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My 11-year-old daughter still asks me to zip her jacket

My daughter is now 11 years old, but still asks me to zip her jacket. This really worries me because she can do it herself and is otherwise independent. She even asks me when her friends are around. ...
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How to engage my 4-year-old daughter to do something by her own?

My daughter is 4 years old. She wants to keep playing all the time and in her way only. She avoids to play cricket, basketball, or puzzles where you can lose or you need to think in order to win. She ...
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My 17-year-old daughter gets excellent grades but shows little interest in socializing or getting a job

My 17 year old does outstanding academic work in high school. She ranks #3 or #4 out of 160 students. She sings in school and church choirs and has taken part in game-show type activities at the ...
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How do I get my parents to let me vacation by myself?

I'm planning to take a vacation next month. Since I started planning for it, my parents have continually expressed doubt and concern and generally interfered in the plans. They want to know where and ...
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How should I teach my child to help but also do things on her own?

The other day I asked my child "Can you give me a napkin?" and she said "o self" which means "you do it yourself"! At first I was shocked, and ashamed that she has perhaps learned it from me and my ...
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How to get my child to play alone?

Our 3 year old daughter doesn't want to play alone. Every hour of the day she wants someone to interact with her. It doesn't have to be games, she also likes to help in the kitchen and other ...
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Parents frequently get mad at my life choices

I’m 26 and I find both of my parents get mad at me for very bad reasons. For example, I was visiting my mom. In a mad tone she told me to stop playing a game on my phone. Just realizing it now, I find ...
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What to do about my 2-year-old crying out loud at the noise made from a toy and is it too early to teach him to be independent?

I have a son who is 2 years and 4 months old, and a 4-month-old infant. It came to our attention that the toddler was scared of the sound from a toy, such as an electronic toy car beeping or flashing ...
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How to console a baby who prefers to cry alone?

I might be over worrying this issue but I have realized whenever anything say like he hurts himself- not bad just during playtime and he starts crying, instead of coming to me for comfort or ...
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When do the sense of independence kick in, in toddler's?

I don't know if babies should start having a sense of independence this early (unless if I'm confusing it with being stubborn ), my boy 17 months now; doesn't want to be assisted when he gets stuck in ...
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How do I get my 7 year old to learn their spelling words independently?

My child's school has a spelling words practice method called "look, cover, say, write see" - which is a list of words the kids say, sound out and practice their spelling with each day. The test ...
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Staying focused getting ready for school

We have three kids (a 9, 4 and 3 year old) and our middle child is severely disabled. My wife has some commuting challenges in the morning and thus has limited availability at the critical time and ...
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Want to be Fair / Equal but Still Realistic with Bedwetting Pre-Teens and Social Issues

I have two step-kids. Boy age 11, girl age 10. They both have bladder issues where they still wet their beds almost every night. The boy is a fairly gregarious outgoing personality who doesn't really ...
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When are kids old enough to have a horse

So I am thinking about getting this kid a horse. But I am not sure if they are really ready to have a horse and ride it. He talks sometimes that he wants a horse and I can get him a horse, but when ...
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What is the reasoning behind encouraging your child not to be a 'tattle-tale'?

I heard a friend say: I encourage my child not to be a tattle tale - but encourage them to work the situation out for themselves Several other parents in the context nodded agreement. I had ...
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At what age should you allow your kids to go out alone?

Whether its to visit a friend who lives a few streets away, or going to the park by themselves, or going to the local shop, at what age do you allow your kids to go out by themselves? And what rules ...
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Encouraging independence

My seven year-old son is highly dependent on us to tell him what to do. We had thought it was an age thing, but his little sister already grew out of it. How can we help him be more independent? An ...
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What factors should I consider when deciding to let children fly unaccompanied?

Some family members have invited my two older kids to visit for a week next summer. The plan is that the children would fly there, and then we (and the youngest sibling) would drive up a week later to ...
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Help - taken legal guardianship of 16 yr old sister who is moving in but already staying over with boys etc

She's getting in very deep very quickly with a boy who has been in social care a fair bit over his life and has anger management issues, she's not even fully part of our household yet. Please help (...
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My 9 year feels I publicly embarrass him

I understand my 9 year old is at the age where children are beginning to assert their independence and are about to begin cutting the apron strings. From my experience with his big brother, I ...
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The rules at a friend's house are a lot more lax than at mine - how do I enforce basic safety?

A couple of kids recently moved into the neighborhood and they are great kids that my daughter is having a really good time with. Rules at their house are pretty lax - they can go all over the ...
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How to deal with a family that is separated

I am a 23 year old male, my father is working in Town B (for about 2 years now) and he tries to come home every weekend (Friday night - Sunday night), so it's just me and my mother at Town A during ...
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Encouraging my 2-year-old to play independently

My little boy is 2½, and has never been very good at playing by himself. When we take him to play-groups he won't ever go more than a few feet away from us at any time; At a party last week, he ...
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At what age or developmental milestones is it safe to leave children unattended?

I'm curious what kind of criteria others are using to decide when a child can be left at home unattended for a period of time. I realize that the answer is going to depend on a few factors: The child'...
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How can I help my child learn to learn better?

I'm looking for strategies to improve my child's learning skills. I want my child to be a life-long learner -- to pick up new things easily, and to learn even when not being given formal instruction (...
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How can a much older brother gain recognition for being a de-facto father?

I'm 26 years old and live with my mother who is a single mother. She adopted two children as newborns who are now 5 years old. My mom has recently started working outside the home so now I even get ...
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What are guidelines for parents to use in giving advice/guidance to older teens?

My friend asked me for guidance regarding her son, so I am passing the question on. Her very talented son is a senior in high school. Since it is his last year at home, he feels that he no longer ...
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Is (supervised) play time alone beneficial for an infant/toddler?

My son (currently 8 months old) is quite content to sit by himself and play with toys (blocks, toy cars, etc.). We make sure that he spends time interacting with other children, and we also make sure ...
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How do you teach a child to call for help?

We have a relatively large house. Our kids are always in earshot, but not usually in sight. The problem with this is our 4 year-old son doesn't know how to call out for help appropriately. On the ...
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How closely should a parent be tied to their child's education?

I know that some kids are relatively self-motivated; I want to be supportive without smothering such a child. I know that some kids have very little motivation; I want to be able to encourage such a ...
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When should kids be allowed to walk/bike to school alone?

My 9-year-old is asking to bike to school without adults. He is generally responsible. So far I have said he needs to find a friend to go with him. What can children do to convince their parents ...
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When do you encourage your children to move out?

I recently met a guy, age 40, still living with his parents. In the gossip circuit this was considered inappropriate. But is it really? And if so, when does sharing a household with your grownup ...