Questions tagged [discipline]

How to enforce the rules you set, and consequences when those rules are broken. Use [behavior] for questions about why children act the way they do.

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Wife agrees with parenting, but is intentionally less strict

The situation is this: My wife and I are married and happy together, with one single child, who is still pretty young (5). It is a little boy, but the question would work regardless of gender. We ...
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How to tell my mother that the way she handled my little brother's try to hurt a kid disappoints me?

My little brother is 7 years old, and he along with two other kids were on our trampoline out back. The girl who was with them is 8 years old and told my brother to push the other boy off the ...
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Parent insists I lied and getting punished for it

My parents insist that I lied to them about a chore. It was an accident and not intentional. They do not believe me yet I don't lie to them. I am getting punished big time and don't know what to do. ...
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How to deal with my 8-year-old son's behavioural problems at school and at home?

My 8-year-old son has just started his classes in the 2nd Grade and within a month I have received guardian calls from his teachers three times. After meeting with them, I got to know that he talks a ...
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Do parents get punishment too?

Just because we are parents does not mean we are infallible. We are definitely capable of bad behavior and sometimes our children see or are affected by it. If we do something wrong that we would ...
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Do I enforce a punishment/retribution promised some time ago?

Three weeks ago while visiting relatives, my seven year old nephew (who is generally terribly behaved) was particularly nasty to my two year old daughter. Amongst the issues was him refusing to ...
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How to motivate my extremely lazy 12-year-old?

My 12-year-old son is a good kid, but he is extremely unmotivated to do literally anything unless I or his mother are constantly riding him the whole time. As a young child, he was "easy" to raise ...
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5yr old son becomes much more disobedient in public vs. in private

I'm a single mom and lost my partner when my son was 6 months old. My son is going to be 5 in June and most of the time when we are alone he is a very well behaved boy. The moment we are in a crowd ...
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A stranger's child throws a piece of garbage onto the ground, out of sight of their parents. Should I say or do anything?

I am a male childless adult living in England. I rarely interact with children. Last weekend, I observed how a boy (perhaps 8 years old) threw a piece of garbage onto the ground, despite being ...
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How to deal with two 10- and 12-year-old brothers fighting?

I am a father of 10- and 12-year-old boys. Both used to play happily and regularly and fought on occasions. The younger boy used to complain about his older brother with some deep cries and proof of ...
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Discipline and how to properly address a 7yr old with behavior/stubbornness & crying for everything

I have had this issue with my girlfriend's daughter, mind you I have been with her for approx 3 years and I seem to have a discussion on how her daughter does not obey or respect what she is told or ...
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What to do about my 3-year-old acting out in daycare?

I have about had it with my 3-year-old son. He has me at my wits' end with everything. He goes to daycare with his sisters and the past week or so he has acted out horribly and I can't figure out why. ...
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How to deal with my 12 year old son being allegedly caught cheating at school

My son, 12, is a good student who always gets A's. He takes his schoolwork very seriously and does his homework on time. Today I received a shocking call from his teacher that he was caught cheating....
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Is it too late to read for my baby?

We have created a bad habit of our baby watching TV at a very young age. He is now turning 1 this month and he starts to babble on some words. I am a first time mother and I have been anxious about ...
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My 5 year-old son is defiant, especially at school. How can I improve his behavior?

I’m struggling to find ways to influence my 5-year-old son's behavior. What we’ve done at home seems to result in only short-term effects. He is the middle child between a 10- and a 2-year-old sister....
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How to deal with my 2-year-old daughter crying and getting angry when we don't give her what she asks for?

My daughter is 2 years and 4 months old. Yesterday, she asked me to give her my phone and I told her, "No this is mine." She started crying and hitting me and then she bit me. I got shocked, then I ...
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11 month old doesn't want to be away from mom or dad

My son is 11 months and he is our first baby. My husband leaves him in the daycare for about an hour so my husband can do the things he needs to do - i work at daytime. The problem is when we leave ...
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How to teach toddlers that rude words are inappropriate?

We, parents are trying to not use those words in front of toddlers even if we have strong disagreement between each other. But this can be more difficult and complex to avoid them speaking since there ...
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Our 10 month old baby spits food in our faces to entertain us

We've had no problems feeding our 10 months old baby, and in general she eats (almost) all her meals without complaining. However, she figured out a few weeks back that spitting out the food is fun, ...
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Seeking advice, guidance and tips for behavioral improvement

I have two daughters of age 4 and 2. I still doing breastfeeding to both of them by hoping better developed child. First you can comment on about it. The one main thing about I like to ask about is ...
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How to tell your child it's no longer funny/a game?

We've recently put our 2 year old (27 month) daughter in a new bed without (cot) sides. At first she adapted wonderfully and didn't get up until morning. Of late however, things are getting slowly ...
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Is the 'naughty chair' an effective strategy to punish children?

I am a great skeptic in punishment in general as the most common methods seem to become irrelevant when the child grows up (confiscation of games, threats, verbal or corporal reprimands...). Since all ...
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Sleeping problems

Hi everyone I am new in this field and I have so many questions but I believe the most important for now is how to recover a good sleep pattern for my wife. Well my daughter is 11 month old ...
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How to make twin toddlers stop biting each other without physical punishment?

How can I stop my almost 2-year-old twins from biting each other? I've tried almost everything and nothing works, so I'm looking for some other suggestions. They are biting to the point of bruises. It'...
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My friend's kids are a bad influence on my children

My husband and I have a couple friend who has two children ages 5 (boy) and 2.5 (girl). We have a 3.5-year-old son and a 20-month-old girl. The two families get together quite often. The parents ...
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How do I get my 8-year-old, who was diagnosed with ADHD, to be respectful and do her chores?

I have an integrated family and I have 3 children in total: My husband's 14-year-old daughter, my 8-year-old daughter and our 5-month-old son. My 8-year-old has ADHD which I'm having difficulty with ...
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Resisting and screaming toddler.

We been having trouble with our toddler who is 1 year n 1 month. He is very mischievous but lately he has adapted screaming and resisting habit which is worrying for us. I am working all day. He is ...
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Research into dealing with kids biting

I'm a grandad wondering. I'm watching my kids and their contemporaries deal with various parenting issues that my wife and I encountered ourselves. As they're living some way away I don't often get ...
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Will a child understand what's wrong about asking for things costing money and then not wanting them, when you confiscate some of their money?

Similar to this question, but not about behaviour. My son is 5 years old now, and I give him lots of choices that he is free to make on his own. A while ago, he started asking for certain foods (that ...
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What are the legal, emotional, and/or behavioral repercussions of confiscating money as a punishment?

Let's assume I'm a parent and that I use this punishment, for the sake of the question. The primary punishment I use to discipline my children is to confiscate money. It seems fairly effective in ...
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What to do about my out-of-control 12-year-old daughter?

My 12-year-old daughter is a good kid. But when something doesn't go her way she calls me a bitch and cusses a lot. I take her phone away when she does that. She can be so good, but it's like turning ...
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6-year-old is crazy only with us

My wife and I are pulling our hair out. Our 6-year-old daughter behaves very well at school and with others, yet at home, when it's just us, she is the complete polar opposite. We have had to restrain ...
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6 year old daughter: a bully? manipulative? sensitive? or just difficult?

My 6 year old daughter is amazing in many ways - she is smart, creative, likes school, gets along well at school, is independent...on her good days. However, I'm really struggling with her at home. ...
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How can I get my 5 year old son to be a better listener and have respect for his classmates and teachers?

My son is 5 years old and started kindergarten this fall. We are almost at the end of the second semester and his behavior seems to be deteriorating instead of improving. Today we got this email from ...
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My child spit water in another kid's face - now what?

At a Cub Scout event, my 7-year-old slurped water from a fountain and then squirted at another kid, thinking it was funny. The other child told me about it. My son's reaction has been stoical, he ...
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How do you get your kids to do their chores at home?

My kids are 4 and 5 years old, so I need to always "supervise" them to make sure that they are doing their chores. Sometimes it's a bit frustrating. Any tips or advice on how to handle it better?
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What to do about a 5-year-old girl being violent and insulting?

I have a 5-year-old daughter and an 8-year-old son. My daughter is normally a sweet, passionate, and loving child. There are no problems in school at all. Lately, she has started being violent ...
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Child throws things…how to handle it?

My 3 year old son has been throwing things when he gets mad at people. He basically needs a way to express his anger... How do I handle this? How do I discipline him?
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My 5-year-old son is not disciplined in class

My son is 5 and half years old. He's very charming, extremely smart, and way more mature than his peers. However, since last year I'm facing this same issue with him at school: While his teachers ...
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Control and power struggles with 4-year-old - runs off and gets angry when challenged

I have a 4-year-old son who although can be very kind, thoughtful and lovely to be around, exhibits difficult behavior at home and at school which I think are related to power struggles and control. ...
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How should staff deal with loud children in oral surgeon office lobby?

I am the office manager at an oral surgeon's office and the staff is telling me that there is a problem with the patients being annoyed by loud children in the lobby. This is when the patient is in ...
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How do I change my Brother negative thinking, and bad attitude and addiction towards computer games

I'm his older Sister, 15 years old and my Brother is only 13 years old. He has been very addicted to the computer, online games and apps on tablets. Although this may seem like a common problem for ...
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Two Year Old Being Intentionally Disobedient

I have a two year old who is occasionally intentionally disobedient. She's quite well developed for her age and understands instructions given. But at the dinner table she is often quite disobedient,...
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What to do with my pre-teen daughter who has been out of control since a severe accident?

Last December we were victims of a vehicle accident that killed my husband and left my son severely brain damaged. My daughter who is 12 and will be 13 in couple months was the only one in our vehicle ...
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Can having a computer game temporarily go blank when kids are too loud have adverse emotional effects?

There is a very popular question where a father says: My kids (4 and 5) yell a lot when playing games on the computer. I found an effective cure for this. When I hear loud noises, I [remotely] ...
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My son's arrogant behaviour

My 3-year-old son acts very arrogantly, throwing things and shouting loudly, to people who oppose him for whatever he does. How can I teach him not to do this?
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How do I punish my 4-year-old for biting at school?

My 4-year-old daughter got in trouble for biting today at school. She's been struggling behaviorally in school for a while now. I'm not sure if it's appropriate to take toys and TV from her and if so ...
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How to make my preschooler stop acting out in school when I don't even know who started it?

My child is continuously acting up at school. Almost daily she comes home with a bad note about how she wasn't nice to friends or being defiant. I'm worried that, regardless of what actually ...
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7 year old has tantrums only at home

My almost 8 year old is a smart boy at school, is a role model and "a stabilising influence" on kids with anger issues (according to the school, so he sits next to troubled kids). Our problem is that ...
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How to change a 4-year-old's violent and defiant behavior when his parents made him our responsibility?

My fiancé's nephew is 4 years old. He refuses to show respect and manners to adult figures; he constantly cusses (his favorite word is "wtf bitch", and he says it to me only.) He also constantly ...

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