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Questions tagged [discipline]

How to enforce the rules you set, and consequences when those rules are broken. Use [behavior] for questions about why children act the way they do.

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How do I get my one year old to stop grinding her teeth?

My daughter is thirteen months old and has four teeth on top and two on the bottom. She is constantly grinding them against each other, which is not only bad for her, but also makes a sound that makes ...
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What to do if your threaten be your older sister! [closed]

So I was in my home doing nothing but making some updates to my wifi network when my sister came and something happened between my sister,mother and I my sister 17 year old and me 13 year old went out ...
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What to do when a 12-year-old boy has defeated behavior management program (Kazdin method)?

I am in a six year relationship with a woman who has two kids, a 15-year-old girl and a 12-year-old boy. We have moved a lot. The child's father has been incarcerated for most of the child's life. ...
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My 13 yo son has drug and alcohol issues. What should I do?

My 13 year old son has been smoking and selling weed for at least a year now, drinks whenever he can get any alcohol, and has been black-out drunk. He also smokes cigarettes and vapes. (He's also done ...
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My 6-year-old daughter is hitting her teacher and talking back!

I have a 6-year-old daughter. Today, my babysitter said that my child hit her teacher. She hit her in the mouth and didn't say sorry when the teacher asked her to say sorry. Then the teacher said she ...
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not settled in school

I have a 6 year old Godson, we live in the Caribbean, and he's in Grade 2. He spends more time talking, playing and sometime just sitting in his class not doing anything his teacher says to do. We ...
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How to control my 2- and 5-year-old nieces, who are out of control and don't listen to me, when I babysit them?

I am a pregnant first time mum so no experience with 5 year olds. For example, I babysat for my 5- and 2-year-old nieces last night. They are pretty good when my brother is there but as soon as he ...
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How to make our 12-year-old son become more serious about his studies, punctual and less playful?

I have a 12-year-old son. He is intelligent, but will not sit and study. We always get complaints from school that he is playful and not serious. He always needs to play, especially football. When ...
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23 month old twins disturbing each other at bed time

We have 23 month old twin boys (I'll call them C&D) whom we have about 2 months ago transitioned away from a crib by taking away one side and creating an enclosure of sort (about 12 x 12 feet) ...
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How to Handle 5 Year Old Disrespect/Not Listening in Public?

Our 5-year-old daughter is a very smart, sweet, and usually well-behaved girl. She usually hates to get in trouble and responds well to correction. However, lately she has been getting into some ...
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How do I get an 11-year-old to engage in active language comprehension?

Apologies for the vague title, but I wasn't sure how exactly to put the situation. My 11-year-old sister refuses to read properly. (I am out of the house, but my parents discuss the problem with me ...
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Problems with discipline for my step-children

I have a step son and step daughter who are 11 and 13 I have been married to their mum for 9 years and there is a big problem within the family. If I tell the kids to either do something or stop ...
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Should I show more anger when unhappy with a child's actions?

I am naturally a very conserved and patient person. I think this is sometimes confusing to a 4 year-old, who can easily tell when his mother is unhappy with him due to her tone of voice. For me, I may ...
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tips for staying fun

I have a 7 yo and 10 yo who basically are great kids, but I find myself in a lot of battles that I don't think I can walk away from. (Everyday stuff like - 'no watching tv /playing video games all ...
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Can admonishing hinder a child's mental growth?

I recently got into a heated argument with my sister over her not admonishing her 5 year old son. Sometimes he does things that really need a firm warning. For example, doing things that might cause ...
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What are the impacts of public shaming?

What are the short-term and long-term consequences of public shaming as a discipline technique in terms of behavior, psychology, and/or the parent-child relationship? (One example.) Per some feedback,...
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From what age should I expect the child to pick up her toys which she scattered while playing?

At what age should this be started? How to go about it such that the child doesn't feel bored?
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My 6 year old son does not listen when I tell him to stop something immediately. Should I beat him?

At times when I ask my son to stop doing something immediately he does not stop. should I beat him in that case? I know the answer might be no but I need an alternative in which he listens and stops ...
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My wife constantly loses her temper with our 5 year old son

My wife and I have been married for about 7 years, we have two sons, one is five years old and the other is eighteen months old. I disagree with the way my wife disciplines and reacts to our five year ...
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Laughs when being disobedient stuff (18 months)

Our daughter is 18 months old. When she does something that irritates or make me angry she laughs/get happy. For instance, when I sit by the laptop she comes by and push buttons on it. First, I say ...
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Are there any studies showing how spanking bans have affected society since 1979?

In 1979, Sweden became the first country in the world to ban spanking under all circumstances: at home; at school; in penal institutions; everywhere, full stop. Since then, several dozen other ...
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Why does authoritarian parenting style result in children with low self esteem and lack of self discipline?

http://psychology.about.com/od/childcare/f/authoritarian-parenting.htm I have been raised by authoritarian parents. I have both low self esteem as well as a lack of self discipline. I want to ...
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What are the advantages and disadvantages of time-outs?

What are the downsides and the advantages to using time-outs to discipline a toddler? (My daughter is 21 months old.) Are there reasons to use them? Reasons to avoid them? What are the pros and cons ...
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What to do with a 2.5-year-old boy refusing to go to sleep, to the toilet or to eat?

My wife and I have a very stubborn 2.5-year-old son. He refuses to follow any kind of routine in sleeping, eating, screening times (TV and so), or anything. Whenever he is sleepy, he fights going to ...
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How can I abate my son's growing habit of lying?

My son has begun to lie fairly frequently over the past couple of months. He used to tell lies by making up stories that were fantastic and clearly not true. He has recently graduated to telling "bold ...
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My 1.5 year old is saying “No”

He says it when he's being sassy, like when I take something from him or when I put him in the car seat. I've heard kids start wielding this obnoxious word at a young age (having associated it parents ...
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What do I do when I walk into a room with a broken item and both children shrug their shoulders and say “Wasn't me”?

I'm trying to get my kids to be honest and take responsibility. I'm seeing a repeated pattern where one or both of my kids will lie to get out of trouble. They're starting to see that they can deny ...
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Explaining the “fun parent” phenomena

I'm a step-dad to 3 girls under 6. The eldest is still fairly enamored by bio-dad and while I won't go into the details; he's a man-child. The 3 year old just follows the eldest at present, but I'm ...
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How do I discipline my spouse's children?

My spouse and I have kids from previous marriages. He has two boys ages 3 and 6, and I have an 8-year-old boy and we just recently had a daughter together. I'm struggling very hard with his two boys, ...
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I have just watched my 22 month old dive head first over the gate on her bedroom 5 times after putting her to back to bed 50-60 times

I'm not concerned about the fact she physically hurts herself by jumping the gate, she is as tough as they come. She screams so loud every time I walk down the stairs and is up the gate within ...
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Is it bad practice for a parent to tell their children when they have a right/reason to cry?

I witnessed parents telling their kids that, if they didn't get hurt or physically harmed in any way, they have no right or reason to cry. I kind of disagree because one doesn't cry just because of ...
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My 2.5 years old daughter says no to everything, all the time, again and again

I think somebody has already asked this kind of question, but my situation is a little different. My 2.5-year-old daughter has been in an increasingly-more-difficult period of "no" for 6 long months ...
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How to handle disobediant children as non-parental authority figure

I volunteer with children regularly, usually very young preschool or toddler age. One of the common issues I have noticed is that handling disobeying children can become complicated when your the ...
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How do discipline my kid at preschool?

Today I dropped my little 4yr old girl at school and she just didn't want to eat because from what she says, she "stuffed her face with popcorn" when I wasn't looking. The problem: All of her friends ...
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Guilt as a natural consequence of bad/wrong behaviour

We all know that natural consequences is the best tool when dealing with inappropriate behaviour. However, one of natural consequences of doing something bad to another person is feeling guilty for ...
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Almost 6 year old girl bad behavior

My boyfriend has a little 6 year old girl and she won't listen to us. I really don't understand what to do... I am not the type of person to spank, but she has forced me to the past couple days. ...
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10 year old refuses to go to bed

Our 10 year old stepdaughter has trouble going to bed at night. She refuses to go to bed, and fights us very hard, to the point where our only hope of her going to bed is to physically pick her up and ...
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8 year old punishes himself for bad behaviour

My 8 year old step-son is still rather sensitive for his age, and sometimes takes being disciplined very hard. When he genuinely feels bad about something he's done wrong and we tell him off, he will ...
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How to handle a preschooler who hits?

My 4 year old son has autism and no verbal language, and a tendency to hit or scratch us (adults) when he gets frustrated. We try to tell him (with verbal language and signing) "no" or "stop", and ...
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8-year-old right away repeats action after she is told not to do them

My 8-year-old right away repeats the things she is forbidden from doing. For example, when she is told not to sing at the dinner table she will right away start singing in a lower tone. This is not ...
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Is there a good summary of the different discipline philosophies for pre-school and school aged childern

Is there a good website or book that describes and compares the current leading approaches to disciplining pre-school and school aged children. I realize that there are numerous opinions on the best ...
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My 9 year old son regards life as meaningless [closed]

My son, who is currently 9 years of age, tells me that life is absolutely meaningless and that "we're all here to waste time". When he first told me this, I felt both angry and depressed. And no, ...
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How strict should I be with my 9 month old?

I want him to be well behaved but I also want him to be happy and to feel loved by us. I find it difficult to balance telling him off so the he understands not to drop food on the floor, grab my ...
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Validity on a study about spanking children

Earlier today, I got into an argument with someone about spanking children and whether or not it caused them to become more violent later in life in addition to other issues. Eventually, this article ...
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Pros/Cons: Children Picking Their Own Punishments [closed]

What are the pros/cons of children picking their own punishments? (There's a lot of opinion online, but I'm looking for something with, hopefully, some scientific basis or something that is not just ...
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What to do about my 6-year-old son with listening, focus and behavioral issues?

I have 3 boys, one a 6 year old. My husband and I are very positive people and try and do a lot with our children, and give each child equal attention. The concerns I have with my 6 year old son are ...
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How to punish my 5 year old bully?

My five year old daughter has been in kindergarten for a whole year. Now she is going into grade 1, but she has become a bully. This past Friday she pushed a kid off the play structure at the school. ...
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I think my 11 month old is afraid of his dad

I will try to make this short... Every time my son's dad shows his face, my son cries himself to sleep. His dad tries to console him but it never works. It always gets to the point of his dad feeling ...
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3 year-old boy wants constant attention, hits and deliberately poops in underpants when he doesn't get it

I have a nearly 3-year-old boy whose energy has become near-limitless, coupled with new neediness, aggression, and defiance. He wants to run around and be played with for the entire day. He is unable ...
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How can I get my son to keep time during school time? [closed]

I am homeschooling my 8 year old son, who has a lot for trouble completing his school work in good time. I have tried giving him a nice stretch of time per subject but this doesn't seem to work. How ...