Questions tagged [discipline]

How to enforce the rules you set, and consequences when those rules are broken. Use [behavior] for questions about why children act the way they do.

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How to implement natural consequences to make an 8-year-old stop being rude to a sibling?

I have an 8-year-old son, a 6- and a 2-year-old daughter. My son is a model student but really likes to argue. He's extremely stubborn and always right. When he argues with me, I'll correct him and ...
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How to make my 20-month-old son stop biting other children in the kindergarden?

My 20-month-old son bites other children in the kindergarden. He does it in the course of play, and sometimes he bites me, too. The kindergarden teacher says, this is normal, it's just an episode. ...
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Making isolation not feel like a punishment

My six year-old son is very extroverted, and prefers to play with someone. My three year-old daughter is strong-willed but introverted, and prefers to play on her own. When they play together, my ...
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How to stop preschooler from taking toiletries from the bathroom to “play with”?

Our 4-year old has (finally) potty-trained and is starting to use the bathroom on his own. Recently though, unless we're constantly paying close attention every time he goes, he's started taking ...
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How to avoid association of child's room with time-outs?

Sometimes we send our toddler son to his room, either to calm down or because he has misbehaved and we need some distance. Our aim is not primarily the punishment, but rather to have him calm down and/...
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How to lessen a depressed teenager's absences?

Some context Dad died unexpectedly on 2014 and mom was murdered on 2017. This has caused a myriad of problems for us. It's just me (26) and my brother (16) left so I have to to be a parent figure to ...
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What to do with a 5 soon to be 6 year old that likes getting you upset?

We have a great little boy. He was absolutely perfect until he turned 5 years old. He is almost 6 now and he is just a handful. He talks back, does not listen, refuses to admit fault and laughs and ...
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How do I discipline my spouse's children?

My spouse and I have kids from previous marriages. He has two boys ages 3 and 6, and I have an 8-year-old boy and we just recently had a daughter together. I'm struggling very hard with his two boys, ...
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How to make my 2-year-old son stop being violent towards his older sister?

My daugther is nearly 6 years old and my son just turned 2. How can I make my son stop hitting and biting and throwing things at my daughter? Should I let her deal with him on her own or step in?
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23 month old twins disturbing each other at bed time

We have 23 month old twin boys (I'll call them C&D) whom we have about 2 months ago transitioned away from a crib by taking away one side and creating an enclosure of sort (about 12 x 12 feet) ...
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How can I get my son to keep time during school time? [closed]

I am homeschooling my 8 year old son, who has a lot for trouble completing his school work in good time. I have tried giving him a nice stretch of time per subject but this doesn't seem to work. How ...
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How do I discipline my 4 year old for not playing with schoolmates?

How do I discipline my child for poor behavior done at school. My daughter, 4 years old, is telling other children she won't play with them. This is competly unacceptable and when she does it with ...
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How do I get pre-schoolers to stop asking for food every hour?

My boyfriend has three little girls, 3, 3 and 5 years old. I try to feed them balanced and correctly portioned meals and snacks even though the 5-year-old is extremely picky. They eat about every 2 ...
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How long should a 3 year old be sent to his room?

Our son is almost 3 years old and he's been getting worse about talking back and not obeying our directions (such as "put on your shoes" or "pick up your toys"). We're thinking about implementing ...
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Innocent age related stubborness or bad behaviour?

My 4-year-old shows impressive stubborness and singlemindedness. While it is sometimes clear, often I find it hard to tell if I'm looking at: "I'm four years old and surprises make me insecure" or "I'...
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How to make our 3-year-old stop talking over every conversation around her?

Our 3-year-old daughter has been talking over any conversation in her vicinity for the past few months with increasing intensity. I can't talk for more than a minute or two to my wife when our ...
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The rules at a friend's house are a lot more lax than at mine - how do I enforce basic safety?

A couple of kids recently moved into the neighborhood and they are great kids that my daughter is having a really good time with. Rules at their house are pretty lax - they can go all over the ...
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What can be done to control a toddler?

My Nephew is 1.5 years old. My brother and sister-in-law do not know how to control him in public places, especially in theaters.He may start crying/shouting at his will in such places.What best can ...
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How to tell off a 2-year-old boy

I assume that this question has already been asked on countless occasions but I haven't been able to find the answer to it! I'm a separated father who sees his son 2 days a month. As you can imagine ...
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4 year old, biological Mom used drugs, behavior out of control

I have a 4 yr. old Son, he was adopted at birth. His biological "mom" used meth during pregnancy. I knew that he could develop problems in regard to behaviors. He's extremely bright, learns easy ...
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Should we expect the kids to make an eye contact always?

Having seen so many questions on this site dealing with the kids not making an eye contact, I was wondering if there are times when we should ask the kid not to make an eye contact? I remember my ...
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Almost 9 year old regularly seeking attention

My boyfriend's 8-will-be-9-in-a-month daughter is with us for the summer. Her mom lives many states away so summer is dad/daughter time while mom has her for the school year. I am having troubles ...
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What to do about a 5-year-old girl being violent and insulting?

I have a 5-year-old daughter and an 8-year-old son. My daughter is normally a sweet, passionate, and loving child. There are no problems in school at all. Lately, she has started being violent ...
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Why does authoritarian parenting style result in children with low self esteem and lack of self discipline?

http://psychology.about.com/od/childcare/f/authoritarian-parenting.htm I have been raised by authoritarian parents. I have both low self esteem as well as a lack of self discipline. I want to ...
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How to discipline my 5-year-old who is constantly in trouble at school?

My 5-year-old boy is constantly in trouble at school. He is in his first year of kindergarten and the first week went great with no problems. After that he will not stop coming home with black remarks ...
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Should a precocious child be prevented from devoting too much time to their primary interest?

I know a couple of children in their early or pre-teen years who have already accomplished more than many adults accomplish in their entire careers. These accomplishments seem to be a combination of ...
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How to get my 2.5- and 5.5-year-old daughters under control?

I am a mother of two girls, 2.5 and 5.5 years old. I am really struggling with them. Yes I know all moms struggle but I am completely losing it now. The constant “no” to everything by the older one ...
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Consequences: Act or talk first?

I'm in disagreement with my spouse on how to handle consequences for our usually well behaved 2.5yo toddler. I prefer telling him how to behave, e.g. "Don't sit on your baby brother" (and pulling him ...
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How do I discipline a 14-year-old girl without pushing her away?

I have a 14-year-old sister who my grandmother and I are gaining custody of. I don't doubt my grandmother's ability to take care of and discipline my sister the way she should be, but she and I are ...
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My 2.5-year-old son likes to break things

When we are having lunch or dinner, my 2.5-year-old son likes to break or throw things from the table. He throws sugar pots, cups, plates, etc. Almost everything that can be broken, he will throw it. ...
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Will a child understand what's wrong about asking for things costing money and then not wanting them, when you confiscate some of their money?

Similar to this question, but not about behaviour. My son is 5 years old now, and I give him lots of choices that he is free to make on his own. A while ago, he started asking for certain foods (that ...
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Child throws things…how to handle it?

My 3 year old son has been throwing things when he gets mad at people. He basically needs a way to express his anger... How do I handle this? How do I discipline him?
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How do I get an 11-year-old to engage in active language comprehension?

Apologies for the vague title, but I wasn't sure how exactly to put the situation. My 11-year-old sister refuses to read properly. (I am out of the house, but my parents discuss the problem with me ...
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How to deal with extreme misbehavior of younger siblings?

I have a 3-year-old, a 5-year-old and an 11-year-old who have just been the most exceptionally worst behaved children on this planet. Between the 3- and 5-year-olds, they backchat, break things, have ...
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How can I help my son develop a social life? How can I prevent him becoming socially isolated?

I have a 17 year old son who is spends a lot of time programming his computer. He does not have a girlfriend, and seems to have no interest in getting one. He rarely goes outside. I am worried that ...
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When my 5-year-old is throwing a tantrum, should I leave her alone or stay?

My 5-year-old daughter is generally a pleasant and balanced girl, but sometimes she will get really, really mad and throw a major tantrum. This usually happens when something does not go her way (even ...
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How to deal with two boys becoming sucky and clingy when around their mother?

We have two boys aged 3.5 and 2. They are your average rambunctious boys. Pretty good at daycare and with dad, but when it's just mom they start acting out. Not listening. Don't stay in time out. ...
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How to immediately correct a (gross) habit?

My son, an only child, is 19 months old. His two "siblings" are dogs twice his size and they get along great (I'm not sure how that sentence reads, but I'm not one of those people that actually ...
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How to deal with a “litter bug”

My daughter has started just leaving things where she stands - things like food wrappers and orange peels. I have pretty much treated it as I would remembering to the flush the toilet. I started by ...
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What to do about an overly confident 4.5-year-old who retaliates at nursery?

Our 4.5-year-old son has recently been getting into trouble at nursery. On three separate occasions now we have been called in to speak to the teachers there as he has done something naughty. This has ...
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How should I handle “he/she told me to do it” excuses from siblings?

Sometimes (too frequent for my liking) when questioned "Why did you do this 100% prohibited or simply boneheaded thing", my 6- and 8-year-old kids' response is "he/she - pointing at the sibling - told ...
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My 2.5yr old daughter does not answer to us

Anyone ever experienced similar situation? My 2.5yr old daughter always trying to ignore my words, by not listening and not answering. For example, when there's conflict I try to blame her on some ...
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How to get the attention of my 3.5-year-old?

My 3.5-year-old son is very talkative and very focused/determined/stubborn. A lot of times when we verbally try to get his attention it seems that he is ignoring us or that he is 'not hearing' ...
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How to deal with two 10- and 12-year-old brothers fighting?

I am a father of 10- and 12-year-old boys. Both used to play happily and regularly and fought on occasions. The younger boy used to complain about his older brother with some deep cries and proof of ...
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tips for staying fun

I have a 7 yo and 10 yo who basically are great kids, but I find myself in a lot of battles that I don't think I can walk away from. (Everyday stuff like - 'no watching tv /playing video games all ...
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How to deal with a one year old who resists sitting in shopping cart?

We have an 11-month-old boy who is very mobile (has been walking since 9 months) and now loves to play, run around, and climb on things. One problem we have is that when we're in the grocery store, he'...
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5 year old kindergarten student threatened with expulsion

My 5 year old son has a rough time at his new school. He keeps running away from the teachers and doesn't do his work requested. We were told there is zero tolerance for running away, and after 2 more ...
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How to deal with tantrums in my 5-year-old?

My 5-year-old can't seem to shake off the temper tantrums! Probably because while trying to "fix" it, I've unintentionally given him attention for it. I've gotten to the point of enough. I've done the ...
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How to deal with my 8-year-old son's behavioural problems at school and at home?

My 8-year-old son has just started his classes in the 2nd Grade and within a month I have received guardian calls from his teachers three times. After meeting with them, I got to know that he talks a ...
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How to punish my 5 year old bully?

My five year old daughter has been in kindergarten for a whole year. Now she is going into grade 1, but she has become a bully. This past Friday she pushed a kid off the play structure at the school. ...

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