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How to enforce the rules you set, and consequences when those rules are broken. Use [behavior] for questions about why children act the way they do.

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What to do when a pre-schooler refuses to perform routine tasks?

I've recently observed a lot of parenting and I must admit that it's left me baffled and overly cynical. My primary question is this: What do you do when a pre-schooler, say 4-5 years old, refuses to ...
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How to respond to pranking 7 year old?

My kid discovered and started enjoying pranking. For example, he will ring the doorbell and then hide in the bushes, or pour water in our mailbox. He really enjoys this and I find it impossible to be ...
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Deal with child in self-destruct mode with sibling

My partner and I have each a kid - an 8 year old girl and a 9 year old boy. The girl believes that anything the boy gets, she should get as well - no matter how it was obtained. This is how she views ...
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Should a teenager coming out of quarantine be held responsible to clean up after themself?

My almost 15 year old son recently had to spend 10 days in the basement, due to a member of his school testing positive for COVID-19 (he tested negative). During that time he had the run of the whole ...
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Time between behaviour and consequence, is there a general rule of thumb per age?

I have a two year old; I know that, especially with young children, they don't really connect a consequence in the future with a behaviour now. ("If you do that you can't have dessert after supper", ...
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"I don't like this" vs. "Leave me alone"

My two pre-schoolers (almost 4, almost 5) sometimes play rough with each other, e.g. when fighting over some toy. When one of them asks us parents for help, it's sometimes part of the game (they want ...
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How to design a reward system when there are several kids?

My children ages: 2,4,6 (boy, boy, girl) I will like to give rewards like puzzles, games, and Lego's. Kids very excited to get gifts as rewards, and they like those things belong to them. The ...
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How to handle spontanous confessions of naughty deeds by primary-schooler?

Our son will sometimes open up around bedtime. This is when I hear about how things are at school or what he is afraid of. But sometimes he confesses naughty things he did. In some cases he is ...
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Punishing the younger sibling for bullying (physically abusing) the sibling that's 10 years older

What are pedagogically effective ways to punish a 14 year old for bullying the one that's 24 years old? There has been no effect in talking and explaining, and the younger one doesn't really go out ...
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How long should i let my two year old cry for before giving up and giving her what she wants?

My daughter is 2 years and one month old. Her eating isn't great, I suspect because we let her eat treats at mealtimes, regardless of whether she eats the nutritious stuff we put in front of her. So ...
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How can I get my teenager to go to school?

Teenage daughter refusing to go to school Very similar situation! 15yr old, been going through this for a couple years. Hates idea of home schooled so says, that will make it much worse. She likes ...
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Dealing with other peoples kids who don't know when to stop

Initially my question was, how do I discipline other people's children but I am not sure that is the right question, nor is it something I actually want to do. More over, I need to understand better ...
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Making time for yourself

My son has recently developed a habit of ,following around. If I come upstair he will follow, if I go down stair he will follow, and if he is with his uncle the uncle laugh so loud and fanatic that it ...
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How to teach a 4 year-old-child to handle tantrums?

My 4 year old son only accepts appreciation, he cannot accept "No,Don't..". A few neighbor kids came home to play with my son, he slightly tapped a 2 year old friend in his head, a 12 year girl who ...
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How to stop child wandering in neighbor home?

When I take my four year old son into another person's house (such as a relative's home or a neighbor's home), he will wander around, going into other rooms, playing on furniture that he shouldn't ...
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How to deal with toddler discipline and tantrums

Obviously toddlers have different behaviours so this is not an easy one size fits all question. So I am asking generically as opposed to specifically. Today I had to discipline my toddler for a very ...
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5yrs old being bossy... Is this too much or tolerable at this age?

My daughter is nearly 5yrs old and goes to kindergarten. Recently her classmate's (call her A) parent reports to the class teacher that my daughter bosses A verbally to the point that A refuses to go ...
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How to answer my 5 year old why I can tell her what she has to do, and why she can't tell me what to do

In the morning there are lots of things to be done before heading off to preschool. I'm acting like a policeman every morning to get those things done and to push my child to go out. Every day I have ...
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Kind of punishment appropriate [closed]

Today while at work I received a call from school.My stepson had put a chemical in another kids food. That kid was bullying my stepson really bad from day 1 of school. Fortunately the chemical wasnt ...
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How to deal with a 6 year old who was "caught" cheating?

This is regarding my son who is 6 years old and is studying in Grade 1. We got a call from his class teacher that he was caught "cheating" during dictation assessment. Actually, we revise the words at ...
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18-month-old kicked out of church nursery

Our 18-month old was kicked out of our church's nursery where we send him during worship services & church classes. He's kicked out unless one of us are in there with him, which makes it difficult ...
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6 year old does not respond to disciplinary actions...what to do?

I have a six-year old who talks back, hits, etc. and does not respond to disciplinary measures such as time outs, taking away toys, etc. When he is being disciplined he would not listen and would ...
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How do you get a three year old to do... anything?

Get dressed, get undressed, wash their hands after using the toilet, brush their teeth, go to bed, get out of bed, stop jumping on their baby sibling, go to childcare, leave childcare, start moving, ...
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Is school punishment for mediocre test results reasonable?

My daughter is 9 years old, she's just started grade 4. We've had her in a school for gifted kids since kindergarten. It's been great so far because they understand the challenges that gifted kids ...
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How to make my 6.5-year-old stop playing with saliva?

My 6.5-year-old son is a normal, happy child but has a nasty habit of wiping his mouth on his hands, or taking saliva out of his mouth and spreading it, e.g. on his foot (?) multiple times a day. He ...
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How to prevent my 3-year-old boy from climbing on top of me?

We have a 3-year-old boy who spends most of his time at home. Oftentimes, while we are trying to work, or teaching our older kids, the boy will start to climb on top of us. Telling him "Stop" doesn't ...
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What can we do about our 9-month-old putting fingers down his throat?

For the past 6 weeks or so, our 9-month-old son has been in the habit of sticking a finger far into his mouth; to the point where he coughs; and sometimes throws up as a result. If we are next to him ...
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How to make my pre-schooler stop trying to make his friends follow the instructions given to him?

My son is 3 years and 8 months old. He starts to cry when any of his friends in school makes any mistake. For example, if his friends make any mistake in writing, he starts to cry. If his friends are ...
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How do I get pre-schoolers to stop asking for food every hour?

My boyfriend has three little girls, 3, 3 and 5 years old. I try to feed them balanced and correctly portioned meals and snacks even though the 5-year-old is extremely picky. They eat about every 2 ...
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How to lessen a depressed teenager's absences?

Some context Parents died horribly and unexpectedly years prior. This has caused a myriad of problems for us. It's just me (26) and my brother (16) left so I have to to be a parent figure to him. Due ...
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How to make a 5-year-old follow instructions in kindergarten?

I have a 5-year-old granddaughter. She has only been in kindergarten for two weeks and has been in trouble three times for not following instructions. No walking in line without touching wall or ...
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How to make a 3.5-year-old stop deliberately waking up her 1-year-old sister?

We've got two daughters of 3.5 (B) and 1 (L) years, respectively. B's behaviour is sometimes a bit reminiscent of what was described in someone else's earlier question. The particular issue/situation ...
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What to do about a defiant 5-year-old?

Our 5-year-old daughter just started kindergarten a week ago. After over a year of defiant behaviour, I had hoped that school would give my wife and I a much needed change for the better with our ...
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How to help a 14-year-old recognize reckless, destructive behavior as such and take it seriously after partially blinding our dog?

Our 14-year-old is a great kid. No joke. He causes very little issues for us. Lately though, he has simply turned reckless in his behavior at times. I have attributed this change to the fact that he ...
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How to make my 16-year-old stop biting?

My 16- nearly 17-year-old son still bites. He isn’t neurotypical and he already goes to therapy. He does see what he is doing as normal for him alone. He bites when anyone tries to hug him or give ...
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How to make my niece stop bothering my son because she is older?

My son is 3 years and 9 months old. I have a problem telling my 5-year-old niece that she is bothering my son. She's always telling him that she has something that he doesn't have, or knows swimming ...
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How to get a 3-year-old to stop running away?

My 3-year-old will break away from me or my husband and he is so fast we cannot catch him. It happens in the house but sometimes outdoors in a parking lot, at the pool or play area especially when he ...
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What to do about our 10-month-old keeping on shouting?

My 10-month-old daughter keeps shouting most of the times until she gets what she needs. At times, she keeps shouting even if we try everything. We haven't tried sign language yet. Has anyone else ...
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Our 5-year-old boy doesn't respond to timeouts, etc. What are some other methods of discipline?

Our 5-year-old boy loves to challenge us when we try to discipline him. We would ask him not to do something and he would go right ahead and do it. Eventually it escalates and he starts to scream, ...
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Toddlerhood - when does it end?

Wow. As a first time mother, I'm finding this toddler phase to be the most challenging so far. My girl is almost 17 months old. She is sassy! She climbs everything, she's a daredevil, she's testing ...
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"Never punish in anger" - How far does this extend?

I've heard the phrase, "You should never punish your child in anger," before, and it makes logical sense. However, how far does this extend? If a child, let's say a four-year-old, does something ...
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How to remove mobile addiction in my toddler

Our son is 3 years old and addicted to mobile, he need to play games, or he will cry and make fuss. My wife give her phone and he is always starring down at it. To make him quiet coz he make a lot of ...
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Can my mother charge me money for not doing what she says?

When I don't do the washing up, or take out the trash, or whatever when mum asks, she charges me $10. I have a job, but am 17 living at home. I am wondering if she is allowed to make up fines for ...
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How to help our 2-year-old adjust to new daycare where he's violent and pushy?

Our 2-year-old has just moved from a fairly loud, apathetic, semi-violent daycare, to the point where he was coming home with bites and bruises almost daily, to a new, nicer daycare closer to our work....
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How can I fix our relationship after falsely punishing my son?

I am a bad father. I punished my son for something he did not do as it turned out that his friend broke the china plate. Because I punished my son he did not get to go to his favorite band's final ...
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How to make our 3-year-old stop talking over every conversation around her?

Our 3-year-old daughter has been talking over any conversation in her vicinity for the past few months with increasing intensity. I can't talk for more than a minute or two to my wife when our ...
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How to make my 6- and 8-year-old's stop using the f-word?

My kindergartener and 2nd grader have learned the f-word and a lot of other words in school and they say them at home. I never react too stubbornly with them or stop them to use those words. I gently ...
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How do I discipline a 14-year-old girl without pushing her away?

I have a 14-year-old sister who my grandmother and I are gaining custody of. I don't doubt my grandmother's ability to take care of and discipline my sister the way she should be, but she and I are ...
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Completing the homework - how much is this in parents' responsibility and up to which age?

We have a 10-year-old child who is generally not interested in doing homework. He prefers to play games and watch TV. He's bored by homework which requires some patience and concentration, like ...
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How to discipline my 5-year-old who misbehaves when tired or hungry?

I have a sweet but headstrong 5-year-old kid. He is usually well behaved and when that is not the case I handle it. But when he is experiencing some kind of physical discomfort - he could be tired, ...
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