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Age specific questions from about 8 years to about 11 years. Younger: primary-schooler. Older: pre-teen.

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How to help child with autism (Asperger's) through, and prevent meltdowns

My ex wife and I live 2000 miles away from each other. The children are with her. We have been separated for over seven years, divorce will be finalized in the upcoming months. My eldest has ...
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My 9-year-old daughter is a wallflower around friends. How do I help her?

My daughter is almost 9 and entering the 3rd grade. She has a lot of friends at school from being in sports and girl scouts. However, when we see them at a public place our daughter pretends she ...
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How do I tell my 9-year-old son that my now ex husband is not his biological dad?

I'm in a situation where I became pregnant with the wrong person and decided to raise my child by myself. Since before his 3rd birthday the biological dad disappeared and hasn't had anything to do ...
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My 8-year-old daughter was bullied at school. What should I do and advise her to do?

My 8-year-old daughter is a soft and gentle girl. She hardly has any friends at school and most of the time plays with no one at break time. Yesterday a guy in her class hit her, punched her and ...
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Backed into a corner with 9-year-old and tablet confiscation

My 9-year-old son spends as much time as he can get away with using his iPad (in this case watching Youtube videos). His iPad is also required for school. This evening, after giving him ample warning ...
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Why is my eight year old daughter trying to hurt my feelings - and how should I respond?

I am the father of two children - an eight year old daughter and a four year old son. I have been very close to them, in that they both play,share and trust me. Both also have special activities ...
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A boy at school told my 8-year-old daugther she had fat thighs. How to boost her self-esteem and make her eat healthier?

My 8-year-old daughter is very quiet and isolated at school. She has almost no friends. Besides, she doesn't like sports at all. Yesterday she told us that one of the boys at school told her she has ...
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What to do about my future wife's 8-year-old son who does what he wants with no regard for anyone else?

I have a son and getting married with the mother of three children in a few weeks. She has an 8-year-old son, whom this question is about, and an older son and a younger daughter. All is well with ...
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How to instill sensitivity in kids?

I am new to the site and don't know if this question exactly falls into the domain of this site. We have a group of volunteers in our university who go to a school in a nearby village to teach. Some ...
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Talk about a weird music video from YT to an 9 yrs old

Son. Dad, have you seen the latest K.P's NSFW video? It is totally funny! Dad [looked up wrong edition, puzzled]. Hm, do you mean that head on the plate ? Son. No, rather how she eats that ...
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What are some healthy ways to control the speech of a child when parents are absent?

In Pakistan, according to Wikipedia, there are blasphemy laws which can even result in death. In the USA, where I am, we have a constitutional right of free speech, which does extend to children (all ...
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How to remain unaffected by my son's emotions?

My son is ten years old now and I feel that over the past year or so he has become increasingly irritable and prone to angry outbursts. He is easily frustrated by the smallest things and tears up and ...
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What to do when a child gets angry while trying to lead a group?

On a children's camp we have a group of 4 boys (around 12 years old) with no appointed leader. One of the boys is naturally trying to lead the others, but they are lazy, so it's not easy for him. The ...
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what should I do with my ten years old antagonistic son who doesn't want to participate in any classes?

My grade four son doesn't like to participate in any classes. Doing practice for him sounds unnecessary and boring and he likes to have all skills on his own. He is active and he loves to dance and ...
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Separated parents. As a dad, how do I exercise tough love without being the bad guy?

I am a father to a nine year old boy, I am separated from his mother and have been since before his birth. We don't really get on but we are civil for his sake and communicate maturely as and when it ...
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How to make my 8-year-old son repay for a broken item?

My eight-year-old son mistreated an iPad and broke a screen protector. It was an accident but very easily preventable. Had the impact been much worse, it would have been ruined. The way I was raised -...
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A stranger's child throws a piece of garbage onto the ground, out of sight of their parents. Should I say or do anything?

I am a male childless adult living in England. I rarely interact with children. Last weekend, I observed how a boy (perhaps 8 years old) threw a piece of garbage onto the ground, despite being ...
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How to help a bullied child (without involving parents or teachers)

A nine year old boy is often the brunt of the jokes of his "friends". The boy is cooperative, kind, and unaggressive and unable to counter the other kids teaming up to play their jokes on him. The ...
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How do I get my 8-year-old, who was diagnosed with ADHD, to be respectful and do her chores?

I have an integrated family and I have 3 children in total: My husband's 14-year-old daughter, my 8-year-old daughter and our 5-month-old son. My 8-year-old has ADHD which I'm having difficulty with ...
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How to encourage 9 year old to stop whining and independently practice their math?

I live with my 9 year old cousin who dislikes and has been doing poorly in math. (New Canadian education system likes to have "no homework" because apparently this will be good and reduce stress in ...
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Couple separated 18 months ago (irremediably), sharing custody of two children. Good or bad idea to share weekend experience together with the kids?

My brother and his ex-wife separated a year and a half ago. They are both over it and would never get back together. They have a 12-year-old girl and a 10-year-old boy whose custody they've shared ...
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10 year old avoiding school as parent criticises and changes school texts

My 10 year old grandson has been avoiding school because his father (my son) doesn't support some material in schoolbooks which he believes is political, not information. My grandson is embarrassed ...
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How to help my 8-year-old who has selective mutism and doesn't say a word at school?

My 8-year-old has selective mutism. She is very talkative at home, but when it comes to school she will not say a word. She went the whole school year without her teacher hearing her voice. When I go ...
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How to tell parents of guests that we had a loud fight during a sleepover?

My 9-year-old daughter had a few friends sleep over. My husband and I got into an argument in our room after we sent everyone to bed. He lost control and got really loud. He started slamming doors ...
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How to handle a 10 year-old's scary imaginings?

Our daughter has always been easily frightened, but a few days ago she "saw a face" in a bundle of blankets (in the middle of the day in a well-lit room) and became so scared that she couldn't bring ...
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Almost 9 year old regularly seeking attention

My boyfriend's 8-will-be-9-in-a-month daughter is with us for the summer. Her mom lives many states away so summer is dad/daughter time while mom has her for the school year. I am having troubles ...
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Getting things done - balancing directives vs. autonomy (elementary school age)

I'm the father of a 9 year old boy, who, while in the top tier regarding intelligence and grades, has a serious problem of 'getting things done'. Simple things. The issue does not occur at school ...
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How to help a 9-year-old boy learn to handle losing at games/sports?

Our 9-year-old son can really go ballistic upon losing at games — tears of rage, calling family members liars and/or cheats, etc. very intense. As far as we know, he doesn't really do this with his ...
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Should I worry About My 10yo Nephew's Interest in Violence?

I have a 10yo nephew who is obsessed with violence. It's all he talks about. He asks me and my father things like; If I had a gun and you had a knife, could you kill me? If I start doing ...
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9 years old starting at an international school but doesn't speak English

We are moving to Lavia soon and our 9 year old son will be going to an International School, but he doesn't speak English at all. He already speaks two languages (Italian and Portuguese). Do you think ...
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When is the right time to tell my daughter she's not my biological child?

To try to keep the story short... I got divorced almost 4 yrs ago and I have a 11, 12 & 15 yr old. Now I had my suspicions, but I guess I wanted to look the other way and not find out whether it ...
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How to stop my 8 year old son from doubting and/or speaking against the existence of God? [closed]

I am a Muslim, and so is my husband. Our 8 year old son is refusing to learn how to offer namaz and does not offer prayers either, and in his school, he has been slapped and beaten by teachers for ...
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How do I get an 11-year-old to engage in active language comprehension?

Apologies for the vague title, but I wasn't sure how exactly to put the situation. My 11-year-old sister refuses to read properly. (I am out of the house, but my parents discuss the problem with me ...
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What is a suitable bedtime and sleep pattern for an 8 year old?

What is a suitable bedtime and sleep pattern for an 8yr old? My 8yr old Gabrielle goes to bed at half 7 but can read or watch for an hour which means she goes to sleep at around half 8. In the ...
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When do kids stop holding their parent's hand?

At what age do kids stop holding their parent's hands? My 8 year old daughter ALWAYS holds my hand whilst outside. I don't mind, but my partner and older daughter (16) thinks she is too old to be ...
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11-year old having recurring nightmares about killing people she knows. Should I be worried?

She says it's like she's a different person in her dreams, cruel and almost sociopath, and the people she loves in real life are out to get her, and to escape she has to kill all of them (and ...
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Six and nine-year-olds will not stop having accidents

I have two boys, just turned six and nine. While occasional #1 accidents are not that uncommon in Kindergarten, both of my boys started off their Kindergarten years with lots of them, including #2 ...
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My 3-year-old-son and his 4-year-old and 8-year-old cousins: He hits the younger and gets picked on by the older one. How to deal with that?

My 3-year-old son is hitting his 4-year-old female cousin. He is bigger than her. I am constantly on him, I have tried time outs, I always make him apologize and give her a hug, which he loves doing ...
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What approaches can I use with an 9 year old that bed-wets and is a heavy sleeper?

Our 9 year old son still bed-wets. The problem is that he is an extremely heavy sleeper; when he needs to pee, he does NOT wake up - even manually trying to wake him up (either to try and pee ...
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What are the pros and cons of having an advanced student skip a mid-elementary grade?

At the end of third grade, our daughter's teacher approached us (and our school's principal) and suggested that with her test scores (high-school level) and level academic mastery, we should put her ...
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How can I help a ten year old girl not to be frightened of feeling sick?

My daughter was quite recently ill with a virus, which caused vomiting and lengthy periods of feeling very sick. This seems to have made her frightened of the sickness feelings. Now when she has a ...
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9 year old crying?

9 year old cries every time she is dropped off at school because she wants to be with her daddy and has a strange feeling about leaving him. She doesn't want to go to school at all because she will be ...
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8 year-old girl very keen on her uncle and not on her aunt, a matter of age?

My wife is the "godmother" of a nice 8 year old girl (her sister's single child). As her husband, she has become increasingly interested in me lately (I'd say since about a year of two maybe), to the ...
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How should screen time be treated to balance the pro of education resources on the internet and con of decreased involvement in other activities?

Screen time is a tricky subject. Around middle school age there are very good uses of technology that emerge where can child can develop healthy hobbies fueled by self-motivation (which may later turn ...
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At what age is it best to teach a child mathematics? At what pace? [closed]

At what age should mathematical / logical concepts be introduced to a child? I feel that parents should be held more responsible even than schools in the educational process.
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What can we do to get my cousin's 8-year-old to behave, instead of destroying things and blaming others?

My cousin's 8-year-old son seems to be one of the worst kids I know. We have tried so many different angles of punishment and tried to compromise... First to start with, he likes to get into things. ...
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When disciplining that used to work no longer works for a middle childhood boy and q preschooler girl

My wife and I are two working parents so most of the discipline happens on week nights or weekends. When our boy or girl was acting out the consequences were usually one of these: Take away something ...
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How should I help my 9years old son to get back on TAG program

My 10-year-old boy loves to play a lot. Although he is smart and was in the TAG (Talented and Gifted) program, I have now discovered that the play is getting over him and distracting him. He is no ...
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Explaining to young children that a parent needs some “me time”

How can parents explain to young children that this is not rejection, nor lack of love? It is just that parents sometimes need time off, alone, without being contacted through any means.
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What are the effects of teacher job share on pupil attainment?

What are the effects of teacher job share on pupil attainment, at UK primary school level (age approx 4 to 11)? In the UK, most pupils have a single teacher for all subjects at this age (rather than ...