Questions tagged [discipline]

How to enforce the rules you set, and consequences when those rules are broken. Use [behavior] for questions about why children act the way they do.

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7 year old has tantrums only at home

My almost 8 year old is a smart boy at school, is a role model and "a stabilising influence" on kids with anger issues (according to the school, so he sits next to troubled kids). Our problem is that ...
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How to handle an 11-year-old boy who doesn't study anymore and reacts aggressively towards me?

My 11-year-old son is now in class 5. Until class 4, he was good in studies, scoring around 90 %, but from this academic year he has not been showing interest in studies. He does not complete his ...
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How to improve the relationship between my misbehaving 8-year-old stepchild and me?

I've been with my other half for nearly 4 years and have been known to his now 8-year-old daughterfor a little longer than that. She has been aware of our relationship for around 3.5 years. When we ...
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What to do about my boyfriend's 6-year-old who behaves very badly when away from his parents?

My boyfriend has a 6-year-old boy for whom he has primary custody over. He visits his mother for the summer, some holidays, talks to her via Skype and on the phone. He seems to have a very loving and ...
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11 month old doesn't want to be away from mom or dad

My son is 11 months and he is our first baby. My husband leaves him in the daycare for about an hour so my husband can do the things he needs to do - i work at daytime. The problem is when we leave ...
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What is a fair way to punish a sibling who unintentionally erases another's Saved Game?

TL;DR: Question title. (What is a fair way to punish a sibling who unintentionally erases another's Saved Game?) So this question could (should?) perhaps be posted on Parenting, but I thought users ...
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Dealing with gassy children during practice?

I'm a certified childrens aerobics instructor, but I also have a background in part time dance and gym teaching. The other day I was coaching my 8-year-old daughter and her two teammates in her three-...
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How to discipline 2yo who still does not talk

I am so far decided about not to physically discipline my children. And I am managing to do so, showing my kid what is good, and what is bad. One downside is, that my boy still cannot talk in ...
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Backed into a corner with 9-year-old and tablet confiscation

My 9-year-old son spends as much time as he can get away with using his iPad (in this case watching Youtube videos). His iPad is also required for school. This evening, after giving him ample warning ...
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What are the pros and cons of using dessert as a motivation for kids to work hard?

We have a kindergartener whom we homeschool. We also send our child for once-a-week violin lessons, which requires us to practice with our child every day. Most of the times, our child is motivated ...
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How to handle a 1-year-old pointing at and wanting things?

My 1-year-old daughter has started pointing at things. Sometimes she "wants" them, to either hold herself or just touch, sometimes she seems to be satisfied with simply having the thing named. ...
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My 13 yo son has drug and alcohol issues. What should I do?

My 13 year old son has been smoking and selling weed for at least a year now, drinks whenever he can get any alcohol, and has been black-out drunk. He also smokes cigarettes and vapes. (He's also done ...
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5-year-old tantrums and misbehavior - what am I doing wrong?

My two boys are 4-years-old and 11 months; they will be 5 and 1 next month. My oldest is exceedingly stubborn, and he's displaying strong leadership traits. When he has his mind set on something, his ...
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What are appropriate methods for disciplining a primary schooler for lying?

When a child lies there a few common reasons why they may be doing this: To see what happens because it is fun to tell stories that they don't really realize are lies to get someone else in trouble ...
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What are some techniques for toddlers to develop and practice good listening skills?

Like most toddlers, my 3 year old has to be told to do this or not do that over and over again. Rather than hoping she learns over time through the inevitable trouble she gets in for not listening, I ...
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Abusive behavior of 12 years old son

My 12 years old son hits, pushes, and teases his 7 years old sister. When my daughter was born he would constantly disturb me while feeding her and helping her. I tried to involve him in taking care ...
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Should we use a smiley chart to reward/punish our toddler?

Possible Duplicate: How to operate a successful “Star Chart”? Our nanny came up with an idea today to create a sort of table for our daughter, where they would draw a sun or smiley ...
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How do you deal with when you've had a “parenting fail”?

I suppose all parents/caregivers may feel this way from time to time, but when a child does not listen to you or you have had a "parenting fail" so to speak, how do you deal with this? Edit: Details....
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Two Year Old Being Intentionally Disobedient

I have a two year old who is occasionally intentionally disobedient. She's quite well developed for her age and understands instructions given. But at the dinner table she is often quite disobedient,...
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3-year-old acts out for parents, but not for nanny

My wife and I are having trouble with our 2.5/3-year-old daughter. We have a newborn (1 month old) that we believe is the reason. We are guessing she is jealous of the attention that her new baby ...
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My 2.5 years old daughter says no to everything, all the time, again and again

I think somebody has already asked this kind of question, but my situation is a little different. My 2.5-year-old daughter has been in an increasingly-more-difficult period of "no" for 6 long months ...
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How to inculcate concentration for 5 yr old kid?

Kids at 5 tend to be more playful and active. I want to find out if there are proven ways to inculcate the habit of concentration from such a young age, which will help the kid not only at school but ...
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Kids are yelling over the fence

My kids and the neighbor's kid are all in the same kindergarten group. Despite having plenty of interaction there, they seek even more contact. That's not bad in itself, of course, but it's annoying ...
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Questions about “Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids”

I just heard about Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids by Dr. Laura Markham (on this site) and I started looking into it. I really like some of the things I've read about this approach to parenting, but I ...
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My son's arrogant behaviour

My 3-year-old son acts very arrogantly, throwing things and shouting loudly, to people who oppose him for whatever he does. How can I teach him not to do this?
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How to deal with my 5-year-old son who has ADD/ADHD and constantly misbehaves?

We live in Texas. My child is 5 years old and an only child. I was a single mom up until 10 months ago. From the age of 9 months until 3 months ago I was the only one caring for and raising my child. ...
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Enforcing minority languages at home

We're a bilingual household in a country that speaks a third language. I speak Finnish to the kids, my wife speaks Japanese, and I speak Japanese with her. Our older son recently started going to ...
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Suggestions for helping a 5 year old boy with horrible behavior

So I'm just wondering if there is anyone out there that knows of any discipline suggestions that maybe I haven't tried. I'm waiting for mental health to get back to me but I need something in the ...
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Is school punishment for mediocre test results reasonable?

My daughter is 9 years old, she's just started grade 4. We've had her in a school for gifted kids since kindergarten. It's been great so far because they understand the challenges that gifted kids ...
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How to make my 1-year-old understand when she is being scolded?

I have a 14-month-old child. She's very active and likes to grab anything that catches her attention. Whenever we teach her something such as mama and papa, she doesn't want to listen, and her ...
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Help 8 year old is very lazy and does not focus

My 8 year old girl is most of the times very lazy, does not listen or stay focus. For example in the morning before dropping her to school, I prepare some homework for her to do and put it on the ...
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How do I instruct my openly defiant son?

I don't know for sure if my 8-year-old son actually enjoys creating conflict, but he does it a lot. I could go on and on with examples, but one in particular prompted me to ask this question. We were ...
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Discipline for a 3 and 5 year old

I am a step-mother to two children. They obviously come from a split family. This past year that the Father and I have been together, and court proceedings for custody continue, we have noticed huge ...
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“Natural consequences” where they don't happen?

It is often recommended that the negative, behavior of children, i.e. behavior unwanted by their parents, should be met with its "natural consequences". For example being cold outside in winter will ...
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Our 6 years old son doesn't follow instructions very well, bad listening skills, I need help

My step son is 6 years old, he is a very good boy but he isn't doing good when it comes to following directions. He gives up so easy and beat himself up for things that he fails at. For example in his ...
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What is the best way to deal with a 16 month old who started hitting? [duplicate]

Possible Duplicate: How do you discourage a toddler from hitting people? Out of the blue my 16 month old son has started hitting his sister (4 year old) and other kids when he is frustrated (and ...
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What to do about my 3.5-year-old son often changing his clothes?

I have a 3.5-year-old son. After every two three hours he keeps on crying for changing his clothes. He only wears the dress clothes which he likes, and doesn't listen if we tell him to wear a ...
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How to discipline my 5-year-old who misbehaves when tired or hungry?

I have a sweet but headstrong 5-year-old kid. He is usually well behaved and when that is not the case I handle it. But when he is experiencing some kind of physical discomfort - he could be tired, ...
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Encouraging good homework habits at preschool age

Our 4 year old daughter's preschool gives out little homework books to help the kids start to learn letters and numbers on their own time. They work in these books weekly at school, but participation ...
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Keeping toddler within the rules when an adult member of the household doesn't wish to enforce them?

All the adults in the household help to enforce the rules enacted upon the toddler except one; That adult often removes the child from discipline when the others are enacting it. We were told by ...
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How do you handle a child who enjoys getting others into trouble?

How do you deal with a primary-school age child (range 5-7) who enjoys getting others into trouble? Is actually alert for minor wrongdoings and likes to set other people against each other? Can be ...
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Which approach is appropriate to manage a 14-year old boy that constantly ignores his parents?

I have recently had the worst problems with my son ever. Since two and a half years he is non-stop ignoring rules and being cheeky to me and my wife. At first we thought that this kind of behaviour ...
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Our 10 month old baby spits food in our faces to entertain us

We've had no problems feeding our 10 months old baby, and in general she eats (almost) all her meals without complaining. However, she figured out a few weeks back that spitting out the food is fun, ...
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How to Handle 5 Year Old Disrespect/Not Listening in Public?

Our 5-year-old daughter is a very smart, sweet, and usually well-behaved girl. She usually hates to get in trouble and responds well to correction. However, lately she has been getting into some ...
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How to make my 1-year-old stop slapping me and other people in the face?

My 1-year-old son slaps me and other people in the face. He thinks that he is playing with us that way. I always hold his hand tightly and look at him firmly and tell him this is wrong in a firm tone. ...
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My teenager doesn't care about being grounded - what now?

My kid refuses to do his homework and is failing freshman biology, literature, US History and Art in high school. I grounded him and he still won't do the work. I've taken away as many privileges as ...
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Addressing bad behavior after the fact

My 5 (almost 6) year old daughter has started doing things that she knows are wrong when friends are over. From what I can tell, it's not the friends who are instigating the bad behavior, it's my ...
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How to stop a 1-year-old from biting?

I have an adorable, sweet, funny 1-year-old who has developed a bad habit of biting. He usually only bites when he's frustrated, for example: another 1-year-old child I nanny for, cries unless he's ...
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Research into dealing with kids biting

I'm a grandad wondering. I'm watching my kids and their contemporaries deal with various parenting issues that my wife and I encountered ourselves. As they're living some way away I don't often get ...
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How to implement natural consequences to make an 8-year-old stop being rude to a sibling?

I have an 8-year-old son, a 6- and a 2-year-old daughter. My son is a model student but really likes to argue. He's extremely stubborn and always right. When he argues with me, I'll correct him and ...

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