Questions tagged [discipline]

How to enforce the rules you set, and consequences when those rules are broken. Use [behavior] for questions about why children act the way they do.

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Wife uses threats on 4yrold - as her goto method

My wife unfortunately has 0 patience, and a short-fuse. At first pass, she will rationally and politely ask our son to do something, and then follow up with an explanation. But he's at a rebellious ...
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Is a three year old mentally developed enough to comprehend delayed punishment?

Long story short, my three year old threw an epic tantrum at bed time. There were several attempts to address the situation before I was finally able to mollify her. I felt there needed to be ...
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Typical frequency of discplinary issues for a 5-year-old?

My 5-year-old son just started kindergarten a week ago, and has already committed two infractions serious enough for the teacher to bring to our attention: once throwing a serious tantrum, and once ...
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How to keep our infant's hands out of her mouth?

My daughter is 8 months old. She puts her hand in her mouth a lot. Afraid of germs, my wife is trying to avoid this by removing her hands from her mouth. 2 minutes later she puts it again in her mouth!...
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What to do about my toddler wanting everything her way?

We have a 2.5-year-old daughter and we're fighting over everything. Literally everything. When she is alone with someone she is good most of the time, however when there are two of us with her, she ...
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How to properly discipline a toddler?

I am a single dad of a two year old and one of the things I struggle the most with is how to properly discipline her (for lack of a better term). For example, today while we were getting ready to ...
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My baby screams all day long, non-stop, as loud as he can, and he finds it extremely funny

My baby boy is 19 months old, he screams while he plays, while he sits in his high-chair, while he is in his cot, while he has time-out, whatever and wherever he screams, screams, screams and does not ...
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Raise babysittable kids

Background: My wife and I babysat 4 children and the parents made it sound like a) there was a schedule and b) if there were difficulties to just say something like 'are you listening', 'are you ...
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How to handle fighting twin toddlers who started biting each other?

I have twin boys aged 15 months. They normally fight for a toy or anything new. Earlier it was a slap on the other's head with the toy or hand, but now they have started biting each other. Is there ...
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How to handle child's apology for something he says he didn't do

I have a nephew who's in kindergarden. He's shy and dislikes conflict, when other boys get loud, he goes away to where it's quieter. Another boy accused him of having kicked him; he says he didn't do ...
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How can I teach my 5yo son to respect authority?

My kid is nearly 5, and damn clever but unfortunately he lacks empathy and social skills. Among other things, he does not understand that when a parent gives an order, that order is to be followed -- ...
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Five-year-old son constantly fondling himself - is it normal?

When my five-year-old son wears some comfy clothes, like joggers or pyjamas especially after school, he tends to either sit on the sofa or lie on the floor and basically fondle himself. He started ...
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Is it okay to call children naughty?

Inspired by this question: Should our 3 year old boy be made to look at me while I am talking (during discipline)? In this question, the word "naughty" is repeatedly used to describe a child. I ...
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My 6-year-old has angry outbursts, possibly related to a newborn sibling. How can we help her?

Our six-year-old daughter is the eldest of 3 girls: her sisters are 3 years, and 3 months respectively. At varying points during the day she will flare up with rage; the triggers can be play-related (...
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Discipline and how to properly address a 7yr old with behavior/stubbornness & crying for everything

I have had this issue with my girlfriend's daughter, mind you I have been with her for approx 3 years and I seem to have a discussion on how her daughter does not obey or respect what she is told or ...
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Why is my daughter shouting so much?

My ten months old daughter has been in a little nursery for a couple of months now. There, she has begun to act more wildly. It is something we expected and we like her getting in touch with other ...
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How to make my stubborn 11-year-old son study and take care of himself when physical punishment doesn't work?

My 11-year-old son is an intelligent and extroverted boy. He wants to neither study nor take care of his belongings. I have to continuously tell him to do his routine work like bathing, brushing teeth ...
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Completing the homework - how much is this in parents' responsibility and up to which age?

We have a 10-year-old child who is generally not interested in doing homework. He prefers to play games and watch TV. He's bored by homework which requires some patience and concentration, like ...
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My friend's kids are a bad influence on my children

My husband and I have a couple friend who has two children ages 5 (boy) and 2.5 (girl). We have a 3.5-year-old son and a 20-month-old girl. The two families get together quite often. The parents ...
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What to do about my 12-year-old girl out of control and threatening to call the police?

I have an almost 12-year-old daughter. I also have 2 older daughters, 20 and 21. My 12-year-old is out of control. She tells us to shut up, calls us stupid, is just mouthy. She throws her stuff ...
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How to handle a 10-year-old boy who has fallen in love?

My 10-year-old nephew is doing 5th standard schooling. He is normally doesn't do too much, mostly playing video games and watching movies. His education progress is also good. Yesterday, I heard ...
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How to stop my 6-year-old from his aggressive behavior of spitting, biting, abusive language, and scratching?

My 6-year-old child has very aggressive behavior. He is very sweet and caring when he is in a great mood, but he loses his temper in few seconds. For example, when my 10-year-old son touches his ...
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How should I respond to my 5-year-old daughter kicking me?

My daughter is 5 years old. She often "plays" rudely with me. For example, she'll kick me, and I cannot explain clearly to her that the behavior is impolite. Sometimes I kick her (and as a result, ...
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“Back your partner” - how far?

This seems to be axiomatic in parenting discussions. You back your partner in front of the children, even if you disagree or consider they are wrong, and then you talk to them about it in private. I ...
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7yo step-son runs away when he thinks he's in trouble

The child in this case is 7 years old. Just as an example; maybe he breaks his own toy, clearly by accident, but right after I asked him not to do whatever caused the breaking. I would like to calmly ...
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What to do about my out-of-control 12-year-old daughter?

My 12-year-old daughter is a good kid. But when something doesn't go her way she calls me a bitch and cusses a lot. I take her phone away when she does that. She can be so good, but it's like turning ...
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Is there any research on whether punishing more for lies is effective?

In order to dissuade my kids from lying to cover up when they did something bad, I have long adhered to the policy (made clear to the kids) that whatever the bad thing they did, and whatever the ...
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My child spit water in another kid's face - now what?

At a Cub Scout event, my 7-year-old slurped water from a fountain and then squirted at another kid, thinking it was funny. The other child told me about it. My son's reaction has been stoical, he ...
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How do we discourage our infant from pulling hair?

My 4.5 month old son has recently started to grab hold of hair. It seems to be out of comfort or for stability rather than for 'fun', but we would like to discourage this behavior. Is there a way to ...
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What should one do when their teen thinks smoking e-cigarettes is cool and safe?

This question was inspired by a question about pregnancy and exposure to the second hand products of the smoking device known as e cigarettes. My child has a "friend" we work with at the theater ...
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How do you teach a 1 year old to stop biting people?

I have a friend with a one year old that bites people, maybe as a sign of affection, but doesn't know that it hurts others. How can his parents discipline him regarding this behavior? Do you try to ...
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What to do with a 7-year-old who just started stealing?

My 7-year-old daughter is currently on vacation from school until this Monday. Yesterday, she was in "camp" - a full-day version of the after-care program we usually send her to. At some point, she ...
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How do I teach patience to my 7 year old son?

I want to teach patience to my son. How do I teach him? He always wants things done NOW. If I tell him that we will go to a restaurant at night, as soon as I am back from office in the evening, he ...
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Behavior advice to prevent child from touching harness release

Relating to my other question: Device to prevent child from loosening harness release of car seat My daughter, age 3, can now reach the harness release of her car seat, and has lately be defiant. ...
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How can I get my 3.5-year-old to stop sucking his fingers?

My 3.5-year-old son recently started sucking his fingers and sometimes his clothing. When I point it out to him he takes his fingers out of his mouth, but they are soon back in. I can't think of ...
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How can I establish new parental controls for older children

I have an interesting issue. We have two new kids that have come to us with tablets. Normally, we would give children of this age tablets (7 and 11). These tablets would have parental controls, and ...
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Control and power struggles with 4-year-old - runs off and gets angry when challenged

I have a 4-year-old son who although can be very kind, thoughtful and lovely to be around, exhibits difficult behavior at home and at school which I think are related to power struggles and control. ...
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What to do about our 2-year-old always running off?

When outside, our 2-year-old son always runs away from us and, when called back, thinks this is a catch game. No amount of explaining, in any tone of voice, helps him understand this is not a game and ...
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6-year-old son's behavior differs from school and home

Our son is in Kindergarten, and we have been having problems with him misbehaving in school since the beginning of the year. They're saying that he is excessively talking, moving (dancing, moving, etc....
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How to hold my kid accountable for his actions?

I have a kid, 13 years old, male. He is very talented in musical instruments, especially viola. Recently he was asked to perform in a wedding event, along with other kids ( his cousins). He was very ...
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How to make our 3-year-old son stop being violent towards his older sister?

My daughter from a previous marriage was 8 when our son was born. Pretty much since the day he could move he has been hitting his sister with his hands or objects, biting, scratching etc. He is now 3 ...
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How to teach toddlers that rude words are inappropriate?

We, parents are trying to not use those words in front of toddlers even if we have strong disagreement between each other. But this can be more difficult and complex to avoid them speaking since there ...
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Guilt as a natural consequence of bad/wrong behaviour

We all know that natural consequences is the best tool when dealing with inappropriate behaviour. However, one of natural consequences of doing something bad to another person is feeling guilty for ...
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How should I conduct a proper timeout?

This is not a question about whether or not to use timeouts. I am prepared to have that discussion, but not on this question. I believe they have their place in a parent's arsenal, and I also accept ...
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How can I get my 5 year old son to be a better listener and have respect for his classmates and teachers?

My son is 5 years old and started kindergarten this fall. We are almost at the end of the second semester and his behavior seems to be deteriorating instead of improving. Today we got this email from ...
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How can I abate my son's growing habit of lying?

My son has begun to lie fairly frequently over the past couple of months. He used to tell lies by making up stories that were fantastic and clearly not true. He has recently graduated to telling "bold ...
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How do I deal with my out of control 3-year-old?

My son will be 4 in a month, and he is very aggressive toward his brothers. He hits, kicks, bites them and takes their toys. He screams at my 1-year-old constantly when he touches anything or ...
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How to stop 5-year-old hitting?

My 5-year-old sons' behaviour has deteriorated over the last 9 months but mostly in the last 4 months has it been more noticeable. He will hit and lash out at both myself and my partner's children ...
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What to do about my 3.5-year-old daughter's tantrums, which have worsened?

My daughter has not really had many full-blown tantrums when she was younger, ever. But now at 3.5 years old, almost 4 years old (on 8/27). She has been having the worst tantrums ever. First, she used ...
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Disciplining: what to do when kid starts hiding his mischief?

We try to set well-defined/predictable and not-to-harsh consequences for mischief of our 4.5-year-old: timeouts, taking away toys, refusing to play, skipping story-time, etc., but no physical ...

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