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Questions tagged [discipline]

How to enforce the rules you set, and consequences when those rules are broken. Use [behavior] for questions about why children act the way they do.

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how to stop my son hitting his playmate?

what will i do when he like to play with other children, but eventually he hits them when he got mad on them? Is that right that i just get him from their play ground and just told him to stay at ...
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Almost 9 year old regularly seeking attention

My boyfriend's 8-will-be-9-in-a-month daughter is with us for the summer. Her mom lives many states away so summer is dad/daughter time while mom has her for the school year. I am having troubles ...
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How to talk with my six-year-old

I have a six-year-old daughter who is almost never shy or afraid to voice her opinion, but there are times when she is just a bit much to handle. Sometimes she'll misbehave in public in a fairly loud ...
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My son is discouraged

I have a 10-yr-old son. He's a fifth grader right now and I have been really worried about his attitude toward homework and everything that has to do with studying. He constantly calls himself stupid ...
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Fake driver's license discovered — how to deal with situation?

My 17-year-old daughter leaves her purse in the car, even at night. This is really unsafe, even for the city we live in. I wanted to teach her a lesson about the dangers of leaving valuables in a car ...
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Getting things done - balancing directives vs. autonomy (elementary school age)

I'm the father of a 9 year old boy, who, while in the top tier regarding intelligence and grades, has a serious problem of 'getting things done'. Simple things. The issue does not occur at school ...
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How to control an angry and stubborn 5-year-old child?

My 5-year-old son demonstrates really bad behaviour which is embarrassing and upsetting me. This has been on going for the last 4 months. At home, he is extremely naughty, and just doesn't listen to ...
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My son is 6 and goes to the bath room but doesnt like to wipe

he comes home from school soiled on his underwear and rashed really bad. He doesnt care that kids make fun of him. I need help. Its happening every day.
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4 year old son, overly confident, retaliates at nuresry

Our 4 and a half year old son has recently been getting into trouble at nursery. On three separate occasions now we have been called in to speak to the teachers there as he has done something naughty. ...
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Problems with my son's friend

My son's 11 year old (male) friend, whom I will call Mike for the sake of discussion, is loud and rude. At the beginning of the school year, Mike asked me if I was willing to drive him home ...
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How to make our 18-month-old twins stop biting?

I have 18 months old twin girls who recently started to bite, both their sister and us. It's not like when they were teething, it's an aggressive move. We've tried to talk to them explaining that it'...
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Why is my daughter shouting so much?

My ten months old daughter has been in a little nursery for a couple of months now. There, she has begun to act more wildly. It is something we expected and we like her getting in touch with other ...
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What could be the effects of telling a small child “The bad man is going to come” as a threat to enforce good behavior? [duplicate]

My childhood best friend's family would tell their young daughter, maybe 5-7 years old things like "Im gonna call the bad man" or "The bad man's gonna get ya if you dont be good." I dont think they ...
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4 year old, biological Mom used drugs, behavior out of control

I have a 4 yr. old Son, he was adopted at birth. His biological "mom" used meth during pregnancy. I knew that he could develop problems in regard to behaviors. He's extremely bright, learns easy ...
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My 6 years old boy behavior is terrible at school and home

My 6 year old son breaks everything can can put his hands on, talks back to me, and bothers his sister and brother all the time. He can't stay focused in school and will be left behind this year, ...
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How can I deal with a misbehaving 17-year-old girl?

I have a 17-year-old daughter. She does not respect me, she shouts at me and she goes to parties where there are older friends and alcohol consumption, against my wishes. She just goes out every day ...
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How to handle older kids with my younger son

I have a 3 year old son. He's quite outgoing with kids around his age and with most adults. He goes to daycare a few days a week and interacts fine with the other kids. However he is sensitive and ...
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5 yr old behavioral/anger problems

My daughter, in the past 6 months has been displaying severe anger. When a toy doesn't come together, if she doesn't get her way... she throws herself on the floor and starts kicking and screaming. ...
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What to do about 6.5-year-old grandson out of control?

About 1 1/2 years ago my grandson started acting out. It has now become so bad and we need to get him under control. First off I will say that my grandson lives with his mother as his mother and ...
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7-year old with Asperger's caught stealing - how to deal with that?

Today my 7-year old child was caught stealing in their classroom. They suffer from light Asperger's, so I'm not sure that they even notice having done something wrong. I'm not eager to punish my child ...
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Help my husband and 14 year old daughter are fighting

My husband and I have been married for 8 years. We have 4 kids (2 are from previous relationships.) My daughter is the oldest at 14. We're both new to teenagers. He's kind of the enforcer, and I guess ...
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Effective ways to discipline my 5 year old

My five year old can be challenging at times. She just started kindergarten this year and has improved with her behavior some, but still makes bad decisions that she knows better than to make. She can ...
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Is it possible to control iPad message language without my 10-year-old daughter hating me?

A few weeks ago I found my 10-year-old daughter using inappropriate language on her iPad. As it was the first time I caught her swearing, and the message was more in her own defense of another's ...
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How to be a good Single Mom with a large family and dealing with ADHD

I am recently divorced and have full custody of our six children. My husband was violent with the children and I'm not sure how to discipline them without using violence. My children range in age from ...
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12yr old daughter defying consequence and out of control

My daughter is 12 years old and is obsessed with social media apps and chatting with friends online, whether on her phone or computer. She is currently banned from using Instagram and snapchat, due to ...
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Is there an evidence-based study regarding the long-term psychological effects of spanking? [duplicate]

Any answers to this question I would hope would cite at least one reputable source; I'm really not looking for 40 opinions. As a nonspanker, I'm frequently surprised this is still in practice around ...
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Discipline and managing a 5 year old

My daughter will turn 5 in the next 3 months. I am having a hard time controlling her and getting her to listen to me. She is defiant and argues about everything. She has even started hitting me. If I ...
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What to do about step children who don't listen to us, don't do their chores but are being spoiled by their grand mother?

My husband has two lovely boys, age 8 and 9. Boys are staying over in in-laws' house to finish their school. Boys are coming over for weekends and I take them to school on Mondays. We are having ...
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How do I get my one year old to stop grinding her teeth?

My daughter is thirteen months old and has four teeth on top and two on the bottom. She is constantly grinding them against each other, which is not only bad for her, but also makes a sound that makes ...
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What to do if your threaten be your older sister! [closed]

So I was in my home doing nothing but making some updates to my wifi network when my sister came and something happened between my sister,mother and I my sister 17 year old and me 13 year old went out ...
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What to do when a 12-year-old boy has defeated behavior management program (Kazdin method)?

I am in a six year relationship with a woman who has two kids, a 15-year-old girl and a 12-year-old boy. We have moved a lot. The child's father has been incarcerated for most of the child's life. ...
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My 13 yo son has drug and alcohol issues. What should I do?

My 13 year old son has been smoking and selling weed for at least a year now, drinks whenever he can get any alcohol, and has been black-out drunk. He also smokes cigarettes and vapes. (He's also done ...
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My 6-year-old daughter is hitting her teacher and talking back!

I have a 6-year-old daughter. Today, my babysitter said that my child hit her teacher. She hit her in the mouth and didn't say sorry when the teacher asked her to say sorry. Then the teacher said she ...
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not settled in school

I have a 6 year old Godson, we live in the Caribbean, and he's in Grade 2. He spends more time talking, playing and sometime just sitting in his class not doing anything his teacher says to do. We ...
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How to control my 2- and 5-year-old nieces, who are out of control and don't listen to me, when I babysit them?

I am a pregnant first time mum so no experience with 5 year olds. For example, I babysat for my 5- and 2-year-old nieces last night. They are pretty good when my brother is there but as soon as he ...
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How to make our 12-year-old son become more serious about his studies, punctual and less playful?

I have a 12-year-old son. He is intelligent, but will not sit and study. We always get complaints from school that he is playful and not serious. He always needs to play, especially football. When ...
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23 month old twins disturbing each other at bed time

We have 23 month old twin boys (I'll call them C&D) whom we have about 2 months ago transitioned away from a crib by taking away one side and creating an enclosure of sort (about 12 x 12 feet) ...
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How to Handle 5 Year Old Disrespect/Not Listening in Public?

Our 5-year-old daughter is a very smart, sweet, and usually well-behaved girl. She usually hates to get in trouble and responds well to correction. However, lately she has been getting into some ...
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How do I get an 11-year-old to engage in active language comprehension?

Apologies for the vague title, but I wasn't sure how exactly to put the situation. My 11-year-old sister refuses to read properly. (I am out of the house, but my parents discuss the problem with me ...
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Problems with discipline for my step-children

I have a step son and step daughter who are 11 and 13 I have been married to their mum for 9 years and there is a big problem within the family. If I tell the kids to either do something or stop ...
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Should I show more anger when unhappy with a child's actions?

I am naturally a very conserved and patient person. I think this is sometimes confusing to a 4 year-old, who can easily tell when his mother is unhappy with him due to her tone of voice. For me, I may ...
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tips for staying fun

I have a 7 yo and 10 yo who basically are great kids, but I find myself in a lot of battles that I don't think I can walk away from. (Everyday stuff like - 'no watching tv /playing video games all ...
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Can admonishing hinder a child's mental growth?

I recently got into a heated argument with my sister over her not admonishing her 5-year-old son. Sometimes he does things that really need a firm warning. For example, doing things that might cause ...
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What are the impacts of public shaming?

What are the short-term and long-term consequences of public shaming as a discipline technique in terms of behavior, psychology, and/or the parent-child relationship? (One example.) Per some feedback,...
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3-year-old acts out for parents, but not for nanny

My wife and I are having trouble with our 2.5/3-year-old daughter. We have a newborn (1 month old) that we believe is the reason. We are guessing she is jealous of the attention that her new baby ...
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From what age should I expect the child to pick up her toys which she scattered while playing?

At what age should this be started? How to go about it such that the child doesn't feel bored?
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My 6 year old son does not listen when I tell him to stop something immediately. Should I beat him?

At times when I ask my son to stop doing something immediately he does not stop. Should I beat him in that case? I know the answer might be no but I need an alternative in which he listens and stops ...
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My wife constantly loses her temper with our 5 year old son

My wife and I have been married for about 7 years, we have two sons, one is five years old and the other is eighteen months old. I disagree with the way my wife disciplines and reacts to our five year ...
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Laughs when being disobedient stuff (18 months)

Our daughter is 18 months old. When she does something that irritates or make me angry she laughs/get happy. For instance, when I sit by the laptop she comes by and push buttons on it. First, I say ...
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Are there any studies showing how spanking bans have affected society since 1979?

In 1979, Sweden became the first country in the world to ban spanking under all circumstances: at home; at school; in penal institutions; everywhere, full stop. Since then, several dozen other ...