Questions tagged [discipline]

How to enforce the rules you set, and consequences when those rules are broken. Use [behavior] for questions about why children act the way they do.

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Should I issue consequences at bed time?

My nine year old has always had excellent bedtime habits. We considered ourselves fortunate and have maintained consistent routines. She typically goes to bed between 8 and 830. Recently she has ...
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My son didn't want to be around me

I'm a father of 3 children : one girl 19 and two boys 17 and 15. My 17 yo son didn't like me, he hates talking to me, going with me out, sitting next to me he is preventing me from from every bonding ...
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How to handle a 5-year-old that "bullies" me in order to get attention?

I'm almost 30 years old, and I'm being terrorized by a 5-year-old. Both his step-mom (my cousin) and I don't know what to do with him anymore. This kid has basically been ill-mannered from the day I ...
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I'm worried that my 2-year-old granddaughter is extremely aggressive

I am very worried about my 2-year-old granddaughter (she will be 3 years old in 3 months). Anytime she gets in trouble she laughs no matter how she is disciplined. Her parents have tried talking to ...
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Discipline hyperactive 3 year old

I have a three year old son who is just awesome. He is advanced intellectually, loving, and he seems very empathetic. He does extremely well in daycare (it is at least an above average daycare), ...
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How should I handle "he/she told me to do it" excuses from siblings?

Sometimes (too frequent for my liking) when questioned "Why did you do this 100% prohibited or simply boneheaded thing", my 6- and 8-year-old kids' response is "he/she - pointing at the sibling - told ...
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What's an effective way to deal with toddler transition tantrums ("I don't want to stop yet?")

This isn't a question about what general incentives or methods of discipline work best. I'm looking for techniques specific to transitions, like when it's time to stop playing and go somewhere, etc. ...
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What kind of obedience is to be expected from a 2-year old?

My daughter is 2-years old, with what seems a good development overall. We also have a 7-month old son. My wife takes care of them at home most of the time, and they also see their cousin (also 2-...
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Teen displays bullying behavior towards his siblings, and also towards my kids, how to handle?

We have a family friend stay with us. She has 4 kids. Two teenage boys (17 and 14) and two younger kids (8 yo boy and 6 yo girls). All kids except the 17 year old has been diagnosed with ADHD. The 14 ...
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My little brother acting out

Hey i ( 24 years old ) had custody of my lil brother ( 16 years old ) for 5 years now . He is a teenager like you see : he is acting out I tried all the easy way talking scolding never talking with ...
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What is a fair way to punish a sibling who unintentionally erases another's Saved Game?

TL;DR: Question title. (What is a fair way to punish a sibling who unintentionally erases another's Saved Game?) So this question could (should?) perhaps be posted on Parenting, but I thought users ...
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How to convince teenage sister to coexist with parents?

Not a parent but an older sibling and I’m trying to establish some form of peace in my household, I’ll try to give context here without making the question too long. My sister is a teenager that’s ...
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Child with ODD and ADHD

I honestly am confused about what to do as a parent. I have a 4 year old child with severe ADHD symptoms and ODD and persistent impulse control issues. My child experiences level 10 tantrums multiple ...
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My younger brother doesn't know when to stop doing something he finds fun even when it's hurting someone else

I have responsibility over my 5 year old brother quite often, enough so that he calls me mom, and I deal with this almost daily and it's extremely frustrating and I don't know what to do, when I ask ...
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I've taken all of my 13 year old daughter's possessions, and she's still disrespectful

I've taken everything except for three outfits, a bed cover, and her pillow. What is my next step? I rarely whoop my girls, but my 13 yr old has pushed me 4 times in 3 months to have to spank her! ...
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Will "positive parenting" techniques work with my children?

I have two children (age 8 & 6). Both are very strong-willed. The stress of the pandemic and remote learning have taken their toll and caused their behaviors to escalate. They are now more ...
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How do I change my Brother negative thinking, and bad attitude and addiction towards computer games

I'm his older Sister, 15 years old and my Brother is only 13 years old. He has been very addicted to the computer, online games and apps on tablets. Although this may seem like a common problem for ...
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How to deal with a 6 year old who was "caught" cheating?

This is regarding my son who is 6 years old and is studying in Grade 1. We got a call from his class teacher that he was caught "cheating" during dictation assessment. Actually, we revise the words at ...
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Basic discipline away from home

My question is similar to this one: about enforcing some basic and necessary discipline vis-à-vis a toddler, such as getting dressed, going to bed, etc. The answer to the cited question is an ...
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How do I deal with rude or uncooperative siblings?

This is a bit of a tricky one but here goes: I'm in my mid-twenties and (for various reasons) currently live at home with both parents, my 15 year old sister, and my 17 year old brother. I regularly ...
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how to convey certain objects are off limits to a child under 1?

Our daughter turns one years old next month. She has been developing ahead of schedule in many arenas and is a very expressive and affectionate child. Of late, she is able to reach and grab a variety ...
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How do you teach a child who doesn't respond to positive or negative reinforcement?

I've got two kids, 8 and 17, and they both struggle to learn from their mistakes, making the same mistakes again and again and again, despite the consequences. For example, they're both huge ...
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How to lessen a depressed teenager's absences?

Some context Parents died horribly and unexpectedly years prior. This has caused a myriad of problems for us. It's just me (26) and my brother (16) left so I have to to be a parent figure to him. Due ...
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8 year old is breaking the rules, and not understanding consequences

So, I recently asked this question, and after following the advice given, it has only made things more erratic. At this point, they both do listen when told what they have done wrong, and why it is ...
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What to do about a 6 year old who knows when to go to the bathroom but still doesn't?

My 6 year old granddaughter is a smart child and knows when she needs to go the bathroom. She just does not care if she goes in her undies or pants. We have tried everything with her. Tried to give ...
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How do I make my girlfriend's 4 year old stop hurting my dog?

I'm the boyfriend of a now 4 year old's mother and I have been in the little boy's life for about 2 years. We have a good bond, although I don't live with them and see them 2 weeks every 4. My ex and ...
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Dealing with "breaking the rules"

So we have 2 young boys, aged 8 and 6. The 8 year old is very smart for his age, he's intuitive, figures out how things work, and knows how to get what he wants. The 6 year old however is more ...
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Advise on 123 Magic for hyper or anxious kids

Has anybody that’s done 123 Magic have any experience with a child who knowing they will get a time out, negotiates the conditions of their time out? My son will know on 3 he goes to his room for 5 ...
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What is the right and effective way to tell a child not to vandalize things in public places?

This is the setting: I'm with my 6-7 years old son in a dinosaur park (in a day not busy at all, so he will not behave as a good boy just because there's people around him who could make him feel ...
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On the strategy of comparing parents to supervisors/bosses/employers [closed]

Prepare to downvote me. Context: There appears to be this folklore strat of comparing parents to supervisors/bosses/employers when parents have a discussion/disagreement/argument/debate with their ...
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How long should a 3 year old be sent to his room?

Our son is almost 3 years old and he's been getting worse about talking back and not obeying our directions (such as "put on your shoes" or "pick up your toys"). We're thinking about implementing ...
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Lying and hiding from parents

Background: The child here is a 10 year old. We are a stable two parent household. He is academically good, however, wants to spend all time glued to YouTube/ Video games. We placed a limit of an hour ...
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Is my son uncle making him moody whilst its hurting our marriage?

My wife's brothers live with us, some of them know where boundaries are and some are always telling my wife what to do with kids and intervening. It has been annoying for me because it seems they are ...
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How to stop a toddler (seventeen months old) from hitting and pushing the TV?

We have a pretty standard living room set up with a TV sitting on a not-that-high cabinet which is easily in reach of our seventeen month old. Our apartment is very small and for that reason we're not ...
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Is this normal behavior for a kindergarten teacher?

I just had my son's kindergarten teacher tell me that 'the way you are raising him is making my job harder'. I was offended by this but don't have much experience with teachers and don't know if I am ...
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Should a teenager coming out of quarantine be held responsible to clean up after themself?

My almost 15 year old son recently had to spend 10 days in the basement, due to a member of his school testing positive for COVID-19 (he tested negative). During that time he had the run of the whole ...
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How do you handle a child who enjoys getting others into trouble?

How do you deal with a primary-school age child (range 5-7) who enjoys getting others into trouble? Is actually alert for minor wrongdoings and likes to set other people against each other? Can be ...
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How to respond if my child is picked on by other children?

What can I do if other children pick on my children? Obviously I can't perform any disciplinary actions. Reprimanding might make my child look like a "mama's boy" and doing nothing might look like a ...
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7yo step-son runs away when he thinks he's in trouble

The child in this case is 7 years old. Just as an example; maybe he breaks his own toy, clearly by accident, but right after I asked him not to do whatever caused the breaking. I would like to calmly ...
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My 3 year old is having problems at daycare but not at home what can I do to address this?

My son just turned 3 and moved to a new daycare 4 weeks ago. He had a good first few days and his behaviors have gotten steadily worse. He’s spitting, hitting, biting, and pinching. He’s had bitting ...
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How to prevent a toddler from hitting/throwing things that could seriously injure others and damage things around the home?

I have a 23 month old toddler who loves to hurl anything that he gets his hands on - either at things or other folks around the house. If not that, he'll treat it as a hammer and go around "...
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How to approach my little brother's addiction to TV and computer?

I'm 26, my younger brother is 13. He is spending almost all of his day on TV and computer. Common problem, but I am really worried about him. I came back to live in my parents' house since it's ...
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How to stop toddler crying when we watch tv

Gone are the days when cartoons were limited. Our 3 years old watch tv for cartoons but when I come home in the evening after dinner I like to catch up on news or while eating diner. Basically, he ...
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4yr old hitting in daycare

I have a four year old who goes to daycare. The daycare has been reporting that he has been hitting other children. They say he just hits for no reason. The daycare does not put kids in timeout, they ...
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What to do when a pre-schooler refuses to perform routine tasks?

I've recently observed a lot of parenting and I must admit that it's left me baffled and overly cynical. My primary question is this: What do you do when a pre-schooler, say 4-5 years old, refuses to ...
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How to respond to pranking 7 year old?

My kid discovered and started enjoying pranking. For example, he will ring the doorbell and then hide in the bushes, or pour water in our mailbox. He really enjoys this and I find it impossible to be ...
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Deal with child in self-destruct mode with sibling

My partner and I have each a kid - an 8 year old girl and a 9 year old boy. The girl believes that anything the boy gets, she should get as well - no matter how it was obtained. This is how she views ...
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How to stop a 1-year-old from biting?

I have an adorable, sweet, funny 1-year-old who has developed a bad habit of biting. He usually only bites when he's frustrated, for example: another 1-year-old child I nanny for, cries unless he's ...
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Time between behaviour and consequence, is there a general rule of thumb per age?

I have a two year old; I know that, especially with young children, they don't really connect a consequence in the future with a behaviour now. ("If you do that you can't have dessert after supper", ...
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"I don't like this" vs. "Leave me alone"

My two pre-schoolers (almost 4, almost 5) sometimes play rough with each other, e.g. when fighting over some toy. When one of them asks us parents for help, it's sometimes part of the game (they want ...

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