Questions tagged [discipline]

How to enforce the rules you set, and consequences when those rules are broken. Use [behavior] for questions about why children act the way they do.

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How to discipline our 16-month-old son who stopped listening to us and started to misbehave?

Our 1-year- and 4-month-old son's behavior was perfect before - he always listened to us. But now it seems that he takes a completely different direction. For example, we explain to him that ...
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How to handle 5-year-old granddaughter shouting “Get out” (of her room)?

If you walk into our 5-year-old granddaughter's room while she is playing with her dolls, she will tell you "I want time alone" and if you do not leave within several seconds she will look at you in a ...
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My 4 year old won't eat a meal in under an hour.

He used to be a great eater. My step kids were fussy eaters. Now the roles have reversed. My son takes an hour or more to eat a small meal. The tension at mealtimes is palpable. I have had some ...
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How to make my 1-year-old understand when she is being scolded?

I have a 14-month-old child. She's very active and likes to grab anything that catches her attention. Whenever we teach her something such as mama and papa, she doesn't want to listen, and her ...
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Which approach is appropriate to manage a 14-year old boy that constantly ignores his parents?

I have recently had the worst problems with my son ever. Since two and a half years he is non-stop ignoring rules and being cheeky to me and my wife. At first we thought that this kind of behaviour ...
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Is “slapping a badly-behaved child” against the law in US? [closed]

I heard a violent argument between a mother and her child. Obviously it was the child's mistake and he said something really really bad that must have hurt mother's feelings. His words made ...
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How do I make it clear to a one year old that I'm unhappy, when it enjoys being scolded?

There are already good answers here, but in the case of my one year old, he actually enjoys when I scold him (tell him No! etc.). It's usually him scratching people/pulling somebody's hair etc. I ...
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How to stop a one year old from biting?

My nephew is just over a year and my family is struggling with his biting. He has often bitten during times when nothing obvious really prompted him to (i.e. wants something, is angry/tired/sad). It ...
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My 2.5-year-old son likes to break things

When we are having lunch or dinner, my 2.5-year-old son likes to break or throw things from the table. He throws sugar pots, cups, plates, etc. Almost everything that can be broken, he will throw it. ...
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My 12-year-old daughter is not appreciative

My daughter just turned 12. She is the only child for me and my husband, but we both have other (grown) children from the first marriages. Our daughter is like an angel to us and we love her beyond ...
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Son having problems going to pre k

My 4 year old has been going to pre-kindergarten for a little over a month. He has been having problems in class behaving. He talks back to his teachers and tells them "no" along with trying to do ...
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Uncontrollable child

My girlfriend of two years has an 11-yearold son who is completely out of hand. She and I both are at our wits end trying to help him or figure out his behavior or correct it. Today she got our ...
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What kind of negative reinforcement works good on your 5 year old for misbehavior?

My son has few unwanted behavior I like to reduce. For example he throws objects like pencil, toys etc sometimes in frustration and sometimes he just enjoys. He throws papers outside our patio and he ...
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What to do about our 8-year-old boy getting in trouble at his new school after having been taken away from his mom?

Our 8-year-old boy is now living with us, taken away from his mom due to abuse and now living with his dad, new home and new school. He spent his first 7 years with his mom and dad had weekend visits ...
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Is a three year old mentally developed enough to comprehend delayed punishment?

Long story short, my three year old threw an epic tantrum at bed time. There were several attempts to address the situation before I was finally able to mollify her. I felt there needed to be ...
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Can they suspend an IEP student in kindergarten?

My son is in kindergarten this year with an IEP related to autism. He was suspended today for behavior the reason given on suspension form is caused, attempted or threatened to cause physical injury. ...
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What to do when child asks from older kids and they refuse

Background. My son is 4 years old and, as all other kids, is very fond of video games. He has a limited screen time, and currently his tablet was broken by his younger sister. He cried but then ...
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Am I really just taking advantage or is my mom abusive?

I am a 34-year-old single mother of 4. My children are 14 years old, 13 years old, 5 years old, and 9 months old. Just to give a little background, in March of 2016 my brother died suddenly on my ...
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Please give me some advice, he doesn't listen to his teachers and always running around in school [closed]

Hello my son is 5 year's old and just started Primary School with a July birthday he is one of the youngest, it break's my heart to say he is being very naughty at school, he was a angel in Foundation ...
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What to do about 3-year-old boy hitting kids at preschool when bored?

My 3-years-old boy just started the preschool. He is not listening, he is bored by the activities that the other kids are doing, he hits the children and he is laughing. (it seems like he is having ...
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How can I establish new parental controls for older children

I have an interesting issue. We have two new kids that have come to us with tablets. Normally, we would give children of this age tablets (7 and 11). These tablets would have parental controls, and ...
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How to deal with my 13-year-old son's friend, who makes me feel uncomfortable?

I am 38-year-old mother to a 13-year-old son. He is close friends with a boy (let's call him Alex). I have noticed earlier Alex behaving weirdly before me like complimenting me on my looks, things I ...
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What to do about my boyfriend's 6-year-old who behaves very badly when away from his parents?

My boyfriend has a 6-year-old boy for whom he has primary custody over. He visits his mother for the summer, some holidays, talks to her via Skype and on the phone. He seems to have a very loving and ...
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My 16 year old daughter got a speeding ticket

About 3 weeks ago, my 16-year-old daughter got a speeding ticket for doing 46mph (74 km/h) in a 20mph (33 km/h) zone. (No, it's not a typo.) She was coming home after school with no place to be ...
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Caught my 16-year-old with his vape

So, we heard through the grapevine my 16-year-old might be vaping. We don't approve but because we didn't want to divulge our source, let it go. Today, he walked through the door carrying it in his ...
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Consequences: Act or talk first?

I'm in disagreement with my spouse on how to handle consequences for our usually well behaved 2.5yo toddler. I prefer telling him how to behave, e.g. "Don't sit on your baby brother" (and pulling him ...
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How should I address daycare reports of misbehaving 4.5-year-old?

Our 4.5-year-old has been in daycare since three months, and at the same daycare for nearly four years. His behavior at daycare has generally been a little up and down, mostly good days with some bad ...
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5 year old kindergarten student threatened with expulsion

My 5 year old son has a rough time at his new school. He keeps running away from the teachers and doesn't do his work requested. We were told there is zero tolerance for running away, and after 2 more ...
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how do i discipline a stubborn and angry 13 year old daughter [closed]

How do I discipline a 13 year old daughter who is very stubborn and won't listen to her parents and keeps doing everything that we don't want her to do e.g smoking, sneeking out of the house when ...
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When my 5-year-old is throwing a tantrum, should I leave her alone or stay?

My 5-year-old daughter is generally a pleasant and balanced girl, but sometimes she will get really, really mad and throw a major tantrum. This usually happens when something does not go her way (even ...
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What to do with a 5 soon to be 6 year old that likes getting you upset?

We have a great little boy. He was absolutely perfect until he turned 5 years old. He is almost 6 now and he is just a handful. He talks back, does not listen, refuses to admit fault and laughs and ...
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How to stop a 1-year-old from biting?

I have an adorable, sweet, funny 1-year-old who has developed a bad habit of biting. He usually only bites when he's frustrated, for example: another 1-year-old child I nanny for, cries unless he's ...
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How to deal with my 9 year old son who is not listening to me

I am a working woman. My son is 9 and is actually a good boy. But when I am ask him to study, to complete his school homework and do the studying that I give him, he just tells me that he will do it ...
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How would I tell my Father-In-Law that he's being too lenient in disciplining my brother-in-law?

My wife and I are newlyweds, we married last December, and we're still trying to straighten out the paperwork for our new home. I've been staying with my wife in her family's home for couple of months....
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How to get the attention of my 3.5-year-old?

My 3.5-year-old son is very talkative and very focused/determined/stubborn. A lot of times when we verbally try to get his attention it seems that he is ignoring us or that he is 'not hearing' ...
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Why am I so scared to become a parent?

My wife and I are looking forward to try to have a child sometime soon. She's really excited about it, but I can't help but be really scared. My main fear is that I want to give our child the best ...
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My 3-year-old daughter, who lives with my ex-wife, put me in time out in a dark room. Shall I be worried that she imitated what's being done to her?

Long story short married for 3 years, daughter is currently 3, divorced for 1 year. This year, for Father's day, my ex-wife let me spend the whole day with my daughter, which I was over the moon ...
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How do I teach patience to my 7 year old son?

I want to teach patience to my son. How do I teach him? He always wants things done NOW. If I tell him that we will go to a restaurant at night, as soon as I am back from office in the evening, he ...
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How to deal with tantrums in my 5-year-old?

My 5-year-old can't seem to shake off the temper tantrums! Probably because while trying to "fix" it, I've unintentionally given him attention for it. I've gotten to the point of enough. I've done the ...
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How to properly discipline a toddler?

I am a single dad of a two year old and one of the things I struggle the most with is how to properly discipline her (for lack of a better term). For example, today while we were getting ready to ...
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How to cope with my guilt about the way I punished my child?

My 9-year-old child is afraid of swimming, although he is good at parts of it. In just 6-7 days, he is now able to float and can swim a half of the length of the pool. But he doesn't go into the pool ...
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Wife agrees with parenting, but is intentionally less strict

The situation is this: My wife and I are married and happy together, with one single child, who is still pretty young (5). It is a little boy, but the question would work regardless of gender. We ...
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How to tell my mother that the way she handled my little brother's try to hurt a kid disappoints me?

My little brother is 7 years old, and he along with two other kids were on our trampoline out back. The girl who was with them is 8 years old and told my brother to push the other boy off the ...
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Parent insists I lied and getting punished for it

My parents insist that I lied to them about a chore. It was an accident and not intentional. They do not believe me yet I don't lie to them. I am getting punished big time and don't know what to do. ...
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How to deal with my 8-year-old son's behavioural problems at school and at home?

My 8-year-old son has just started his classes in the 2nd Grade and within a month I have received guardian calls from his teachers three times. After meeting with them, I got to know that he talks a ...
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Do parents get punishment too?

Just because we are parents does not mean we are infallible. We are definitely capable of bad behavior and sometimes our children see or are affected by it. If we do something wrong that we would ...
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Do I enforce a punishment/retribution promised some time ago?

Three weeks ago while visiting relatives, my seven year old nephew (who is generally terribly behaved) was particularly nasty to my two year old daughter. Amongst the issues was him refusing to ...
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How to motivate my extremely lazy 12-year-old?

My 12-year-old son is a good kid, but he is extremely unmotivated to do literally anything unless I or his mother are constantly riding him the whole time. As a young child, he was "easy" to raise ...
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5yr old son becomes much more disobedient in public vs. in private

I'm a single mom and lost my partner when my son was 6 months old. My son is going to be 5 in June and most of the time when we are alone he is a very well behaved boy. The moment we are in a crowd ...
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A stranger's child throws a piece of garbage onto the ground, out of sight of their parents. Should I say or do anything?

I am a male childless adult living in England. I rarely interact with children. Last weekend, I observed how a boy (perhaps 8 years old) threw a piece of garbage onto the ground, despite being ...