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Questions related to a child's friends, including making friends, maintaining relationships, disagreements with friends, etc.

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How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend?

Backstory: My 8 yr old son is a bright, gentle, etc, kid who attends public school. My wife and I have no TV, we disallow violent games (simulated killing is not allowed), we don't have video games, ...
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My daughter's friend faked having cancer - our daughter found out via Facebook and is devastated. What do we do?

Our daughter Angela (not her real name), who's 15, showed us a Facebook message she received from her friend Lauren (not her real name), who's 15, it said basically that Lauren had been faking having ...
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Neighbor's child is trying to spend all her time with us

Background My wife and I recently moved into a town-house apartment in a large complex. We have a Husky pup that my wife walks twice a day (she's a stay-at-home) and the dog attracts lots of ...
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My son is being hit by a friend, and we need to discuss the situation with his mom

I have two kids, an 8-year-old son and a 6-year-old daughter--second grade and first grade, respectively. They are both tiny. My son is only 46 pounds. A child entered my daughter's first-grade class....
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How to encourage my 7 year old to move on from her preschool friend?

My daughter, we'll call Beth, had a close friend, we'll call Alice, who was in the same daycare/preschool from ages 6 months through just before 5 years old. Alice lives in the next town over, so once ...
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9 year old son brought a toy gun to school – how can we get him to understand this isn't just about bringing a toy to school?

My well behaved, bright, popular, naive 9 year old son brought a plastic toy revolver (the kind with the bright orange barrel to indicate that it's a toy) to school yesterday. He snuck it into his ...
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How to help my 5-year-old when other children don't want to play with him?

My 5-year-old is in Kindergarten. I work at home and I pick him up from the bus stop every day. Everyday, the first thing out of his mouth after school is, "Can I have a play date with so and so (...
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How should I respond to a child asking to have as much spending money as her friends do?

When a child has some close friends at school, but some of them come from relatively richer families, so they get maybe twice my child's pocket money, how should I answer when he complains and asks to ...
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20 yo daughter left home to live with a “bad” girl - what should I do?

My daughter of 20 left home a week ago when I found out she had been seeing a friend I disapprove of completely. Countless arguments, violence, police, stealing, and lying are some of this girls ...
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How can we help my pre-schooler get over his initial shyness when we have guests?

My four year old is always extremely unsettled whenever they first interact with a guest. It doesn't matter if it is another child who has played with many times before or an adult. It also doesn't ...
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How to help a seven year old with unrequited love?

My son turned seven two months ago, and will begin his second year in elementary school after this summer. Yesterday he received a love letter by one of his class mates, a girl of the same age. She ...
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My 5-year-old's friend's parent doesn't like my child and I fear it might isolate my child after a while

When my son was 2 he went through a biting stage which was fairly traumatic for us and I guess for the parents of those he was biting. We worked through it with the daycare and over a period he ...
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Does a group of girls naturally split at the age of 10-11?

Our oldest daughter is now in fourth grade. Since school start, she has been part of a group of four girls, which have spent a lot of time together and having a lot of fun. Either all four, three of ...
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How can I support my friends who have just had a child diagnosed with 9P Syndrome?

My wife and I are good friends with another couple who has two kids (ages 4 and 1). Our kids are similar in age and best friends with theirs. The one year old, after a long string of medical issues, ...
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How can I explain why it is important to make new friends?

I'm trying to explain why it is important to make new friends in life. Can someone assist me by giving me some reasons I can use to convince someone? I'm attempting to convince someone who doesn't ...
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One of two children invited to a mutual friends birthday party

Our family has just combined and moved to a new town a month ago. We have three children, a 13 year old boy and 10 and 9 year old girls. The 9 year old is my daughter and the 13 and 10 year olds are ...
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Golden rule 'do's' and 'don'ts'' when holding a child's party - your experiences are asked!

This Saturday my 4 year old is having 5 Kindergarten friends over to celebrate being one meter tall (it's a 'one meter party'). We'll have a house and (weather permitting) garden for an afternoon of ...
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How do you prepare a pre-schooler for potentially permanent separation from a close friend?

My three-year-old son attends a small, in-home daycare. The other kids in the daycare range from about 1 year to 5. There is one other boy my son's age, and the two of them are very good friends. ...
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My son's friends suddenly prefer to play without him. Should I get involved or let the kids sort this out?

My son is eight and is in third form of elementary school. He is friendly, social, generous, fun, and popular among both his class mates and their parents. But recently there is a saddening ...
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How to deal with children going to friend's houses to bypass rules

In our house, as with most households I assume, there are lots of rules that we decided on, which might not be agreed upon by other families. Our son is 9 at the moment. For example, to prevent video ...
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How to handle separation from former classmates at the start of a new term, when your child was the only one in a different class?

My 6 year old just started first grade, but to our surprise he was assigned to a different class from his former (from last year) classmates. The ones that did not transfer schools at least, but he ...
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How do I get my child to eat healthier, better and more varied?

I have a ten-year old child and it's about that time in their lives when she is constantly getting invited to stay over at other friends' houses either for the weekend or a night. To be honest, as a ...
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How can I motivate a 13-year-old girl to take better care of her appearance?

Unlike most of the teenagers, my 13-year-old niece doesn't care about her appearance at all. She does what is necessary hygiene - shover, teeth brushing - but not a bit more. She wears sweatpants and/...
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My son doesn't want to play with a boisterous neighbour. What do I say and do?

We have neighbours who have a son and daughter a similar age to my son (10) and daughter (7). The daughters get on well but my son finds the boisterous boy too much. I would like to be able to tell my ...
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How to help 7yo boy who lost his best friend (relocation far away)?

Our 7 year-old son has a 6 year-old girl friend and the 2 were really very close friends - one heart and one soul. Now she's moving for 3 years to another country (very far away) and the evening ...
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What do you do when neighbor children that you don't know start coming over to your house to play with your kids?

Edit - May 30, 2014 Details on this question can be found below, but here is a summary of my questions: How do I approach the parents of these children? What should I say to the parents? Do I work ...
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My friend's kids are a bad influence on my children

My husband and I have a couple friend who has two children ages 5 (boy) and 2.5 (girl). We have a 3.5-year-old son and a 20-month-old girl. The two families get together quite often. The parents ...
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How do I express my feelings about my 15-year-old daughter's rude boyfriend?

My 15-year-old daughter always has her boyfriend around the house and I don't like the way he talks to her and my family, as the man of the house I would like to show that I am dominant and show that ...
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Bat mitzvah party invitations

My daughter is having her bat mitzvah party in January. A few other girls have had birthday parties and did not include her. They are now asking her if they are being invited which makes her really ...
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Should my children steer clear of the “bad kids”?

My kids are 9 and 7, boy and girl, respectively. They're nice, spunky, forgiving, and open-minded. They're hardly perfect; they're also sassy, sarcastic, and demanding. Because of their willingness ...
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How can I ensure my 14-year old's safety on a major trip away from home?

Brace yourselves, it's going to be a long one... I hope this is an acceptable question here; if not I wonder if the Interpersonal Skills board might take it? TL;DR: My 14-year old daughter wants to ...
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Kids are yelling over the fence

My kids and the neighbor's kid are all in the same kindergarten group. Despite having plenty of interaction there, they seek even more contact. That's not bad in itself, of course, but it's annoying ...
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Encouraging friendship with same-age children

We have a few family friends. Some happen to have all children about 5-6 years older than the oldest one here (so closest is 5 year old and 10 year old). I'm thinking we should not spend as much ...
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Did I screw up when allowing my 12-year-old to invite only one twin to her party?

My 12-year-old daughter is an only child. A few months ago, she had her first birthday party to which both boys and girls were invited. She chose a neighborhood restaurant to have a small dinner. ...
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My son plays alone and is not interested in making friends. How can I help him?

I have a 3-year-old son. From his birth, I tried to keep mobile away and restrict him to very limited TV. I play with him whenever I find the time. We play block games, making zoo with animals, ...
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6 year old daughter's friend chronically mean to my 7 year old daughter

My 7 and 6 year old daughters (Alyssa and Alex respectively) are very loving, caring and generally considerate toward one another. Notwithstanding normal little spats and being highly competitive and ...
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I found a video on my 8-year-old girls tablet where her same aged girl friend asks her to show her private areas. And she does. What should I do?

They are good friends since they were 4. Last weekend at a play date at my house they were playing with my girls tablet, making toys videos (just for fun, not uploading them anywhere), filming the ...
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The rules at a friend's house are a lot more lax than at mine - how do I enforce basic safety?

A couple of kids recently moved into the neighborhood and they are great kids that my daughter is having a really good time with. Rules at their house are pretty lax - they can go all over the ...
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Choosing same name as a friend, how to ask or annonce?

So there's a name that we liked for our baby but I have a childhood distant friend having the same name. Would she (yeah its a she) be offended if we name our baby after her? How do I approach or ...
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How can I explain to my 4 year old that his friend has moved away?

My 4 year old son has a good friend who is a foster child. She was being fostered (with two siblings) by a couple who lived not far from us and we were just beginning to get friendly with this family, ...
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What is a good approach for asking friends in a sensitive situation to be legal guardians?

We have a 1-year-old child. We've decided to ask two friends of ours to be the legal guardian of our child (i.e. godparents). By "legal guardian/godparent", I'm meaning that, in the case of our death, ...
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Helping a preschooler be a good friend

My almost-four year old boy has been expressing concerns recently that some of his close friends don't want to be his friend any more. While I'm aware this sort of drama is perpetual in childhood, I ...
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Are there ways to help a gifted child find a best friend?

I have a very sweet 7 year old son who is struggling with making friends and specifically he wants a best friend. He has opportunity to see kids often but cannot seem to click with anyone and really ...
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My 9 year old saw an R rated movie

My 9 year old son recently made a new friend who lives in our neighborhood. My wife and I like the friend and are happy that our son is being more social. Apparently, there are very few rules at the ...
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How to teach 5-year old to value friendship?

My son is almost 5 years old. There are two other boys in the neighborhood: Z is 5 months younger than him, and S is 10 years old. Both are very nice and well-behaved kids. We moved to this complex 5 ...
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How to help a shy 6-year-old make friends?

I have a 6-year-old son. He's the oldest, and we moved from the US to the UK three years ago. He's in Y2 (second grade), and is one of the younger children in his class. There are 35 kids in his grade/...
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Is it acceptable to ask summer camp administration to give other campers' families our contact information?

Our child had to miss the very last week of summer camp due to illness. Unfortunately, that last week was the time period when we planned to have the child ask their newly acquired friends for their ...
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Can a “magic answer box” backfire? Is it ok?

I’m a fresh father (4 months old daughter) and I’m sometimes visualising the future. I was thinking of implementing a system for when she’ll be a little older (7+ years old) in which: she posts a ...
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I'm not happy about the new seating order in my class [closed]

I am 13 and my place in the classroom was changed today because I was talking in the class. But the teacher made me sit next to a girl. While she was thinking about change of seat, she was muttering "...
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How to deal with my 13-year-old son's friend, who makes me feel uncomfortable?

I am 38-year-old mother to a 13-year-old son. He is close friends with a boy (let's call him Alex). I have noticed earlier Alex behaving weirdly before me like complimenting me on my looks, things I ...