Questions tagged [discipline]

How to enforce the rules you set, and consequences when those rules are broken. Use [behavior] for questions about why children act the way they do.

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Dealing with other peoples kids who don't know when to stop

Initially my question was, how do I discipline other people's children but I am not sure that is the right question, nor is it something I actually want to do. More over, I need to understand better ...
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How to make a 3.5-year-old stop deliberately waking up her 1-year-old sister?

We've got two daughters of 3.5 (B) and 1 (L) years, respectively. B's behaviour is sometimes a bit reminiscent of what was described in someone else's earlier question. The particular issue/situation ...
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Am I really just taking advantage or is my mom abusive?

I am a 34-year-old single mother of 4. My children are 14 years old, 13 years old, 5 years old, and 9 months old. Just to give a little background, in March of 2016 my brother died suddenly on my ...
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What to do about my 6-year-old who misbehaves regularly and doesn't pay attention to punishments?

My 6-year-old son is misbehaving a lot. He doesn't care about punishments. He even would say so I don't care if I don't get this or that. Even if I whoop him, which I try not to at all, it does not ...
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How to help our 2-year-old adjust to new daycare where he's violent and pushy?

Our 2-year-old has just moved from a fairly loud, apathetic, semi-violent daycare, to the point where he was coming home with bites and bruises almost daily, to a new, nicer daycare closer to our work....
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How to break defiant cycle with time out?

My goddaughter is barely 3 years old and I visit and babysit her often, and have her mother's full permission to use time outs when I feel they are appropriate. She is usually pretty well behaved, ...
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Sleeping problems

Hi everyone I am new in this field and I have so many questions but I believe the most important for now is how to recover a good sleep pattern for my wife. Well my daughter is 11 month old ...
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Resisting and screaming toddler.

We been having trouble with our toddler who is 1 year n 1 month. He is very mischievous but lately he has adapted screaming and resisting habit which is worrying for us. I am working all day. He is ...
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How to make my toddler stop biting his nails if at all?

My son is 2 years and 4 months old. He is very smart. Lately, he began biting his nails, so his nails are always short. I do not know whether he swallows the cut nails or not, but I rarely see the ...
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How to be a good Single Mom with a large family and dealing with ADHD

I am recently divorced and have full custody of our six children. My husband was violent with the children and I'm not sure how to discipline them without using violence. My children range in age from ...
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5 year old child causing problems at school

My son is 5 years of age. When he started school he was quite calm at the beginning. But after summer holidays he has become very restless. He has become aggressive and is not listening to his ...
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What do I do when the timeout method isn't working? [duplicate]

Possible Duplicate: What do we do when timeouts are not effective? My littler girl just turned 2 but is as smart as a whip! I am having trouble with the timeout method. I am being consistent and ...
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How do I change my Brother negative thinking, and bad attitude and addiction towards computer games

I'm his older Sister, 15 years old and my Brother is only 13 years old. He has been very addicted to the computer, online games and apps on tablets. Although this may seem like a common problem for ...
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Getting things done - balancing directives vs. autonomy (elementary school age)

I'm the father of a 9 year old boy, who, while in the top tier regarding intelligence and grades, has a serious problem of 'getting things done'. Simple things. The issue does not occur at school ...
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Using 123 Magic — getting the door closed

I do the 123 on my daughter, but getting her in the room involves dragging her there kicking and screaming. Then she tries to block the door with her hands and feet making it difficult to close the ...
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How to make a 3-year-old stop hitting her 8-month-old brother?

Recently, my 3-year-old daughter started hitting her 8-month-old baby brother. It started a few weeks ago, and is getting more and more common. So far everything we've tried, we've been unable to ...
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Using scare tactics to get children to obey

My daughter is 18 months old. Recently we have been using scare tactics to make her obey. Do this or else Aunty from the top floor will come and shout at you Do this or the dog will come for you We ...
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How should I deal with a 6.5 year-old misbehaving boy?

My son is six years old, quite intelligent,grasps things easily, is really sharp at school really, good with teachers, and often very nice with friends. But he is showing opposite behavior to me; he ...
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Can we say “bad boy” to my 2-year-old son if he misbehaves or does something which we don't like?

My 2-year-old son has learnt a new word "No" recently. He is aware of what "No" indicates and when to tell this in the perfect situation. If he doesn't like anything or if we change the channels on ...
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Getting a good diagnosis for possible mental issues?

To keep this short sweet and simple... I have a 8 year old who has been diagnosed with ADHD and has been on all the typical medications. I will admit they do help significantly but I still see things ...
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“Never punish in anger” - How far does this extend?

I've heard the phrase, "You should never punish your child in anger," before, and it makes logical sense. However, how far does this extend? If a child, let's say a four-year-old, does something ...
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What is a better approach than “mum with the carrot, dad with the stick”?

It seems to me that "mum with the carrot, dad with the stick" is a very bad approach, at least for me (dad) as the kids (the 3.5-year-old mainly) are behaving very badly especially with me! What is ...
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How to stop a one year old from biting?

My nephew is just over a year and my family is struggling with his biting. He has often bitten during times when nothing obvious really prompted him to (i.e. wants something, is angry/tired/sad). It ...
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How to tackle my violent 3-year-old niece?

My 3-year-old niece sometimes behaves very violently. She so much enjoys hitting me with tab/doll/spoon/bottle or whatever she has. She hits very hard. I try to take the things away from her. But she ...
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How to teach a 4 year-old-child to handle tantrums?

My 4 year old son only accepts appreciation, he cannot accept "No,Don't..". A few neighbor kids came home to play with my son, he slightly tapped a 2 year old friend in his head, a 12 year girl who ...
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Is “slapping a badly-behaved child” against the law in US? [closed]

I heard a violent argument between a mother and her child. Obviously it was the child's mistake and he said something really really bad that must have hurt mother's feelings. His words made ...
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How to deal with my 13-year-old son's friend, who makes me feel uncomfortable?

I am 38-year-old mother to a 13-year-old son. He is close friends with a boy (let's call him Alex). I have noticed earlier Alex behaving weirdly before me like complimenting me on my looks, things I ...
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My 4 year old won't eat a meal in under an hour.

He used to be a great eater. My step kids were fussy eaters. Now the roles have reversed. My son takes an hour or more to eat a small meal. The tension at mealtimes is palpable. I have had some ...
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Son having problems going to pre k

My 4 year old has been going to pre-kindergarten for a little over a month. He has been having problems in class behaving. He talks back to his teachers and tells them "no" along with trying to do ...
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How to make a 2.5-year-old stop beating, biting and hurting others if he thinks it is a game?

I have a 2.5-year-old son. He is very hyperactive, and somehow he thinks that beating, biting, throwing things and hurting others is a game. He threw a toy car at me once and it hurt me badly. He ...
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Is it alright to use corporal punishment on children? [duplicate]

Possible Duplicate: When is physical punishment appropriate? Will this psychologically affect them negatively? Will they become bitter or will they learn through this experience that if you go ...
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How to get a 3.5-year-old to dress up in the morning?

I'm having a hard time recently with my 3.5-year-old where I struggle to get him out the door in the morning without multiple tantrums and cries. He usually gets up on his own and comes to my room ...
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How to make my pre-schooler stop trying to make his friends follow the instructions given to him?

My son is 3 years and 8 months old. He starts to cry when any of his friends in school makes any mistake. For example, if his friends make any mistake in writing, he starts to cry. If his friends are ...
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How to make my 16-year-old stop biting?

My 16- nearly 17-year-old son still bites. He isn’t neurotypical and he already goes to therapy. He does see what he is doing as normal for him alone. He bites when anyone tries to hug him or give ...
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How to discipline very violent behaviour with an ADHD child of 7

My 7 year old son, who has been diagnosed with ADHD, is exhibiting hard to manage behavior. Some recent examples are: He doesn't do as he is asked He runs out of school by a main Rd alone He gets ...
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How do I get my 8-year-old, who was diagnosed with ADHD, to be respectful and do her chores?

I have an integrated family and I have 3 children in total: My husband's 14-year-old daughter, my 8-year-old daughter and our 5-month-old son. My 8-year-old has ADHD which I'm having difficulty with ...
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How should staff deal with loud children in oral surgeon office lobby?

I am the office manager at an oral surgeon's office and the staff is telling me that there is a problem with the patients being annoyed by loud children in the lobby. This is when the patient is in ...
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Six year old boy screams

I have a six year old old grandnephew who when he gets mad screams at the top of his lungs and when he crys about something he somehow can move it up a couple of octaves. I want to smack him. I don'...
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How to deal with a very incorrigibly naughty 5-year-old who? [duplicate]

My 5-year-old has been an absolute nightmare. He hits his 2-year-old sister and blames it on her, argues back saying "no way" all the time, and will not do as he is told to. He keeps having major ...
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What are the effective durations of punishment at various ages?

It's well known that small children don't understand the concept of the future or passage of time, so there is no point in applying the punishment for too long of a period. Obviously, that mental ...
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Toddlerhood - when does it end?

Wow. As a first time mother, I'm finding this toddler phase to be the most challenging so far. My girl is almost 17 months old. She is sassy! She climbs everything, she's a daredevil, she's testing ...
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Uncontrollable child

My girlfriend of two years has an 11-yearold son who is completely out of hand. She and I both are at our wits end trying to help him or figure out his behavior or correct it. Today she got our ...
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Seeking advice, guidance and tips for behavioral improvement

I have two daughters of age 4 and 2. I still doing breastfeeding to both of them by hoping better developed child. First you can comment on about it. The one main thing about I like to ask about is ...
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Validity on a study about spanking children

Earlier today, I got into an argument with someone about spanking children and whether or not it caused them to become more violent later in life in addition to other issues. Eventually, this article ...
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how can I train my 10years old nephew to be responsible

My 10 year old nephew is getting everyone worried with his behavior. He does not perform well at school, he is not respectful, and he often talks back to people who try to correct him. His mother is ...
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What to do about my 6-year-old acting up at school?

I have a 6-year-old who will be 7 in less than 6 months. She has always been a very smart girl... She went to preschool for 3 years. She was very close to the teacher (since she was an infant) so I ...
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What kind of negative reinforcement works good on your 5 year old for misbehavior?

My son has few unwanted behavior I like to reduce. For example he throws objects like pencil, toys etc sometimes in frustration and sometimes he just enjoys. He throws papers outside our patio and he ...
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My 5-year-old son is not disciplined in class

My son is 5 and half years old. He's very charming, extremely smart, and way more mature than his peers. However, since last year I'm facing this same issue with him at school: While his teachers ...
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How do discipline my kid at preschool?

Today I dropped my little 4yr old girl at school and she just didn't want to eat because from what she says, she "stuffed her face with popcorn" when I wasn't looking. The problem: All of her friends ...
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How to make a 5-year-old follow instructions in kindergarten?

I have a 5-year-old granddaughter. She has only been in kindergarten for two weeks and has been in trouble three times for not following instructions. No walking in line without touching wall or ...