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Seperation between me and my stepson

I have a 6 year old stepson. Today, his parents sued me in order to take their son back. How do I explain the situation to him? Note that I adopted him at age 3 ,so he probably does not remember ...
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My 15-year-old son is gay. How do I express my feelings about this?

Recently, my 15-year-old son has been acting very strange around the house, which isn't like him at all. Whenever we try to talk to him all we get back is "yes I'm fine" or "Go away", which really ...
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How to help my 2.5-year-old daughter take her medicine when she refuses to?

My 2.5-year-old daughter has an ear infection. She has been really healthy her entire life, and this is the first time she's gotten sick enough she needs to take any medicine in a strict schedule. ...
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What to do when my 3.5-year-old says “I don’t love you, I love mommy.”?

Recently, my 3.5-year-old daughter started saying, “I don’t love you, I love mommy.” Also the same phrase with "like" instead of "love". It’s killing me to hear her say that. But, I know she’s little,...
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Should I call my sad, almost 5-year-old on holidays with grandparents and his sister?

I have an almost 5-year-old son and an almost 3-year-old daughter. My children are on holidays with grandparents far away for a week. They had the same holidays last year and it went smoothly, but ...
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How to teach my people-pleasing daughter to balance between helping others and accounting for her own needs?

My younger daughter is a people pleaser. She always wants everyone else to be happy, often to her and her older sister's emotional detriment. She lets people take advantage of her generosity, buying ...
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How to talk to my 4.5-year-old daughter about death? [duplicate]

My 95-year-old grandmother is about to pass away and I want to prepare my 4.5-year-old daughter who was supposed to visit her soon. Even though she lives far away, my daughter has visited her several ...
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How to help a 5-year-old deal with negative emotions?

My 5-year-old gets angry and frustrated in situations like: losing at a board game being told he is wrong about something being told not to yell 'You are so fat!' at a teacher with the explanation it ...
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How to handle the situation with a 1-year-old preferring dad over mom with her suffering emotionally?

I am the proud father of a 1-year-old boy. My wife and I love him to pieces! A few months after his birth I suffered through a terrible bout of anxiety attacks. Turns out it was just my way of ...
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How to help my 10-year-old daughter who is upset because her dad is not in her life?

The last time my 10-year-old daughter saw her dad she was 6. He would come and see her whenever he had time or when he wanted to show off to his friends that he is a dad. When I got married, he ...
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How much is too much worry/anxiety in a child?

I have an 8-year-old daughter- She is in a play and is very well prepared. However, she is having trouble sleeping because other children are not. I have talked with her about how she can only be ...
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Should I intentionally lose a game to make my daughter happy?

My daughter is very clever at playing chess. At 5 years of age, she could win against her mother and grandparents, but still couldn't beat me. She kept playing with me and tried to win, but always ...
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How to determine if I am pushing my child too hard?

A common problem I've seen with children is that they seem to be pushed too hard and become anxious and stressed. As a soon-to-be parent, in which both of us parents are highly educated and high-...
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How should we support 16 year old step sister who ran away from home

We're in Canada, if that's relevant. My partner and I live by ourselves (late 20's), and my partner's 16 year old step-sister has recently fled an emotionally abusive home life (no physical abuse so ...
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How to help my 8-year-old daughter cope with being unable to execute something new other than crying?

My daughter will be turning 8 in a few days, and I have been unsuccessful in trying to get her to stop crying when she becomes frustrated. Examples are: She is currently in dance and takes 8 classes ...
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How to minimize the negative impact on our child when we parents argue?

My wife and I have an 8-month-old baby boy. Having a fight, for example debating, is something that we don't want to do. But sometimes, we can't avoid having a fight in front of our son. When the ...
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Should children of incarcerated parents be told the truth?

On Saturday mornings, I visit a nearby county jail. Most of the men I talk to are fathers. Some are serving short sentences and others are awaiting trials that will likely result in lengthy ...
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What are good approaches to lessen fear of insects in a child?

One of my kids is extremely frightened of bugs. As in, if there's a fly/mosquito/bee in the room - far away from her - she will freeze up and refuse to move. If she's in small proximity, she gets uber-...
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Basic guidelines for supporting psychological health of a sick 3-year-old?

My 3-year-old son has become ill over the last few days - his white blood cell count is low and the diagnosis is immune thrombocytopenic purpura (ITP). The prognosis is good - he should get better ...
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Do a parent's big expectations become a burden on the child?

Recently, Haruki Murakami started an advice column on his personal website. One of the questions was about motivating kids. Here is what Murakami replied: When a parent's expectations for children ...
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How can I help my children who just found out my wife left us?

My wife and I have been married for coming up close to 14 years now. We have 3 children, aged 12, 9 and 5. Recently, she started seeing another man and called it quits on me and the kids. She moved ...
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5-year old goes to pieces when talking about her/seeing pictures from when she was younger

My 5 year old daughter (our oldest child, we also have a 2 year old son) is normally a very happy child, although can be very sensitive. She is getting better controlling her emotions but one trigger ...
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Why am I hurt by my toddler saying she wanted to throw all her toys in the garbage?

My 2-year-old was throwing a fit tonight. I got home from work and my father said my daughter would not put her toys away. My daughter told me she wanted to throw all her toys in the garbage. I don't ...
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What to do about an 8-year-old who will suffer silently until a breaking point?

We have an 8-year-old son. He has no intellectual or developmental disabilities. However, we are concerned about the following. He will not speak up in protest for himself. For example: He tripped ...
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Why is my 15 month old boy crying excessively in the afternoon

My wife is having a real hard time with my son lately. After his afternoon nap he will almost immediately get really whiny and then go into full blown crying for hours. She is a stay at home Mum so ...
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How to be a step-mom to a troubled (or hurt) 5-year-old?

A Bit About Myself I am in my late 20's, and I am a fairly-new-mom. I have been married to my daughter's father for about a year now, but I have been around kids my entire life. I have always had ...
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How to help an expat pre-schooler learn the local language?

We're an expat family from Hungary living in the Czech Republic. Our oldest child is almost five years old. She's in kindergarten for 8 hours. She was born here already and started daycare at 1.5 ...
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How to help a child with a long-term weather phobia?

I had an awful fear of tornadoes as a child. It started when I was around 6, and continued for about a decade. I believe this may have been an actual phobia. Thunder storms gave me anxiety Hail ...
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Can “The Giving Tree” be explained in a way that isn't an unhealthy lesson?

My son loves "The Giving Tree," by Shel Silverstein. And I also remember it being a favorite of mine as a kid. I vaguely remember it from childhood as having some mildly sad themes, and most people ...
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How do you handle a child who enjoys getting others into trouble?

How do you deal with a primary-school age child (range 5-7) who enjoys getting others into trouble? Is actually alert for minor wrongdoings and likes to set other people against each other? Can be ...
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How to respond to a 6-year-old tremendously prone to feeling shame?

I have 4 kids, 11, 8, 6, 3 (boy girl boy girl). My 6-year old is tremendously prone to shame. At the drop of a hat he will turn away, cover his eyes, hide in the corner and just generally grind to a ...
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How to talk to my 6-year-old son about his biological father?

My husband and I have been married for 10 years, and we have three kids. He is not the biological father of my oldest son, who is 6. I am confused about the best way to talk to my son about his ...
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Should I try to reconnect my 16-year-old daughter with her father?

My 16-year-old daughter has not been seeing her father since we divorced (in 2008 on the basis of infidelity (from him)). We live cities apart. She is against of having any relations with him. I was ...
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How can I help my child be grateful for her life

I would like my daughter to be grateful for her life - being healthy and raised in a rich country by a caring and loving family, she should be. How can I make her see her life as good enough, without ...
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How to not to feel igry for children's behavior? [closed]

Examples: Approaching strangers in public places and talk to them also if they show hints they do not want to Going to nursery school in pyjama This makes parents feeling so much igry and full of ...
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My 4-year old son - in preschool full time - only wants to stay home without kids in his free time. Should we be concerned?

My son is 4 1/2. He's been in daycare and preschool since he was 6 months old. As such, he has been surrounded by other kids every weekday for his whole life. As an introvert, I totally feel ...
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6 Year old son behavior problems at school and now at home

My son is 6, 7 next month. He's having a lot of problems at school. At the beginning of the year he was getting tallies and notes sent home because he was hitting, pushing, kicking other kids at ...
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Adopt before giving birth, or give birth before adopting?

I'm not a parent but I have considered children for the future. I was having a conversation with my partner about adoption / birth. Let's say we were to (choosing my words carefully not wishing to ...
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Should I tell my 10-year old son, how screwed-up Cinderella is?

My 10-year old boy recently told me that he likes the Cinderella fairy tale. Some fairy tales including this one, have several layers of meaning and sometimes they guide people's life decisions. Let'...
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My wife is under treatment for depression and just had a traumatic labor. What can I do to help her?

My wife gave birth two weeks ago. It was all very traumatic and it has certainly taken its toll on her mood. She suffers from depression anyway, and now I am concerned that she is probably suffering ...
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How do i deal with the urge to laugh when my daughter cries?

I have an infant daughter who cries a lot (naturally; she's three months old) and most of the time I find it more funny than anything else. I feel pretty awful about this but I think it's just due to ...
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If a baby is accidentally dropped by a parent, does the baby lose trust in the parent?

This should not have happened but it did happen. I'm the mother to a 14-month-old girl. We were going for our usual morning walk in our garden. Suddenly I felt something fall on me from above. Without ...
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How can I help my 7-year-old deal with anxiety?

My son suffers from anxiety and is constantly worrying about all sorts of different things. It can be quite debilitating causing him to get worked up and upset easily and he often has trouble getting ...
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Our 6-year-old is talking down to herself. Why would she do that and should we be worried?

I have a 6-year-old daughter who is wonderful and basically your normal 6-year-old. One behavior that she has been exhibiting that scares her mother and me a bit is that she will occasionally talk ...
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Seeking research on possible outcomes for children who are overly criticized

I did a search & can't find what I need. I need reading material on what the likely outcome is for a child who has been overly criticized. Someone very close to me has 3 kids, 2 are grown. It ...
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How do you decide if a movie is suitable for young children?

Movies have ratings, which vary a little around the world, but the ratings just don't convey a full understanding of some scenes which may be scary for young children. For example: Monsters, Inc. is ...
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How can we help our son deal with his girlfriend's emotional issues?

So our son is only 15, but he has fallen pretty heavily for a girl who apparently comes with a lot of "baggage". She comes from a broken home and is constantly having issues. Our son spend a lot of ...
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How do I help my husband see that his feelings of being a terrible parent to his son are unfounded?

My 15-year-old stepson, who has recently moved in with his mother 4 hours away, has left my husband with feelings that he is a terrible parent. My stepson was abusive - physically, mentally and ...
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How to share an embarrassing story with another adult while your child is around?

My daughter is 4. When she has a tantrum, she sometimes scratches or hits herself. One morning she scratched too hard and left a mark on her forehead. I can tell clearly that she was embarrassed by ...
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Possibly long-lasting trauma as a newborn?

Do you know of any studies on effects of traumatic events on newborns? Can they be long-lasting? If yes, when would it make sense to think of some help (e.g., therapy)? Situation: Three days after ...