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Child interest in how movie types have changed over time

My father recently retired. Being a cinephile, he has a large collection of old film reels and has now come up with a project he wants to involve my son in: sorting and cleaning out the reels. This ...
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Why is that my oldest daughter doesn’t want to give us grandchildren? [closed]

I have three daughters with my wife. I want a grandchild from my oldest daughter. I have grandchildren from my youngest two. We want a grandchild, whether a boy or girl from her. She said no. What ...
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Is it normal for kids to act up around grandparents

My mother-in-law has been staying with us for the past couple of days. My 2-year-old loves when she comes because she’s fun and she brings lots of candy and sugar. Everything has been fine up until ...
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(How) do you explain a 3 year-old that he has to stay at his grand-ma for longer than anticipated?

My 3 year-old has been with his maternal grand-parents for a week, as was planned for a long while. His mom and I were supposed to pick him up today, but we both tested positive for Covid this morning....
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How do I be a Grandad when I'm still being (and learning to be) a Dad?

I'm 42. Had my first son when I was 22 during a short relationship. Met and married my wife and had my second son at 38. He is now 4. My first son is 19 and will become a Dad in a few months. He lives ...
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Grandmother keeps calling my daughter "Good girl"

My mother keeps calling my 9 month old daughter "Good girl" when she does something that pleases her. I was initially fine with this, having had it in my own upbringing, but my wife pointed ...
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Where to turn for help when my 12-year-old granddaughter keeps hitting her 10-year-old sister?

I have two granddaughters, one turns 12 in August, the other is 10 years old and is small for her age (she was a prem baby). Her parents are divorced since the older child was 5 and the dad has a new ...
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What to do about a 6 year old who knows when to go to the bathroom but still doesn't?

My 6 year old granddaughter is a smart child and knows when she needs to go the bathroom. She just does not care if she goes in her undies or pants. We have tried everything with her. Tried to give ...
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How to encourage video chatting with family?

During this social distancing and lockdown situation, we have all been going through, we haven't been able to connect with loved ones which has been hard. It's been especially rough for my parents ...
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What names can a father-in-law use w former daughter-in-law after a divorce

I am planning for the future time (hopefully this year) when a nasty divorce that involves a child (my grandchild) is finalized. Over the past 5 years, my relationship with my daughter-in-law has ...
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How to get an 8+ month old acquainted with a grandparent after a rough start?

Our 8 month old son started being aware and wary of strangers since he turned 7 months old. We've discovered that the way to get friendly with him is to approach him slowly. Interact with him from ...
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My child said to my wifes face that he loves his grandmother (wifes mom) more than her, can you offer some advice how to deal with this?

My wife and I are feeling hurt, because my 5-year-old son said the other night that he loves his grandma (my wife's mom) more than my wife. He said this to her face. She has been in a very bad place ...
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Is it normal for a 3-year-old to always lay down when playing?

I have a 3-year-old grandson. It doesn't matter where he is, ice cold tile floor or on his bed, he lays down to play. I've read that in some children this can be a sign of a learning/sensory ...
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Small item for a grandparent to send via mail

My father-in-law enjoys sending small notes to my 5 year old son as a means of maintaining their connection. A few months ago he started sending one or two sheets of stickers as part of each envelope. ...
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How to prepare for a holiday with manipulative grandparents?

I’m trying to work out the best course of action here. Backstory: My father-in-law was, at one time, violent abusive and manipulative. My wife now keeps an arms-reach relationship with him on the ...
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Should we be concerned about our 2.5-year-old grandson suddenly stuttering?

My 2.5-year-old grandson came for visitation and he's very smart. He had a lump on his forehead and is stuttering. He always speaks in complete sentences. Like "May I have that cookie", or "Pop Pop ...
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How to make a 5-year-old follow instructions in kindergarten?

I have a 5-year-old granddaughter. She has only been in kindergarten for two weeks and has been in trouble three times for not following instructions. No walking in line without touching wall or ...
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How to tackle the screaming/tantrum of a 6-month-old boy?

My 6-month-old grandson wants to watch the the "VuVu" video while eating. So he starts to scream loudly and crazily, almost like e tantrum, just to watch that while eating. Any suggestions as to how ...
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Should I be worried about a 1-year-old getting excited and grabbing and scratching people's faces hard?

I'm grandmother of a 1-year-old boy. My son has ADHD and is home trying to get disability, so they let me take the baby every week and he usally stays about 3 days. I am trying everything that I ...
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How do I get a 2-year-old to calm down at night to go to bed by 8:30 or 9pm?

My 2-year-old granddaughter lives with me. For the last month she is so tired and is hard to get settled down. We tried lots of things to get her to calm down before bed. She used to go to bed at 8:30 ...
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How to get preschoolers to interact with me over the TV?

I'm a godfather/honorary uncle to a number of preschoolers. They get excited about my visits and mostly prefer to play with me. However, during my longer (8 hours to few days long) visits they will ...
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How to talk to my 4.5-year-old daughter about death? [duplicate]

My 95-year-old grandmother is about to pass away and I want to prepare my 4.5-year-old daughter who was supposed to visit her soon. Even though she lives far away, my daughter has visited her several ...
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How to help a 2 year old with a fear of airplanes?

My just-over-2 year old granddaughter is afraid of aircraft of all kinds passing overhead. No one knows why, and she isn't verbal enough to explain, though she is getting schooled in feeling words. ...
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How do I discipline a 14-year-old girl without pushing her away?

I have a 14-year-old sister who my grandmother and I are gaining custody of. I don't doubt my grandmother's ability to take care of and discipline my sister the way she should be, but she and I are ...
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Extended family not catering for baby's routine

We have a 15 month old child. He is the only sub 10 year-old in my side of the family. I recently got into a dispute with family, as they wanted us to arrive for a family occasion at a specific time, ...
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Why is my granddaughter screaming in the middle of the night like something is wrong but calms down in about 10-15 min? [duplicate]

My granddaughter wakes up around 1:30 every night screaming and tightening her body up like something is going on. This just started about a week ago. Could she be having a bad dream?
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How do you handle grandparents who spoil your children?

Our parents suddenly don't apply their rules in our upbringing to our children. On the contrary. How should we deal with this? Do we just let it be, or should we discuss the matter. I understand ...
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How to motivate a 3.5-year-old to use the potty when she knows how to, but is strongly opposed to it?

My god daughter is about 3.5 years old. She has demonstrated she is aware of when she needs to pee/poop and if naked will ask for a pullup to be put on just so she can use it. I believe if she ...
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At what age should a boy be able to clean up the toilet after himself?

I have a 6-year-old grandson who pees on the toilet, around the toilet and down the front of the toilet every single time he uses the bathroom. My daughter insists he is too young to clean the toilet. ...
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What to do about my 19-month-old grandson who doesn't talk or make eye contact?

My 19-month-old grandson is my son's and daughter-in-law's first and only child. He lives with me as do his parents. I see my grandbaby everyday. He had a severe regression after his 12 month ...
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Daughter is deciding to have a child with near-total stranger

I have a daughter who has made many, many bad choices in her life. At 26, she has already been in several failed relationships, got addicted to heroin, recovered (6 years now), moved in with a guy ...
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Grandparents want to raise my son but I want him back

My situation is a little tricky. Husband wanted a kid real bad and I wasn't ready, but I thought together we'd do amazing so I consented. Kid came into the world and husband hid in his videogames so I ...
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How to explain to a 9-year-old why a relative is not welcome

Very soon my mother's brother will be released from prison. He is a pedophile. He was caught, plead guilty, etc etc...he is not someone I'd want around any child, certainly not my own. My mother, ...
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How to break defiant cycle with time out?

My goddaughter is barely 3 years old and I visit and babysit her often, and have her mother's full permission to use time outs when I feel they are appropriate. She is usually pretty well behaved, ...
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Too many presents from Grandma - is this bad for my child?

I think that having a lot of things for your baby or kid like lots of toys or other distractions (iPad, presents, bad food with sugar) is not a good thing. This could create a behavior of only doing ...
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What to do about 6.5-year-old grandson out of control?

About 1 1/2 years ago my grandson started acting out. It has now become so bad and we need to get him under control. First off I will say that my grandson lives with his mother as his mother and ...
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How to remove electronics and shift sleep schedule of 6-year old?

I started taking care of my grandchild when she was still 7 months old. During her first day to 6 months old she was with her father and my daughter. Sadly, their relationship didn't last. Right now, ...
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Father now, earlier nursery versus grandparents now, later nursery?

Our son is 14 months old. Both the mother and I have in the last month entered full time education (I was in full time employment, she was on maternity leave). We are lucky to have my wife's parents ...
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How to handle 5-year-old granddaughter shouting "Get out" (of her room)?

If you walk into our 5-year-old granddaughter's room while she is playing with her dolls, she will tell you "I want time alone" and if you do not leave within several seconds she will look at you in a ...
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Should I babysit my step granddaughter?

I have been married for over 20 years and have been a stepparent for all of these years since my stepdaughter was just 3 years old. My husband's ex-wife despises my husband and myself and has always ...
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Is it safe to take a baby under 6 months old to an old folks home?

I'm having an argument with a relative who believes that it is actually dangerous to take my child to see their great-grandmother who is living in the nursing section of an old folks home. She's not ...
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My son calls my father in law Grandpa "nonno" (in italian) and his wife (step grandma) is telling my son to call him just Grandpa now not nonno

My son has always called his grandma (my mother-in-law) the Italian word for grandma, "nonna" and his grandpa "nonno", the Italian word for grandpa. Recently my son called his grandpa "nonno" in front ...
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Grandparent put a diaper on my toilet trained child

I was out for 5 hours and my mom put a pull-up on my 25 month old daughter who refused diapers at 19 months. She never used a pull-up before though she has 2 cloth trainers that are thick but they ...
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How can I ask my parents to help us by watching the grandkids on occasion?

Background I am a happily married mother of two, ages 3 and 4 respectively. My parents are in good health, mom is 62 and dad just turned 70. They have a good marriage and my mother lives in a house, ...
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4-year-old going on holiday without parents

My son is 4 and a half, and is going on holiday with his grandparents and 6-year-old niece. I'm a bit apprehensive about him being without us, his parents, for 8 days so I decided to fly over for just ...
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How to approach my adult son and his ex wife about my son's likely fatherhood of her baby when both deny it?

My 21-year-old son is newly divorced. He and his former wife hate each other a lot. Recently, his ex wife started posting pictures on social media of her baby boy just born in November. Which would ...
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How to explain to your child why a grandparent isn't around

My parents divorced when I was 10 and that was the last time I had a relationship with my father. My father still lives close to me locally but he doesn't contact me, and if I see him in public I ...
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I don't want to be an involved grandparent. How do I let my son know?

I know I'm in a small minority when I say I'm NOT excited to be a grandparent. I've never really liked children, and used to be determined against having any of my own. But mainly because my husband ...
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What should our kids call grandpa's new wife? [duplicate]

Kids are 17 and 12. Mom/grandma passed away a few year ago, and grandpa immediately married his new wife. There is a long story there. Dad/grandpa wants us to treat her as if she were grandma, but ...
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Should I give my son a christmas card from my mother, with whom we deliberately have no contact?

Today, a christmas card came through the post addressed to my 7 year old son. I recognised the handwriting as my mothers. I am reluctant to give my son this card and am unsure on the best course of ...