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Questions regarding analyzing, preventing, or helping a child cope with fearful things in their life.

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How to (or should I even try to) break a zombie fixation for a three-year-old

I have two boys, one eleven, and one three. I don't know exactly how or when, but the 11-year-old has decided that it was a good idea to explain the the 3-year-old all about zombies. Of course he ...
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One year old scared of the doctor and similar situations

My 14 month old has been affraid when at the doctor's office from when he was about 8-9 months old. He was having a normal checkup and didn't even get any shots but started crying when the doctor ...
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How do I wash my kids' hair without them screaming their lungs out? [duplicate]

My kids are both under six years of age. Occasionally, when they are really dirty and sweaty, I need to wash their hair with shampoo. The trouble starts when I try to wash the shampoo out of their ...
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How can I help a ten year old girl not to be frightened of feeling sick?

My daughter was quite recently ill with a virus, which caused vomiting and lengthy periods of feeling very sick. This seems to have made her frightened of the sickness feelings. Now when she has a ...
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How to help a child overcome their fear of mascots?

My son loves Sesame Street characters, and "costume" characters... When they're on TV. However, he's very afraid of them in person. He gets clingy, must be picked up, and holds us in a Death grip. ...
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Explaining Thunder/Lightning to a preschooler

I have a very intelligent three (almost four) year old who has a mixed relationship with thunder and lightning (see an older question from me, for example). He likes seeing it, but is also afraid of ...
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How to nurture my child to be cautious of her actions?

Well, I saw this question but I have exact opposite problem with my 2 year old daughter, she doesn't fear from her actions that will hurt her. She is not afraid to do anything that is dangerous or ...
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My 2 and half year old niece does not trust anyone else besides her mom and dad

My niece is 2 and half years old and she does not mix with anyone else. I am happy that she is like that with strangers but when it comes to family she is still the same. Does not play with other ...
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How to nurture my child to be fearless

I feel that my two-year-old kid is fearful since birth, or it is my own fear. This question arose when I compared him with other numerous children. As a father, I don't want him to fear anything. I ...
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I am 20, too scared of my father, and I no longer feel safe. What can I do?

I've had many episodes of full withdrawal from the family because I cannot face my father. Last night was another one of those episodes. We were eating dinner with the family when I made small talk ...
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nearly 2 years old son fears characters, dolls and someone knocking on door (bully niece)

Whenever I take my kid to the mall, he fears going to the soft toys section and fears all the dolls, characters, stuffed animals. Another thing I observed is that if we are in our room and somebody ...
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What can help a seven year old boy cope with night terrors and being constantly afraid?

My son used to be very independent little boy without any fears. In the last two years his night terrors and fears have gotten out of control. He dreams about robots, house fires, tornadoes. The ...
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How can I address toddler's fear of water over her face?

Our 2.5-year-old daughter used to love baths, playing in the pool and just playing with water. Now, she is terrified to bathe. It is a battle to even get her in the tub, let alone to try and clean her ...
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Sudden fear of swimming!

My 2 and half year old girl has always loved swimmming we lived abroad in Spain for most of her life so she was always been in the water, head under or not, we got her some swimming lessons, she went ...
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How to help (and bathe) a toddler who is terrified of the plughole in the bath?

Our 2½-year old has very recently developed a fear of the plughole in the bath. She is not just afraid but properly terrified to the point that I bathed her in her baby brother's bathtub-in-a-bath ...
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How do you explain to a 3-year-old what Halloween is?

Title says it all. Our 3-year-old son is old enough to realize that something weird is happening around Oct 31st, but not really old enough to understand complex explanations. Like most kids this ...
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How does one deal with excessive timidity in 8 year olds? Is it even excessive

My son has reached the point that if something scares him once then he doesn't want to deal with it anymore on any level. I can understand this for something like "Star Wars." But this has extended ...
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My 11 yr old has some irrational fears

I have a son that just recently turned 11. He still periodically calls for me or his father at night because of things like "hearing noises" or just "being scared" He also has a small fear of the dark,...
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How can I assuage my pre-teen's fear of flying

My parents are moving to Florida soon and have asked for my help moving their car. I thought it would be nice to take my pre-teen daughter (almost 12 yo) with me on the ride down for a short visit. ...
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How to encourage the toddler to not to be frightened of the dark?

I believe that the fear of dark, once sets in, doesn't leave easily. The toddler is 13 months old. She starts crying if left alone when the light goes off at night. She clings to me as long as the ...
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Understanding the idea of "fears" as a young child

While watching the Lion King with my older toddler (almost 3), he asked me an interesting question I couldn't answer. During the scene with Scar and the hyenas, I asked him if it was scary (as I was ...
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How to help a child overcome fear of heights

What are the best approaches to help an older preschooler (~5-6YO age) overcome fear of heights, like going on very high slides/monkey bars/other playground equipment?
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Fear/interest in thunder and lightning

My almost-three year old has the strangest love/hate relationship with thunder and lightning. He will often react with fear when he sees lightning or hears thunder, and will talk about "I am scared ...
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What are good approaches to lessen fear of insects in a child?

One of my kids is extremely frightened of bugs. As in, if there's a fly/mosquito/bee in the room - far away from her - she will freeze up and refuse to move. If she's in small proximity, she gets uber-...
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Coping and overcoming a rational fear

On Friday my daughter was hit by a car while crossing the crosswalk to school. (Side note: she was released from the hospital and appears to be doing OK, but taking her to a Dr for a full eval ...
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How to Teach That Following Rules is Not Always Good?

My 8 year old son has an issue with following rules a little too closely. He gets upset if rules and/or routine are broken. For instance, last night he was upset because a classmate was singing ...
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My 4 year old son always keeps something besides him when he sleeps. Is that normal?

My son always keeps something besides him while sleeping. It can be anything, not necessarily a toy. Does that mean he fears something?
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If a 4 year old is afraid to swim is it better to keep trying or wait?

My son is afraid of swimming, and has been for a very long time. We first took him to baby swim classes and he never took to it like the other children in the class. I took him to swimming classes ...
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What to do about anxiety when going to school?

Our 4 year old started school this September (Reception, we live in the UK). Initially everything was very good, but then she started complaining that she is afraid to leave her parents when she ...
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How to handle post traumatic stress with my 6yr old daughter?

4 weeks ago some weirdo shot at my balcony (probably for fun) with a gun used for practice. Anyway, the glass of my balcony door broke. At the same time my daughter of 6 was sitting just next to it, ...
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How to help my 8-year-old who can't sleep because she fears she doesn't get enough sleep?

My 8-year-old is so stressed out about not getting enough sleep that she can't sleep. When school started, the teacher explained to them that is is important to get 10 hours of sleep a night because ...
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8-month old terrified of new caretakers

My 8-month old will hardly let anybody "new" pick him up, or spend time with him if his mother or I aren't present. His current nanny and one set of grandparents (which have spent a lot of time with ...
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How do you gauge if a show, movie or story may be too frightening for your child?

My 2-and-a-half year old seems to be fond of shows that I would have expected to be too scary for someone his age. He loves to watch R.L. Stine's Goosebumps (he was introduced to it at daycare by ...
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How to teach a 3-year-old baby to not be afraid of bathing? [duplicate]

Our 3-year-old girl is extremely afraid of bathing! We ask her why, but she just says "I just afraid". We tried putting toys in the water; she plays with them and the water but does not allow us to ...
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8yr old boy - afraid of too many things, too laid-back, lacks zeal to compete [closed]

Honestly, I am not sure if I should be getting too worried or worked up about my boy of 8years, but some of the behavioral characteristics seem a bit worrying. Asking the question to see if I should ...
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My six year old is afraid of the shower. How do I help her transition?

While I am happy to let my six year old continue to have baths most of the time, there are times when she needs to take the quicker shower. She has never been thrilled about water - even though we ...
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How do I help a child who is afraid of the dark?

A 5 year old girl is afraid of the dark, to the point where she screams whenever the lights go out. How can we help her get over this fear?
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How do I help a child overcome fear of ghosts?

About a month ago we got two foster children, ages 9 and 7. The younger one often has nightmares, and in the daytime has many fears. She won't take a bath by herself and she is afraid of mirrors. We ...
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How do I prevent my child from becoming frightened by "scary" stories?

I have a ten year old child who gets spooked to tears to sleep in his room alone because another child at school told him a nonsense story about Slender Man. The child added a few bits to the myth, ...
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How to help a toddler overcome the fear of water on head?

My 22-month-old daughter absolutely hates getting her hair wet. At bathtime, she complains (crying, but without tears) when I pour water on her head in preparation for washing her hair (even if I'm ...
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Why is my baby suddenly screaming in the bath?

My baby has always loved bath-time, almost since he was born. He learned to splash when he was only a couple of months old and loves to play around with the water, and over the past few weeks I've ...
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