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Questions tagged [manners]

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How to convince a 4-year old child that professional cyclists are not littering during a race?

We were watching a Cycling Tour on TV yesterday and my 4.5-year old son saw that after having drinks or chocolates those cyclists were throwing the empty bottles/wrappers on the roadside. I ...
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Is asking a child to count to 10 when they don't say please OK?

I'm rather pleased with my latest attempt to remind my 4 year old to ask for things nicely - if she asks/demands something without saying "please" then I ask her to count to 10 and ask again. It ...
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How should I teach my child to help but also do things on her own?

The other day I asked my child "Can you give me a napkin?" and she said "o self" which means "you do it yourself"! At first I was shocked, and ashamed that she has perhaps learned it from me and my ...
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Vacationing with Grandparents

My wife and I sometimes get offers from her parents or mine to take our family on vacation (examples: a cruise, or summer family camp). We have two kids, 10 and 8. The issue is that our parents tend ...
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Parents salt food too much

When it comes to food, my parents like to salt it a lot more than I do. Besides tasting bad (in my opinion, at least), the salt amount is unhealty and, according to my calculations, about twice the 5 ...
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Can admonishing hinder a child's mental growth?

I recently got into a heated argument with my sister over her not admonishing her 5 year old son. Sometimes he does things that really need a firm warning. For example, doing things that might cause ...
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A religious teacher slapped my son twice for refuting God, what should I do? [closed]

First, I am an atheist and so is my husband, and our 8 year old son is taught religion in a school since it is mandatory for all students, we didn't object because we thought that we could tell him ...
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Teaching a toddler to say “sorry” and mean it

What's the best way to teach a child to say "sorry" and mean it without just creating a mimic? I don't truly believe that simply forcing a child to say they are sorry for hitting another kid or taking ...
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Teaching manners to a toddler

I have a 19mo daughter who spends ~30hrs/week with a nanny. She "teaches" her to say "please" by forcing her to say it and withholding a wanted item until she does. And forces a "thank you" afterward. ...
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How to handle my spoiled 20-year-old step-granddaughter and her enabling mother?

My 20-year-old step-granddaughter's father left when she was nine and my husband and I have been there for both of them before, during and after all of their crises, so perhaps I feel more like we are ...
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How do you handle the boomerang effect with Teens?

15 year old teen boy in question. Generally good kid but minor annoyances here and there coming & going without saying hello (sometimes). missing please/thank you (sometimes). speaking ...
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Teaching the details of etiquette and table manners

There's a range of good behaviors that I classify as "table manners." These range from pretty basic (don't throw food) to general politeness (use your fork and spoon, napkin on lap) to moderately ...
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How can we teach my preschooler to not interrupt?

My three-and-a-half year old son talks constantly. Its pretty much a non-stop monolog from the time he wakes up until the time he falls asleep. We're okay with this, and try not to discourage his ...
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Teaching my 10 year old son appropriate bathroom manners

My 10 year old son has ADHD. He has some severe issues with focus and memory. We've tried various things to help him focus and remember but they all seem to arbitrarily stick or fail. For now he ...
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What's the best way to respond when parents have kids put a helmet on a kid's head in a way that doesn't help that much?

There are a couple of things that people are told in relation to bike helmets. I am concerned with the third. The first is that everyone should wear a helmet whenever riding a bicycle (not: kids have ...
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How much should a caretaker push for mannered greetings and farewells from a pre-schooler?

I care for a three-year-old child that is generally very well mannered and a joy to care for. He takes after his dad in his morning attitude though (both of them need a little time to "wake-up" even ...
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How should I deal with a child who intrudes on adult conversations?

The 4 year old will often engage herself in adult (age not content) conversations. While it doesn't specifically bother us, we actually find it amusing, it could pose a problem when dealing with ...