Questions tagged [discipline]

How to enforce the rules you set, and consequences when those rules are broken. Use [behavior] for questions about why children act the way they do.

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How to make our 5-year-old stop biting children at school?

We have a 5-year-old son. He has bitten on two occasions in class. At school they have set up a positive behaviour chart and he has had to give an apology drawing to the children he hurt. The teacher ...
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How to make my toddler stop biting his nails if at all?

My son is 2 years and 4 months old. He is very smart. Lately, he began biting his nails, so his nails are always short. I do not know whether he swallows the cut nails or not, but I rarely see the ...
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How to deal with a 20-month-old demanding to be picked up all the time?

Our 20-month-old constantly demands that we pick him up, usually only when we are at home. Once picked up he will normally direct us into the kitchen where he will point at foods etc. that he wants to ...
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Six year old boy screams

I have a six year old old grandnephew who when he gets mad screams at the top of his lungs and when he crys about something he somehow can move it up a couple of octaves. I want to smack him. I don'...
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How to tell off a 2-year-old boy

I assume that this question has already been asked on countless occasions but I haven't been able to find the answer to it! I'm a separated father who sees his son 2 days a month. As you can imagine ...
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How to make my 3-year-old stop throwing things at people?

My 3-year-old boy throws things at people for no reason. Sometimes he just needs attention and sometimes he's just doing this for fun, but it has been very hard on us because it gave me a black eye ...
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How to deal with a very incorrigibly naughty 5-year-old who? [duplicate]

My 5-year-old has been an absolute nightmare. He hits his 2-year-old sister and blames it on her, argues back saying "no way" all the time, and will not do as he is told to. He keeps having major ...
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15 months old and above baby: sleep discipline

My 15 months old baby has started to walk and talk. Well, he says dad, mum, water, and some other words. Usually he wakes up once or twice during night, but sometimes he does 3, 4 or 5 times. In ...
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Wife uses threats on 4yrold - as her goto method

My wife unfortunately has 0 patience, and a short-fuse. At first pass, she will rationally and politely ask our son to do something, and then follow up with an explanation. But he's at a rebellious ...
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My 5-year-old daughter is out of control. What can I do?

My 5-year-old daughter just won't listen anymore. If you ask her something, she'll say No. She's been hitting, eye rolling and all. I have taken toys away to the point where she has only a bed and put ...
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How to deal with our almost 4-year-old who is out of control and no punishments worked so far?

I am a 20-year-old mom of an almost 4-year-old and a 9-month-old. My oldest has gotten out of control. He won't listen to anything we tell him. We have tried spanking him, time outs, taking all his ...
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How common is spanking a middle schooler in the US? [closed]

I learned recently that my fiancé's sister does this. He told me that it is, while not especially common anymore, still at least not rare in America and acceptable to a significant percentage of the ...
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Encouraging good homework habits at preschool age

Our 4 year old daughter's preschool gives out little homework books to help the kids start to learn letters and numbers on their own time. They work in these books weekly at school, but participation ...
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How to make my son stop hitting his playmate?

My son likes to play with other children, but eventually he hits them when he got mad on them. Then I just get him from their playground and tell him to stay at home and play alone. Is this the right ...
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Almost 9 year old regularly seeking attention

My boyfriend's 8-will-be-9-in-a-month daughter is with us for the summer. Her mom lives many states away so summer is dad/daughter time while mom has her for the school year. I am having troubles ...
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How to talk with my six-year-old

I have a six-year-old daughter who is almost never shy or afraid to voice her opinion, but there are times when she is just a bit much to handle. Sometimes she'll misbehave in public in a fairly loud ...
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Kids are yelling over the fence

My kids and the neighbor's kid are all in the same kindergarten group. Despite having plenty of interaction there, they seek even more contact. That's not bad in itself, of course, but it's annoying ...
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My son is discouraged

I have a 10-yr-old son. He's a fifth grader right now and I have been really worried about his attitude toward homework and everything that has to do with studying. He constantly calls himself stupid ...
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Fake driver's license discovered — how to deal with situation?

My 17-year-old daughter leaves her purse in the car, even at night. This is really unsafe, even for the city we live in. I wanted to teach her a lesson about the dangers of leaving valuables in a car ...
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Getting things done - balancing directives vs. autonomy (elementary school age)

I'm the father of a 9 year old boy, who, while in the top tier regarding intelligence and grades, has a serious problem of 'getting things done'. Simple things. The issue does not occur at school ...
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How to control an angry and stubborn 5-year-old child?

My 5-year-old son demonstrates really bad behaviour which is embarrassing and upsetting me. This has been on going for the last 4 months. At home, he is extremely naughty, and just doesn't listen to ...
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My son is 6 and goes to the bath room but doesnt like to wipe

he comes home from school soiled on his underwear and rashed really bad. He doesnt care that kids make fun of him. I need help. Its happening every day.
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What to do about an overly confident 4.5-year-old who retaliates at nursery?

Our 4.5-year-old son has recently been getting into trouble at nursery. On three separate occasions now we have been called in to speak to the teachers there as he has done something naughty. This has ...
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Problems with my son's friend

My son's 11 year old (male) friend, whom I will call Mike for the sake of discussion, is loud and rude. At the beginning of the school year, Mike asked me if I was willing to drive him home ...
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How to make our 18-month-old twins stop biting?

I have 18 months old twin girls who recently started to bite, both their sister and us. It's not like when they were teething, it's an aggressive move. We've tried to talk to them explaining that it'...
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Why is my daughter shouting so much?

My ten months old daughter has been in a little nursery for a couple of months now. There, she has begun to act more wildly. It is something we expected and we like her getting in touch with other ...
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How to make a 2.5-year-old stop beating, biting and hurting others if he thinks it is a game?

I have a 2.5-year-old son. He is very hyperactive, and somehow he thinks that beating, biting, throwing things and hurting others is a game. He threw a toy car at me once and it hurt me badly. He ...
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What could be the effects of telling a small child “The bad man is going to come” as a threat to enforce good behavior? [duplicate]

My childhood best friend's family would tell their young daughter, maybe 5-7 years old things like "Im gonna call the bad man" or "The bad man's gonna get ya if you dont be good." I dont think they ...
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4 year old, biological Mom used drugs, behavior out of control

I have a 4 yr. old Son, he was adopted at birth. His biological "mom" used meth during pregnancy. I knew that he could develop problems in regard to behaviors. He's extremely bright, learns easy ...
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How to improve the relationship between my misbehaving 8-year-old stepchild and me?

I've been with my other half for nearly 4 years and have been known to his now 8-year-old daughterfor a little longer than that. She has been aware of our relationship for around 3.5 years. When we ...
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My 6 years old boy behavior is terrible at school and home

My 6 year old son breaks everything can can put his hands on, talks back to me, and bothers his sister and brother all the time. He can't stay focused in school and will be left behind this year, ...
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How can I deal with a misbehaving 17-year-old girl?

I have a 17-year-old daughter. She does not respect me, she shouts at me and she goes to parties where there are older friends and alcohol consumption, against my wishes. She just goes out every day ...
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How to handle older kids with my younger son

I have a 3 year old son. He's quite outgoing with kids around his age and with most adults. He goes to daycare a few days a week and interacts fine with the other kids. However he is sensitive and ...
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5 yr old behavioral/anger problems

My daughter, in the past 6 months has been displaying severe anger. When a toy doesn't come together, if she doesn't get her way... she throws herself on the floor and starts kicking and screaming. ...
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What to do about 6.5-year-old grandson out of control?

About 1 1/2 years ago my grandson started acting out. It has now become so bad and we need to get him under control. First off I will say that my grandson lives with his mother as his mother and ...
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7-year old with Asperger's caught stealing - how to deal with that?

Today my 7-year old child was caught stealing in their classroom. They suffer from light Asperger's, so I'm not sure that they even notice having done something wrong. I'm not eager to punish my child ...
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What to do when there's a conflict between my husband and my 14-year-old daughter?

My husband and I have been married for 8 years. We have 4 kids (2 are from previous relationships.) My daughter is the oldest at 14. Her biological dad isn't around, so my husband is the only father ...
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Effective ways to discipline my 5 year old

My five year old can be challenging at times. She just started kindergarten this year and has improved with her behavior some, but still makes bad decisions that she knows better than to make. She can ...
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Is it possible to control iPad message language without my 10-year-old daughter hating me?

A few weeks ago I found my 10-year-old daughter using inappropriate language on her iPad. As it was the first time I caught her swearing, and the message was more in her own defense of another's ...
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How to be a good Single Mom with a large family and dealing with ADHD

I am recently divorced and have full custody of our six children. My husband was violent with the children and I'm not sure how to discipline them without using violence. My children range in age from ...
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12yr old daughter defying consequence and out of control

My daughter is 12 years old and is obsessed with social media apps and chatting with friends online, whether on her phone or computer. She is currently banned from using Instagram and snapchat, due to ...
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How to help my violent 5-year-old son become calmer?

I have a beautiful 5-year-old son (almost 6). Over the past 6 months, his aggression and behaviour are becoming really difficult and hard to handle. He has been quite violent towards himself (hitting ...
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Is there an evidence-based study regarding the long-term psychological effects of spanking? [duplicate]

Any answers to this question I would hope would cite at least one reputable source; I'm really not looking for 40 opinions. As a nonspanker, I'm frequently surprised this is still in practice around ...
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Discipline and managing a 5 year old

My daughter will turn 5 in the next 3 months. I am having a hard time controlling her and getting her to listen to me. She is defiant and argues about everything. She has even started hitting me. If I ...
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What to do about step children who don't listen to us, don't do their chores but are being spoiled by their grand mother?

My husband has two lovely boys, age 8 and 9. Boys are staying over in in-laws' house to finish their school. Boys are coming over for weekends and I take them to school on Mondays. We are having ...
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How do I get my one year old to stop grinding her teeth?

My daughter is thirteen months old and has four teeth on top and two on the bottom. She is constantly grinding them against each other, which is not only bad for her, but also makes a sound that makes ...
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What to do if your threaten be your older sister! [closed]

So I was in my home doing nothing but making some updates to my wifi network when my sister came and something happened between my sister,mother and I my sister 17 year old and me 13 year old went out ...
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What to do when a 12-year-old boy has defeated behavior management program (Kazdin method)?

I am in a six year relationship with a woman who has two kids, a 15-year-old girl and a 12-year-old boy. We have moved a lot. The child's father has been incarcerated for most of the child's life. ...
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My 13 yo son has drug and alcohol issues. What should I do?

My 13 year old son has been smoking and selling weed for at least a year now, drinks whenever he can get any alcohol, and has been black-out drunk. He also smokes cigarettes and vapes. (He's also done ...
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My 6-year-old daughter is hitting her teacher and talking back!

I have a 6-year-old daughter. Today, my babysitter said that my child hit her teacher. She hit her in the mouth and didn't say sorry when the teacher asked her to say sorry. Then the teacher said she ...

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