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Questions tagged [middle-childhood]

Age specific questions from about 8 years to about 11 years. Younger: primary-schooler. Older: pre-teen.

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Is school punishment for mediocre test results reasonable?

My daughter is 9 years old, she's just started grade 4. We've had her in a school for gifted kids since kindergarten. It's been great so far because they understand the challenges that gifted kids ...
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How to talk to my 8-year-old daughter about her absent father?

My 8-year-old daughter hasn’t seen her father since she was 5 months old. It was an mentally and physically abusive relationship, so we moved to a different province and he hasn’t attempted to see her ...
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How to make an 8-year-old boy use the toilet instead of a potty?

I have an 8-year-old son. He won’t poop in the toilet, only in a potty. If we take the potty away, he’ll poop all over the floor. He’s been tested medically and been cleared. He did before he even ...
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How to talk about a historic suicide in the family to young kids?

My brother took his own life in 2000 at age 23. My kids - 10-year-old girl, 8-year-old boy and 4-year-old girl - know that I had a brother and that he died, but I have not told them anything more than ...
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How to help my 11-years old sister, who is terrified after watching a horror movie?

Context: at a birthday party my 11-years old sister watched Annabelle and Annabelle 2. She told us later that even though she was frightned the whole time, she didn't want to stop watching, mainly for ...
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How to teach my people-pleasing daughter to balance between helping others and accounting for her own needs?

My younger daughter is a people pleaser. She always wants everyone else to be happy, often to her and her older sister's emotional detriment. She lets people take advantage of her generosity, buying ...
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Why does my 10-year-old daughter not complete her homework?

My 10-year-old girl is a class four pupil. As a parent and teachers we have realised that she does not always complete her work. She doesn't want to think, so she will even cut the questions and write ...
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How to make my 8-year-old son stop crying over the most simple things?

My 8-year-old son has ADHD and has been on the same medication for 3 years. Anytime he doesn't get something he wants, has to do something he doesn't want to do (homework, chores, stop playing his ...
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What's an appropriate age to involve kids in life changing decisions?

My wife and myself have very different views on bringing up our kids. Our differences and different ways of handling problems is tearing the family apart. My kids are about 6 years old (girl) and 10 ...
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How to help my 8-year-old son who is not potty trained whatsoever? [duplicate]

My 8-year-old son has regressed in his potty training. He was fully potty trained when he was 4 or 5, then slowly stopped. Now he won't use the bathroom at all. He's in second grade and has to wear ...
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What to do when an 8-year-old is not motivated by rewards?

When I want to get something done by my 8-year-old, I offer rewards for that activity, but still the rewards don't motivate him to do that task. The rewards are something that he loves the most, for ...
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Overcoming an irrational fear of long guns

My 10 year old daughter has developed an acute fear of long guns. This is problematic because we go shooting at the range where I've been showing her guns bigger than our little revolver. This is ...
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Why is it so hard teaching your own children and how to improve the process?

I have two children, 6 and 9 years old. I find it very hard to teach them skills or school subjects and I wonder if there are any tricks or methods to it? It seems my children are much more eager to ...
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Completing the homework - how much is this in parents' responsibility and up to which age?

We have a 10-year-old child who is generally not interested in doing homework. He prefers to play games and watch TV. He's bored by homework which requires some patience and concentration, like ...
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How to help my wife's 9-year-old boy who has an unnatural attachment to his mother figures and lacked a father figure?

We are a blended family, between us we have 4 kids. Our 9-year-old boy was 4 when his dad left and I believe that this has presented him with a couple of challenges. Firstly, he appears to be stuck ...
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What do I do to get my daughter interested in presenting her science experiments at the science competition(fair)?

In my state we get the primary school aged kids (8-12) to enter a State Science competition. (In other states and countries - the equivalent may be a school science fair.) My daughter (9) has some ...
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How can I introduce discipline into my 8-year-old daughter's life? [closed]

I have an 8-year-old daughter and I have had some past issues with kids and feel a lot of guilt. So I really find it hard to believe that strict. But now it has got a little bit of control. She back ...
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Why is my 9-year-old making up new illnesses/injuries every day?

My 9-year-old daughter is a sweet, talkative little girl who has a tendency to exaggerate things, but within the past two years her claims of different illnesses and injuries have steadily increased ...
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How much self control can an 8-year-old be expected to show under physical and psychological provocation?

How much self control can an 8-year-old be expected to show under physical and psychological provocation. I separated from my ex wife about 4 years ago. My son has been living with her for around the ...
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Framework for letting 9yo get access without hard time limits

My 9-year-old is in this situation concerning media: She has limited access to a family PC (restricted account with a time limit of X minutes per day). She uses that for Youtube and Minecraft. She ...
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How do I explain racial slurs to a 10-year-old?

I've got a 10-year-old daughter. She gets very good grades in school (sometimes even A+, rarely Bs). She already has quite a healthy knowledge of sexual education (the Birds and The Bees). She came ...
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Supporting pubescent daughter's curiousity about “normal bodies”

Along with others in her peer group she has begun developing breasts and today asked if she could see her grandmother's breasts to contrast them to her mother's. This seems like quite normal curiosity ...
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How to choose a psychologist to do a psychoeducational assessment?

I am trying to choose a psychologist to do a psychoeducational assessment of an 8 year old with no diagnosis but with attention issues. I have received a dozen or so glowing recommendations from ...
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Ten year old is lying and seems to believe her own lies

My ten-year-old stepdaughter has recently developed a habit of telling bold-faced lies to avoid getting in trouble/having to do something she does not want to. How do we respond to this? Some ...
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Friend kid problem

My friend and I have been friends for about 9 years. She has a son who has severe ADHD and my daughter is 5 and she has mild autism. When my friend is around with her son, her son is very ...
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How to answer child's hard questions

I have recently found myself facing my sweet 9-year old cousin, who looked at me with those big naive eyes, and knowing me as the geeky aunt who knows everything, asked "why did the Germans do this to ...
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How to make my 7- and 10-year-old nephews eat more healthily?

I am a single gay man and earlier this year I moved in with my disabled parents to help them care for my Nephews (7 and 10). I have been very active in their lives and was always aware of their eating ...
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How to help child with autism (Asperger's) through, and prevent meltdowns

My ex wife and I live 2000 miles away from each other. The children are with her. We have been separated for over seven years, divorce will be finalized in the upcoming months. My eldest has ...
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My 9-year-old daughter is a wallflower around friends. How do I help her?

My daughter is almost 9 and entering the 3rd grade. She has a lot of friends at school from being in sports and girl scouts. However, when we see them at a public place our daughter pretends she ...
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How do I tell my 9-year-old son that my now ex husband is not his biological dad?

I'm in a situation where I became pregnant with the wrong person and decided to raise my child by myself. Since before his 3rd birthday the biological dad disappeared and hasn't had anything to do ...
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My 8-year-old daughter was bullied at school. What should I do and advise her to do?

My 8-year-old daughter is a soft and gentle girl. She hardly has any friends at school and most of the time plays with no one at break time. Yesterday a guy in her class hit her, punched her and ...
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Backed into a corner with 9-year-old and tablet confiscation

My 9-year-old son spends as much time as he can get away with using his iPad (in this case watching Youtube videos). His iPad is also required for school. This evening, after giving him ample warning ...
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Why is my eight year old daughter trying to hurt my feelings - and how should I respond?

I am the father of two children - an eight year old daughter and a four year old son. I have been very close to them, in that they both play,share and trust me. Both also have special activities ...
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A boy at school told my 8-year-old daugther she had fat thighs. How to boost her self-esteem and make her eat healthier?

My 8-year-old daughter is very quiet and isolated at school. She has almost no friends. Besides, she doesn't like sports at all. Yesterday she told us that one of the boys at school told her she has ...
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My 8-year-old daughter soils her pants daily. What can I do?

My 8-year-old daughter is soiling her pants daily and couldn't care less about the whole situation with I am just about out of patience. She is collected daily from school with soiled pants and has ...
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What to do about my future wife's 8-year-old son who does what he wants with no regard for anyone else?

I have a son and getting married with the mother of three children in a few weeks. She has an 8-year-old son, whom this question is about, and an older son and a younger daughter. All is well with ...
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How to instill sensitivity in kids?

I am new to the site and don't know if this question exactly falls into the domain of this site. We have a group of volunteers in our university who go to a school in a nearby village to teach. Some ...
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Can a “magic answer box” backfire? Is it ok?

I’m a fresh father (4 months old daughter) and I’m sometimes visualising the future. I was thinking of implementing a system for when she’ll be a little older (7+ years old) in which: she posts a ...
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My 8-year-old son is still soiling and wetting himself. Please help!

My 8-year-old son has been wetting and soiling himself for a long time now. We have been referred to hospital specialist nurses who are helping retrain his bladder. This was over 18 months ago and we ...
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Talk about a weird music video from YT to an 9 yrs old

Son. Dad, have you seen the latest K.P's NSFW video? It is totally funny! Dad [looked up wrong edition, puzzled]. Hm, do you mean that head on the plate ? Son. No, rather how she eats that ...
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Is “slapping a badly-behaved child” against the law in US? [closed]

I heard a violent argument between a mother and her child. Obviously it was the child's mistake and he said something really really bad that must have hurt mother's feelings. His words made ...
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What to do about our 8-year-old boy getting in trouble at his new school after having been taken away from his mom?

Our 8-year-old boy is now living with us, taken away from his mom due to abuse and now living with his dad, new home and new school. He spent his first 7 years with his mom and dad had weekend visits ...
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What are some healthy ways to control the speech of a child when parents are absent?

In Pakistan, according to Wikipedia, there are blasphemy laws which can even result in death. In the USA, where I am, we have a constitutional right of free speech, which does extend to children (all ...
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How can I help my children who just found out my wife left us?

My wife and I have been married for coming up close to 14 years now. We have 3 children, aged 12, 9 and 5. Recently, she started seeing another man and called it quits on me and the kids. She moved ...
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How to make a 10-year-old stop keeping phlegm in her mouth and playing with it?

We have a 10-year-old daughter. She occasionally keeps phlegm in her mouth and plays with it. Sometimes, I see her blowing bubbles with her phlegm or taking it out and sucking it back in. It's really ...
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How to remain unaffected by my 10-year-old son's angry outbursts?

My son is ten years old now and I feel that over the past year or so he has become increasingly irritable and prone to angry outbursts. He is easily frustrated by the smallest things and tears up and ...
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What to do when a child gets angry while trying to lead a group?

On a children's camp we have a group of 4 boys (around 12 years old) with no appointed leader. One of the boys is naturally trying to lead the others, but they are lazy, so it's not easy for him. The ...
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How to help my antagonistic 10-year-old learn necessary skills when he doesn't want to participate in any classes?

My 10-year-old son is in grade four. He doesn't like to participate in any classes. To him doing practice sounds unnecessary and boring and he likes to have all skills on his own. He is active and he ...
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How to cope with my guilt about the way I punished my child?

My 9-year-old child is afraid of swimming, although he is good at parts of it. In just 6-7 days, he is now able to float and can swim a half of the length of the pool. But he doesn't go into the pool ...
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Separated parents. As a dad, how do I exercise tough love without being the bad guy?

I am a father to a nine year old boy, I am separated from his mother and have been since before his birth. We don't really get on but we are civil for his sake and communicate maturely as and when it ...