Questions tagged [discipline]

How to enforce the rules you set, and consequences when those rules are broken. Use [behavior] for questions about why children act the way they do.

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How to handle situation when a mother gives her child preferential treatment and is defensive about it?

So the full details of my involvement and actual relationship with my 'friend' and her child are a bit too complicated and distracting to go into right now. For now lets say that I love kids and have ...
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How to stop my preschooler from constantly running away

We have a very active 4-year-old. She has a will of her own though with what she wants to do, and there's one thing in particular that I find I don't know what to do: she's constantly running away. ...
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Six year old boy screams

I have a six year old old grandnephew who when he gets mad screams at the top of his lungs and when he crys about something he somehow can move it up a couple of octaves. I want to smack him. I don'...
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teaching to take care of one's belongings (at least the dear ones)

My son loves balance bikes. He got his first one with 2 and second (larger) with 3. Every morning he could choose whether he wanted to use the old or new one for the way to kindergarten, and he mostly ...
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My wife constantly loses her temper with our 5 year old son

My wife and I have been married for about 7 years, we have two sons, one is five years old and the other is eighteen months old. I disagree with the way my wife disciplines and reacts to our five year ...
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Crime and Punishment-A Family Approach-Social Issues

What are the consequences (mainly in their social life and social development) of depriving your child of their liberty as a form of punishment? I am not looking (only) for studies on the effects of ...
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Should I allow my child to drop an activity just because he’s lost interest?

We encourage our 7 y/o child with adhd to experience different activities that interest him and also help him with social skills. He is impulsive and is eager to participate but loses interest quickly ...
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Protecting your almost adult offspring from bad company and drugs

Given an offspring 16-18 years old (especially with health problems and alergies) how exactly can you protect them (and the entire family) from drugs (their friends do drugs and some are even mules)? ...
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How can I deal with with other people's children taking items from my one-year-old?

I currently attend quite a few different playgroups throughout the week with my one year old little boy (he is at the crawling, not quite talking stage). And I recently experienced the awkward ...
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Protecting your kid from bullying

I have asked a question on how to Earn your kid's trust and getting them to confide in you and "complain" about getting bullied The question is How not to lose the trust now that you earned ...
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How can I get my kid to stop whistling...so much?

I know this makes me sound like a jerk, but it feels nuanced and I really am trying to learn and grow. Some added context: He is using the handflute, or 'hand ocarina' method He does it very ...
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9 year old boy hurts himself and others inadvertently

I have a son who is really clumsy with his overall motor skills and at the same time is a dreamer, who is not paying attention to his surroundings. This leads to him having bruises all the time ...
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When is physical punishment appropriate?

In what instances do you feel that striking your child is the most appropriate course of action?
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Is it normal for a 4 year old to scream when told no or something she doesn't like?

I have been looking after my daughter who is 4. Unfortunately, I have postpartum depression, which makes it difficult at times. However, I do everything to enjoy and spend my time with her. I take her ...
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I've taken all of my 13 year old daughter's possessions, and she's still disrespectful

I've taken everything except for three outfits, a bed cover, and her pillow. What is my next step? I rarely whoop my girls, but my 13 yr old has pushed me 4 times in 3 months to have to spank her! ...
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How to stop my child's teacher from disciplining my child without my consent?

My daughter is 6 she is diagnosed add adhd fetal exposure. We adopted her at 6 weeks. I told the school after a assistant teacher terrorized my child into saying she was lying when she wasn’t not to ...
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How can we discipline a strong-willed, misbehaving 5 year-old?

My 5 year old son receives and fears punishment but repeatedly exhibits the same unacceptable behaviors. He's always been strong-willed, and is usually the kind to view a statement like "Don't do ...
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Kleptomania in 9 year old

So, my 9 yo step sons has a big issue with stealing. The issue is that it's not stealing money, or for gain. A lot of the time, he just takes things, just so that he can have it. He takes something, ...
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Almost 9 year old regularly seeking attention

My boyfriend's 8-will-be-9-in-a-month daughter is with us for the summer. Her mom lives many states away so summer is dad/daughter time while mom has her for the school year. I am having troubles ...
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How to make our 12-year-old son become more serious about his studies, more punctual, and less playful?

I have a 12-year-old son. He is intelligent, but will not sit and study. We always get complaints from school that he is playful and not serious. He always needs to play, especially football. When he ...
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Punishing the younger sibling for bullying (physically abusing) the sibling that's 10 years older

What are pedagogically effective ways to punish a 14 year old for bullying the one that's 24 years old? There has been no effect in talking and explaining, and the younger one doesn't really go out ...
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How can I stop my 5-year-old's violent tantrums?

I am a single mom to a very good 5-year-old little boy ... 90% of the time. About once a week, give or take, he has a meltdown and becomes violent (hitting, scratching, biting, throwing things, etc.). ...
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How to make my 3-year-old stop throwing things at people?

My 3-year-old boy throws things at people for no reason. Sometimes he just needs attention and sometimes he's just doing this for fun, but it has been very hard on us because it gave me a black eye ...
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Appropriate age for use of electronics

I was searching for this video for the last 3 years. In it a salesperson refuses to sell a tablet to the parents of a 5 year old saying that they can come back in 7 years and 12 years is the ...
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How to handle a 5-year-old that "bullies" me in order to get attention?

I'm almost 30 years old, and I'm being terrorized by a 5-year-old. Both his step-mom (my cousin) and I don't know what to do with him anymore. This kid has basically been ill-mannered from the day I ...
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What to do about my out-of-control 12-year-old daughter?

My 12-year-old daughter is a good kid. But when something doesn't go her way she calls me a bitch and cusses a lot. I take her phone away when she does that. She can be so good, but it's like turning ...
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Punishing my brother

My younger brother 16 is leaving with me, it's been two years now He is like every teenager likes to have fun, discover things and get friends. I kept him on the line, safe and sound. We argue ...
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Toddler makes a mess with everything, everywhere

Our son is 17 months old. He is too frequently ruining things and losing our expensive things. I know these things should be out of reach, but some things can’t be locked and things at his level are ...
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How to remove mobile addiction in my toddler

Our son is 3 years old and addicted to mobile, he need to play games, or he will cry and make fuss. My wife give her phone and he is always starring down at it. To make him quiet coz he make a lot of ...
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How can I discourage doing a poor job without being a nitpicking perfectionist?

A (from what I can tell) somewhat common contributing factor to children growing up with a lack of self-confidence, or being people-pleasers, is parents who were very strict, perfectionist, and/or ...
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I'm worried that my 2-year-old granddaughter is extremely aggressive

I am very worried about my 2-year-old granddaughter (she will be 3 years old in 3 months). Anytime she gets in trouble she laughs no matter how she is disciplined. Her parents have tried talking to ...
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7 year old won't believe adults even when they show overwhelming evidence

This one is a weird situation that came to a head yesterday but, now that I look back on it, the behaviour has been there for months. My seven year old has indoor and outdoor shoes at school. The ...
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Should I issue consequences at bed time?

My nine year old has always had excellent bedtime habits. We considered ourselves fortunate and have maintained consistent routines. She typically goes to bed between 8 and 830. Recently she has ...
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Discipline hyperactive 3 year old

I have a three year old son who is just awesome. He is advanced intellectually, loving, and he seems very empathetic. He does extremely well in daycare (it is at least an above average daycare), ...
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How should I handle "he/she told me to do it" excuses from siblings?

Sometimes (too frequent for my liking) when questioned "Why did you do this 100% prohibited or simply boneheaded thing", my 6- and 8-year-old kids' response is "he/she - pointing at the sibling - told ...
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What's an effective way to deal with toddler transition tantrums ("I don't want to stop yet?")

This isn't a question about what general incentives or methods of discipline work best. I'm looking for techniques specific to transitions, like when it's time to stop playing and go somewhere, etc. ...
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What kind of obedience is to be expected from a 2-year old?

My daughter is 2-years old, with what seems a good development overall. We also have a 7-month old son. My wife takes care of them at home most of the time, and they also see their cousin (also 2-...
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Teen displays bullying behavior towards his siblings, and also towards my kids, how to handle?

We have a family friend stay with us. She has 4 kids. Two teenage boys (17 and 14) and two younger kids (8 yo boy and 6 yo girls). All kids except the 17 year old has been diagnosed with ADHD. The 14 ...
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What is a fair way to punish a sibling who unintentionally erases another's Saved Game?

TL;DR: Question title. (What is a fair way to punish a sibling who unintentionally erases another's Saved Game?) So this question could (should?) perhaps be posted on Parenting, but I thought users ...
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How to convince teenage sister to coexist with parents?

Not a parent but an older sibling and I’m trying to establish some form of peace in my household, I’ll try to give context here without making the question too long. My sister is a teenager that’s ...
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Child with ODD and ADHD

I honestly am confused about what to do as a parent. I have a 4 year old child with severe ADHD symptoms and ODD and persistent impulse control issues. My child experiences level 10 tantrums multiple ...
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My younger brother doesn't know when to stop doing something he finds fun even when it's hurting someone else

I have responsibility over my 5 year old brother quite often, enough so that he calls me mom, and I deal with this almost daily and it's extremely frustrating and I don't know what to do, when I ask ...
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Will "positive parenting" techniques work with my children?

I have two children (age 8 & 6). Both are very strong-willed. The stress of the pandemic and remote learning have taken their toll and caused their behaviors to escalate. They are now more ...
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How do I change my Brother negative thinking, and bad attitude and addiction towards computer games

I'm his older Sister, 15 years old and my Brother is only 13 years old. He has been very addicted to the computer, online games and apps on tablets. Although this may seem like a common problem for ...
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How to deal with a 6 year old who was "caught" cheating?

This is regarding my son who is 6 years old and is studying in Grade 1. We got a call from his class teacher that he was caught "cheating" during dictation assessment. Actually, we revise the words at ...
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Basic discipline away from home

My question is similar to this one: about enforcing some basic and necessary discipline vis-à-vis a toddler, such as getting dressed, going to bed, etc. The answer to the cited question is an ...
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How do I deal with rude or uncooperative siblings?

This is a bit of a tricky one but here goes: I'm in my mid-twenties and (for various reasons) currently live at home with both parents, my 15 year old sister, and my 17 year old brother. I regularly ...
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how to convey certain objects are off limits to a child under 1?

Our daughter turns one years old next month. She has been developing ahead of schedule in many arenas and is a very expressive and affectionate child. Of late, she is able to reach and grab a variety ...
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How do you teach a child who doesn't respond to positive or negative reinforcement?

I've got two kids, 8 and 17, and they both struggle to learn from their mistakes, making the same mistakes again and again and again, despite the consequences. For example, they're both huge ...
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How to lessen a depressed teenager's absences?

Some context Parents died horribly and unexpectedly years prior. This has caused a myriad of problems for us. It's just me (26) and my brother (16) left so I have to to be a parent figure to him. Due ...

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