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Questions tagged [middle-childhood]

Age specific questions from about 8 years to about 11 years. Younger: primary-schooler. Older: pre-teen.

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How to help my wife's 9-year-old boy who has an unnatural attachment to his mother figures and lacked a father figure?

We are a blended family, between us we have 4 kids. Our 9-year-old boy was 4 when his dad left and I believe that this has presented him with a couple of challenges. Firstly, he appears to be stuck ...
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What do I do to get my daughter interested in presenting her science experiments at the science competition(fair)?

In my state we get the primary school aged kids (8-12) to enter a State Science competition. (In other states and countries - the equivalent may be a school science fair.) My daughter (9) has some ...
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How can I introduce discipline into my 8-year-old daughter's life? [closed]

I have an 8-year-old daughter and I have had some past issues with kids and feel a lot of guilt. So I really find it hard to believe that strict. But now it has got a little bit of control. She back ...
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Why is my 9-year-old making up new illnesses/injuries every day?

My 9-year-old daughter is a sweet, talkative little girl who has a tendency to exaggerate things, but within the past two years her claims of different illnesses and injuries have steadily increased ...
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How much self control can an 8-year-old be expected to show under physical and psychological provocation?

How much self control can an 8-year-old be expected to show under physical and psychological provocation. I separated from my ex wife about 4 years ago. My son has been living with her for around the ...
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Framework for letting 9yo get access without hard time limits

My 9-year-old is in this situation concerning media: She has limited access to a family PC (restricted account with a time limit of X minutes per day). She uses that for Youtube and Minecraft. She ...
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How do I explain racial slurs to a 10-year-old?

I've got a 10-year-old daughter. She gets very good grades in school (sometimes even A+, rarely Bs). She already has quite a healthy knowledge of sexual education (the Birds and The Bees). She came ...
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Supporting pubescent daughter's curiousity about “normal bodies”

Along with others in her peer group she has begun developing breasts and today asked if she could see her grandmother's breasts to contrast them to her mother's. This seems like quite normal curiosity ...
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How to choose a psychologist to do a psychoeducational assessment?

I am trying to choose a psychologist to do a psychoeducational assessment of an 8 year old with no diagnosis but with attention issues. I have received a dozen or so glowing recommendations from ...
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Ten year old is lying and seems to believe her own lies

My ten-year-old stepdaughter has recently developed a habit of telling bold-faced lies to avoid getting in trouble/having to do something she does not want to. How do we respond to this? Some ...
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Friend kid problem

My friend and I have been friends for about 9 years. She has a son who has severe ADHD and my daughter is 5 and she has mild autism. When my friend is around with her son, her son is very ...
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How to answer child's hard questions

I have recently found myself facing my sweet 9-year old cousin, who looked at me with those big naive eyes, and knowing me as the geeky aunt who knows everything, asked "why did the Germans do this to ...
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How to make my 7- and 10-year-old nephews eat more healthily?

I am a single gay man and earlier this year I moved in with my disabled parents to help them care for my Nephews (7 and 10). I have been very active in their lives and was always aware of their eating ...
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How to help child with autism (Asperger's) through, and prevent meltdowns

My ex wife and I live 2000 miles away from each other. The children are with her. We have been separated for over seven years, divorce will be finalized in the upcoming months. My eldest has ...
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My 9-year-old daughter is a wallflower around friends. How do I help her?

My daughter is almost 9 and entering the 3rd grade. She has a lot of friends at school from being in sports and girl scouts. However, when we see them at a public place our daughter pretends she ...
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How do I tell my 9-year-old son that my now ex husband is not his biological dad?

I'm in a situation where I became pregnant with the wrong person and decided to raise my child by myself. Since before his 3rd birthday the biological dad disappeared and hasn't had anything to do ...
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My 8-year-old daughter was bullied at school. What should I do and advise her to do?

My 8-year-old daughter is a soft and gentle girl. She hardly has any friends at school and most of the time plays with no one at break time. Yesterday a guy in her class hit her, punched her and ...
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Backed into a corner with 9-year-old and tablet confiscation

My 9-year-old son spends as much time as he can get away with using his iPad (in this case watching Youtube videos). His iPad is also required for school. This evening, after giving him ample warning ...
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Why is my eight year old daughter trying to hurt my feelings - and how should I respond?

I am the father of two children - an eight year old daughter and a four year old son. I have been very close to them, in that they both play,share and trust me. Both also have special activities ...
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A boy at school told my 8-year-old daugther she had fat thighs. How to boost her self-esteem and make her eat healthier?

My 8-year-old daughter is very quiet and isolated at school. She has almost no friends. Besides, she doesn't like sports at all. Yesterday she told us that one of the boys at school told her she has ...
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My 8-year-old daughter soils her pants daily. What can I do?

My 8-year-old daughter is soiling her pants daily and couldn't care less about the whole situation with I am just about out of patience. She is collected daily from school with soiled pants and has ...
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What to do about my future wife's 8-year-old son who does what he wants with no regard for anyone else?

I have a son and getting married with the mother of three children in a few weeks. She has an 8-year-old son, whom this question is about, and an older son and a younger daughter. All is well with ...
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How to instill sensitivity in kids?

I am new to the site and don't know if this question exactly falls into the domain of this site. We have a group of volunteers in our university who go to a school in a nearby village to teach. Some ...
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Can a “magic answer box” backfire? Is it ok?

I’m a fresh father (4 months old daughter) and I’m sometimes visualising the future. I was thinking of implementing a system for when she’ll be a little older (7+ years old) in which: she posts a ...
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My 8-year-old son is still soiling and wetting himself. Please help!

My 8-year-old son has been wetting and soiling himself for a long time now. We have been referred to hospital specialist nurses who are helping retrain his bladder. This was over 18 months ago and we ...
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Talk about a weird music video from YT to an 9 yrs old

Son. Dad, have you seen the latest K.P's NSFW video? It is totally funny! Dad [looked up wrong edition, puzzled]. Hm, do you mean that head on the plate ? Son. No, rather how she eats that ...
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What to do about our 8-year-old boy getting in trouble at his new school after having been taken away from his mom?

Our 8-year-old boy is now living with us, taken away from his mom due to abuse and now living with his dad, new home and new school. He spent his first 7 years with his mom and dad had weekend visits ...
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What are some healthy ways to control the speech of a child when parents are absent?

In Pakistan, according to Wikipedia, there are blasphemy laws which can even result in death. In the USA, where I am, we have a constitutional right of free speech, which does extend to children (all ...
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How to make a 10-year-old stop keeping phlegm in her mouth and playing with it?

We have a 10-year-old daughter. She occasionally keeps phlegm in her mouth and plays with it. Sometimes, I see her blowing bubbles with her phlegm or taking it out and sucking it back in. It's really ...
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How to remain unaffected by my son's emotions?

My son is ten years old now and I feel that over the past year or so he has become increasingly irritable and prone to angry outbursts. He is easily frustrated by the smallest things and tears up and ...
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What to do when a child gets angry while trying to lead a group?

On a children's camp we have a group of 4 boys (around 12 years old) with no appointed leader. One of the boys is naturally trying to lead the others, but they are lazy, so it's not easy for him. The ...
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what should I do with my ten years old antagonistic son who doesn't want to participate in any classes?

My grade four son doesn't like to participate in any classes. Doing practice for him sounds unnecessary and boring and he likes to have all skills on his own. He is active and he loves to dance and ...
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Separated parents. As a dad, how do I exercise tough love without being the bad guy?

I am a father to a nine year old boy, I am separated from his mother and have been since before his birth. We don't really get on but we are civil for his sake and communicate maturely as and when it ...
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How to make my 8-year-old son repay for a broken item?

My eight-year-old son mistreated an iPad and broke a screen protector. It was an accident but very easily preventable. Had the impact been much worse, it would have been ruined. The way I was raised -...
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My kid slops through her chores or takes forever to do it. I've tried everything

My 10-year-old daughter has a problem with doing her chores correctly in a timely manner. For instance, she's famous for taking 3 hours to wash the dishes. She wants to go outside and play or get on ...
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Should children decide with which parent to stay after friendly divorce [closed]

In case of a friendly divorce, should the children (say 8 year old) be able to choose with which parent to mainly live or should this decision mainly rest with the parents?
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A stranger's child throws a piece of garbage onto the ground, out of sight of their parents. Should I say or do anything?

I am a male childless adult living in England. I rarely interact with children. Last weekend, I observed how a boy (perhaps 8 years old) threw a piece of garbage onto the ground, despite being ...
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How to deal with two 10- and 12-year-old brothers fighting?

I am a father of 10- and 12-year-old boys. Both used to play happily and regularly and fought on occasions. The younger boy used to complain about his older brother with some deep cries and proof of ...
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How to help a bullied child (without involving parents or teachers)

A nine year old boy is often the brunt of the jokes of his "friends". The boy is cooperative, kind, and unaggressive and unable to counter the other kids teaming up to play their jokes on him. The ...
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How do I get my 8-year-old, who was diagnosed with ADHD, to be respectful and do her chores?

I have an integrated family and I have 3 children in total: My husband's 14-year-old daughter, my 8-year-old daughter and our 5-month-old son. My 8-year-old has ADHD which I'm having difficulty with ...
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How to encourage 9 year old to stop whining and independently practice their math?

I live with my 9 year old cousin who dislikes and has been doing poorly in math. (New Canadian education system likes to have "no homework" because apparently this will be good and reduce stress in ...
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9-year-old received tablet as gift, but he does not have the self-control or maturity to own a tablet

Summary: Upon receiving the tablet, his first course of action was to install a game. For various reasons, I believe that he has proven himself to be irresponsible with such devices, and it would be ...
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Couple separated 18 months ago (irremediably), sharing custody of two children. Good or bad idea to share weekend experience together with the kids?

My brother and his ex-wife separated a year and a half ago. They are both over it and would never get back together. They have a 12-year-old girl and a 10-year-old boy whose custody they've shared ...
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10 year old avoiding school as parent criticises and changes school texts

My 10 year old grandson has been avoiding school because his father (my son) doesn't support some material in schoolbooks which he believes is political, not information. My grandson is embarrassed ...
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How to help my 8-year-old who has selective mutism and doesn't say a word at school?

My 8-year-old has selective mutism. She is very talkative at home, but when it comes to school she will not say a word. She went the whole school year without her teacher hearing her voice. When I go ...
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How to tell parents of guests that we had a loud fight during a sleepover?

My 9-year-old daughter had a few friends sleep over. My husband and I got into an argument in our room after we sent everyone to bed. He lost control and got really loud. He started slamming doors ...
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How to handle a 10 year-old's scary imaginings?

Our daughter has always been easily frightened, but a few days ago she "saw a face" in a bundle of blankets (in the middle of the day in a well-lit room) and became so scared that she couldn't bring ...
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Almost 9 year old regularly seeking attention

My boyfriend's 8-will-be-9-in-a-month daughter is with us for the summer. Her mom lives many states away so summer is dad/daughter time while mom has her for the school year. I am having troubles ...
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Getting things done - balancing directives vs. autonomy (elementary school age)

I'm the father of a 9 year old boy, who, while in the top tier regarding intelligence and grades, has a serious problem of 'getting things done'. Simple things. The issue does not occur at school ...
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How to help a 9-year-old boy learn to handle losing at games/sports?

Our 9-year-old son can really go ballistic upon losing at games — tears of rage, calling family members liars and/or cheats, etc. very intense. As far as we know, he doesn't really do this with his ...