisions?

My wife and myself have very different views on bringing up our kids. Our differences and different ways of handling problems is tearing the family apart. My kids are about 6 years old (girl) and 10 ...
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How to help my antagonistic 10-year-old learn necessary skills when he doesn't want to participate in any classes?

My 10-year-old son is in grade four. He doesn't like to participate in any classes. To him doing practice sounds unnecessary and boring and he likes to have all skills on his own. He is active and he ...
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How to cope with my guilt about the way I punished my child?

My 9-year-old child is afraid of swimming, although he is good at parts of it. In just 6-7 days, he is now able to float and can swim a half of the length of the pool. But he doesn't go into the pool ...
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How to deal with cussing from our 10-year-old son?

My 10-year-old son sent a message on his iPad through a word game to a family friend that was beyond inappropriate and had cuss words in it. She told her parents, who told us. We are both upset and ...
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How to make my 8-year-old son stop crying over the most simple things?

My 8-year-old son has ADHD and has been on the same medication for 3 years. Anytime he doesn't get something he wants, has to do something he doesn't want to do (homework, chores, stop playing his ...
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How to help my 8-year-old daughter cope with being unable to execute something new other than crying?

My daughter will be turning 8 in a few days, and I have been unsuccessful in trying to get her to stop crying when she becomes frustrated. Examples are: She is currently in dance and takes 8 classes ...
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How do you as teacher deal with children who like to hug you?

I'm a male teacher. I have a problem with two 10-year-old girls who sometimes insist on hugging me. I don't particularly enjoy hugs at the best of times and when the hug comes from a minor I really ...
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How to help my 8-year-old son who is not potty trained whatsoever? [duplicate]

My 8-year-old son has regressed in his potty training. He was fully potty trained when he was 4 or 5, then slowly stopped. Now he won't use the bathroom at all. He's in second grade and has to wear ...
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What to do when an 8-year-old is not motivated by rewards?

When I want to get something done by my 8-year-old, I offer rewards for that activity, but still the rewards don't motivate him to do that task. The rewards are something that he loves the most, for ...
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8-year-old girl very keen on her uncle and not on her aunt, a matter of age?

My wife and I are in our thirties. She is the "godmother" of a nice 8-year-old girl (her sister's single child). As her husband, she has become increasingly interested in me lately (I'd say since ...
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How to help children cope with a parent's suicide?

I've asked another question here: How to handle disclosing a parent's suicide to friends and their parents I've noticed that this question here: What are some strategies for helping children ...
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How to deal with my son calling me on the telephone when he is in a fight with his mother?

I am divorced and have an 8-year-old son. Our son lives half of the time with me, half of the time with his mother. Communication between us parents is good, there is no conflict of any kind, and we ...
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How to teach civil rights to children who don't know about racism?

Martin Luther King Day is coming up, and I want to teach my children about him, especially since the civil rights movement is such a huge part of our local history here in Alabama. My dilemma is that ...
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Completing the homework - how much is this in parents' responsibility and up to which age?

We have a 10-year-old child who is generally not interested in doing homework. He prefers to play games and watch TV. He's bored by homework which requires some patience and concentration, like ...
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Why is it so hard teaching your own children and how to improve the process?

I have two children, 6 and 9 years old. I find it very hard to teach them skills or school subjects and I wonder if there are any tricks or methods to it? It seems my children are much more eager to ...
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How to improve the relationship between my misbehaving 8-year-old stepchild and me?

I've been with my other half for nearly 4 years and have been known to his now 8-year-old daughterfor a little longer than that. She has been aware of our relationship for around 3.5 years. When we ...
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What to do after my nephew showed a graphic video to my 9-year-old son?

My 12-year-old nephew "Bob" took my 9-year-old son aside and showed him a video of ISIS beheading a victim. I am just flabbergasted that Bob would do that. Interestingly Bob did not show the video to ...
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What to do about an 8-year-old who will suffer silently until a breaking point?

We have an 8-year-old son. He has no intellectual or developmental disabilities. However, we are concerned about the following. He will not speak up in protest for himself. For example: He tripped ...
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How to help my wife's 9-year-old boy who has an unnatural attachment to his mother figures and lacked a father figure?

We are a blended family, between us we have 4 kids. Our 9-year-old boy was 4 when his dad left and I believe that this has presented him with a couple of challenges. Firstly, he appears to be stuck ...
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Should I seek a medical professional when the school says my 10-year-old has a learning disability?

I have a 10-year-old daughter who has been struggling with school for the past 3 years. She struggles in reading and math and just seems to not get it. There was a time she would even cry when it was ...
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How to help our 9-year-old, who struggles with math, to focus?

My 9-year-old son is quadrilingual (fluent in all), education is in the language that both my husband and I are not speaking. He is our only child. We live in the Dutch speaking part of Belgium. We ...
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What do I do to get my daughter interested in presenting her science experiments at the science competition(fair)?

In my state we get the primary school aged kids (8-12) to enter a State Science competition. (In other states and countries - the equivalent may be a school science fair.) My daughter (9) has some ...
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How can I introduce discipline into my 8-year-old daughter's life? [closed]

I have an 8-year-old daughter and I have had some past issues with kids and feel a lot of guilt. So I really find it hard to believe that strict. But now it has got a little bit of control. She back ...
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How do I limit the time my neighbor's kids spend at my home?

My neighbor’s children (9, 10, 11 and 12 years old) frequently pop over to my house to play. They get permission from their parents and me. I love that we have young kids on our street, but they stay ...
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Should children decide with which parent to stay after friendly divorce [closed]

In case of a friendly divorce, should the children (say 8 year old) be able to choose with which parent to mainly live or should this decision mainly rest with the parents?
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Why is my 9-year-old making up new illnesses/injuries every day?

My 9-year-old daughter is a sweet, talkative little girl who has a tendency to exaggerate things, but within the past two years her claims of different illnesses and injuries have steadily increased ...
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How to bring my 10-year-old, who is convinced that she can go to heaven, back to reality?

I have a 10-year-old daughter. Apparently, one of her friends can go to heaven and talked with angels. Out of curiosity, she found out 'how' to be like her. It has been a year now, only now I realized ...
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How much self control can an 8-year-old be expected to show under physical and psychological provocation?

How much self control can an 8-year-old be expected to show under physical and psychological provocation. I separated from my ex wife about 4 years ago. My son has been living with her for around the ...
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How to teach an 8-year-old to navigate two groups of friends who forbid friendship with members of the other group?

My 2nd grader is coming home talking about how there are two 'teams' (her term) of girls who talk about each other, are mean to each other, and try not to allow 'their friends' to be friends with the ...
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What are some good games, books (or any suggestions) to teach my 10 year old more patience and persistence?

My 10 year old gets frustrated very easily. When I ask her if she'd like help or suggestions she says "no!". She'll often become angry and then give up. I have some of these tendencies (except being ...
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How do I explain racial slurs to a 10-year-old?

I've got a 10-year-old daughter. She gets very good grades in school (sometimes even A+, rarely Bs). She already has quite a healthy knowledge of sexual education (the Birds and The Bees). She came ...
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What to do about my future wife's 8-year-old son who does what he wants with no regard for anyone else?

I have a son and getting married with the mother of three children in a few weeks. She has an 8-year-old son, whom this question is about, and an older son and a younger daughter. All is well with ...
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How can a father teach his girl child about menstruation?

Usually in a home, the mother will teach her daughter about menstrual periods, but consider this following situation: In my neighbor's home the father takes care of his daughter (at present the child'...
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My kid slops through her chores or takes forever to do it. I've tried everything

My 10-year-old daughter has a problem with doing her chores correctly in a timely manner. For instance, she's famous for taking 3 hours to wash the dishes. She wants to go outside and play or get on ...
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Supporting pubescent daughter's curiousity about “normal bodies”

Along with others in her peer group she has begun developing breasts and today asked if she could see her grandmother's breasts to contrast them to her mother's. This seems like quite normal curiosity ...
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How do I get my 8-year-old, who was diagnosed with ADHD, to be respectful and do her chores?

I have an integrated family and I have 3 children in total: My husband's 14-year-old daughter, my 8-year-old daughter and our 5-month-old son. My 8-year-old has ADHD which I'm having difficulty with ...
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A stranger's child throws a piece of garbage onto the ground, out of sight of their parents. Should I say or do anything?

I am a male childless adult living in England. I rarely interact with children. Last weekend, I observed how a boy (perhaps 8 years old) threw a piece of garbage onto the ground, despite being ...
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How do I instruct my openly defiant son?

I don't know for sure if my 8-year-old son actually enjoys creating conflict, but he does it a lot. I could go on and on with examples, but one in particular prompted me to ask this question. We were ...
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What can we do to get my cousin's 8-year-old to behave, instead of destroying things and blaming others?

My cousin's 8-year-old son seems to be one of the worst kids I know. We have tried so many different angles of punishment and tried to compromise... First to start with, he likes to get into things. ...
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Ten year old is lying and seems to believe her own lies

My ten-year-old stepdaughter has recently developed a habit of telling bold-faced lies to avoid getting in trouble/having to do something she does not want to. How do we respond to this? Some ...
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Is it okay for two 6- and 9-year-olds to share a bedroom with their 18-year-old step-brother?

I have two 6- and a 9-year-old sons. They live with their father. I have found out that they share a bedroom with their 18-year-old step-brother there. The 18-year-old plays videogames rated 16+ and ...
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How to end 9-year-old's video game time with less stress?

My 9-year-old has been off of all technology for many months, and finally earned it back. He gets to play a 1/2 hour a day on my old iPod Touch. Ending this time has always been stressful, and ...
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Can a “magic answer box” backfire? Is it ok?

I’m a fresh father (4 months old daughter) and I’m sometimes visualising the future. I was thinking of implementing a system for when she’ll be a little older (7+ years old) in which: she posts a ...
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How to choose a psychologist to do a psychoeducational assessment?

I am trying to choose a psychologist to do a psychoeducational assessment of an 8 year old with no diagnosis but with attention issues. I have received a dozen or so glowing recommendations from ...
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How to encourage 9 year old to stop whining and independently practice their math?

I live with my 9 year old cousin who dislikes and has been doing poorly in math. (New Canadian education system likes to have "no homework" because apparently this will be good and reduce stress in ...
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What to do about our 8-year-old boy getting in trouble at his new school after having been taken away from his mom?

Our 8-year-old boy is now living with us, taken away from his mom due to abuse and now living with his dad, new home and new school. He spent his first 7 years with his mom and dad had weekend visits ...
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How to help my 9-year-old daughter with an eating disorder (comfort eating)?

I am divorced and have custody of my children. I noticed that my 9-year-old daughter is eating much more food than she usually does and she has gained so much weight. She eats more during meals and in ...
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My 8-year-old daughter soils her pants daily. What can I do?

My 8-year-old daughter is soiling her pants daily and couldn't care less about the whole situation with I am just about out of patience. She is collected daily from school with soiled pants and has ...
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How to answer child's hard questions

I have recently found myself facing my sweet 9-year old cousin, who looked at me with those big naive eyes, and knowing me as the geeky aunt who knows everything, asked "why did the Germans do this to ...