Questions tagged [daycare]

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How to prevent my child from being indoctrinated with Christianity? [duplicate]

Context: We are living in a Germany and have a small child (15 months) who will go to a public kindergarten at the age of 24 months. Problem: In our region, all public funded kindergartens also have ...
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Is it reasonable/common for a daycare to show TV shows during the day?

My son is 18-months-old and he is in a daycare room with kids 16-months to 2.5 years. Most days when I pick him up they are watching TV. The shows range from somewhat educational (Dora, Sesame St.) ...
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Get around peer's mind games gracefully

What shall my 2.5-year-old son do in the situation when his peer plays naughty games with him? My son meets regularly with a toddler girl (3yo); his friend, our neighbor and a follow-mate in ...
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What is the impact on kids of having two working parents?

Having grown up with a stay-at-home mom, I wonder what negative impact not having a SAH parent has on young children and elementary school children (who are in alternative care after school). Let's ...
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What is the best way to evaluate a daycare?

What questions should I typically ask if the topics don't come up? Also, what should I be looking for that might not otherwise be pointed out, or worse things they may hope as a novice parent I won't ...
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3 year old has a fit when arriving at daycare

My 36 month old boy will happily walk or ride on my bike to the creche (daycare), will lead me right up to the door of his room, as if he is looking forward to the day's activities. Then just as we ...
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Will getting child care from a non-native English speaker impact my child's language development?

My wife and I really like a neighborhood day care we recently checked out. The place seems very nice and the care providers seem to do a very good job. They are organized, appear to give a lot of ...
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How can I pick my son up from daycare without a struggle?

My son is 26 months old, and goes to an in-home daycare with 5-6 other children. He does very well there, and gets along with the other kids without serious problems (there are the conflicts over ...
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Pros and cons of putting an infant in a Daycare

My kid (not born yet) has both parents working. I have the choice of calling up my father in law to stay at our house to watch the infant of 5 months and I also have the choice of sending the kid in ...
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Does daycare mentally damage children under three?

An article in The Times and plagerized here suggests that it may do children permanent mental harm to be left in nursery (daycare) when under the age of three. Jonas Himmelstrand, a Swedish ...
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Should I be concerned that my two-year-old doesn't interact with kids his age?

I have a 22-month old boy who is currently an only child. He's a very smart, outgoing child who has never shown any sort of developmental issues. He enjoys books and music, has an amazing memory, and ...
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I feel like a failure for sending my child to nursery - is it too early to send them?

When my wife and I were trying for kids, we were both on good salaries, and it was hoped my wife would be able to be a stay-at-home mum to raise our child until three years old when nursery would ...
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Should toddlers have learning goals?

My two (almost 2-year old children) have started going to a day care centre a couple of days a week - they seem quite happy there and it's all going well. The centre has a learning framework for the ...
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To Socks or not to socks?

My own daughter mostly refused to wear socks - unless she had shoes on - until she was about five years old. Even now, she only wears them in the coldest months and rips them off her feet at the drop ...
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Returning to work quickly - how does feeding work?

My partner is looking to return to work soon after giving birth. We both work, so we'll need to find someplace that looks after baby whilst we are out all day. The question we have is how does the ...
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What to tell the child that says, "Mom, is Santa really real?"

I am not asking if it is okay to perpetuate the Santa Myth here. There is another question about that here. I am also not asking when this is likely to happen. That is answered here I am asking ...
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Are kids with daycare background antisocial?

I am a new parent to an 8-month-old boy. We are in a dilemma about whether to put the child in daycare (both parents are working) or take care of him at home (wife would have to leave her job). I ...
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What to do when we are concerned about the sexualisation of our 20-month-old son?

My baby is 20 months old. He cannot talk that well, mostly only saying a few words clearly or baby speak. He goes to nursery twice a week, for the rest of the time he is at home with his mother. ...
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How to help a 2-year-old settle in day care where a foreign language is spoken?

TL;DR Our son is starting daycare in a country where the language is (almost) completely alien to him. Can we do anything to help him settling in this new environment? (full story below) Original ...
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How should I address daycare reports of misbehaving 4.5-year-old?

Our 4.5-year-old has been in daycare since three months, and at the same daycare for nearly four years. His behavior at daycare has generally been a little up and down, mostly good days with some bad ...
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When the three year old tells two unmarried, unrelated adults to hug and kiss goodbye - What then?

I baby sit a three year old regularly. When I leave he is asked to choose between a hug and kiss, a high five, or a fist bump as a way to see me off. So, the other morning, when his Dad was leaving ...
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How to handle a biting toddler in the crèche?

My daughter is in a child caring facility (a Montessori children's house, for what it's worth) in a crèche group of children from about 1 year to 3 years old. For some months now, one child from the ...
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How to handle day care provider that tells baby to stop crying?

I went to pick up my 5-month-old son at day care today. He attends a small day care center with a separate infant room. When I arrived, I heard one of the babies crying; she was lying on the floor. ...
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How can I help the Bitten?

In her creche, my 2-year-old daughtergot severely bitten by three different children now with a couple of months between each incident-cluster. The first biter moved to a different creche soon after, ...
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How can I address issues that concern me at daycare (and school) without creating tension with the staff?

I realize that as a parent I will need to be my child's advocate at daycare and school and pursue issues that concern me. How can I bring up issues of concern about the behavior of the staff ...
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Typical frequency of discplinary issues for a 5-year-old?

My 5-year-old son just started kindergarten a week ago, and has already committed two infractions serious enough for the teacher to bring to our attention: once throwing a serious tantrum, and once ...
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Does daycare help to speed up the development of motor skills?

I have heard about studies that show second/third/etc children's motor skills develop quicker in an effort to keep up with their older sibling(s). Is this also true for eldest children in a daycare ...
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How do you effectively disinfect a large amount of toys?

I work at a nursery and I have a hard time managing the toys that the kids play with. I watch them put things in their mouths, cough and sneeze on the toys, and throw everything on the ground. Even ...
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How to stop my 4-year-old from having tantrums at preschool?

My 4-, soon to be 5-, year-old daughter has temper tantrums at preschool. She does not have them for me and has not had them for me for the past couple of years. I never fed her temper tantrums. It ...
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best age to start a daycare

If you had a choice to stay with your single baby at home as long as you want to, would you still send him to a daycare to communicate with other babies? What age is recommended for starting a daycare,...
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How do we deal with potty training at daycare?

Our situation is that potty training is going well at home, but really badly at daycare. We have an appointment with the daycare staff next week to discuss strategies. My son, who is 2.5 years old, is ...
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Three year old gags when he tries new foods

I spend a lot of time caring for a three-year-old that is a pretty picky eater. However, the stuff he does eat is generally fairly healthy stuff. Lately he has started gagging on food he isn't sure ...
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21-month-old crying for hours starting at the daycare door

My question is similar to a previous one in that my 21-month-old boy cries miserably at the door of his daycare room every morning. The difference is that the crying continues all morning—at least ...
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Son bites to defend himself. What can I do?

My 3-year-old son is biting to defend himself. I received a call from the daycare today asking what they should do. My son doesn't bite at home at all, he is only biting at school. For some reason the ...
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My 5-year-old daughter was verbally forced by another 7-year-old girl to show her bottom in daycare

My 5-year-old daughter was verbally forced by another 7-year-old girl to show her bottom in daycare. She told me today about this while taking a bath with me. She doesn't remember when this incident ...
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Does free childcare have an effect on children's development and how much time parents spend with children?

Some countries have free nursery/pre-school from a very young age - it's compulsory in France from age three, for example. I'm interested in what kind of effect this has on children's development. By ...
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What steps to take when a classmate of my 33-month-old bites him?

My son is 2 years 9 months old. He has a classmate of roughly the same age. The class is for kids under 3 and over 2. That classmate bites or attempts to bite my son. My son is his only target in ...
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Is it normal for a 3.5-year-old child to get sick every month?

My son is now 3.5 years old and had recently started going to play school. Ever since, he had been getting sick approximately at a rate of once every 4-5 weeks. Each time it is the same story, he gets ...
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How do you address the bullying at the daycare your child tells you about?

My wife and I put our child through daycare. There's a child with issues, who has only been there for a few months. Lately, our daughter has been telling us what that other child has been doing. We ...
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How to help our 2.5-year-old daughter deal with an abusive 5-year-old boy?

In the Kindergaden, our 2.5-year-old daughter has periodic confrontations with a 5-year-old boy, who used to hit her on the head with a toy. She is totally scared of him up to not willing to go to the ...
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Explaining a quick & unforeseen daycare change

Our in-home daycare provider gave us her 2 weeks notice on Wednesday, completely out of the blue. Now that her youngest is a senior in high school, she's found a 9-5 job. To top it off, her holiday ...
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My 7-year-old doesn't want to go to before-school childcare - how do I engage her with the opportunities in this situation?

When I talk to my 7-year-old daughter about before school childcare, she says it is "boring" and "doesn't have friends to talk to". My personal thoughts (not that this is necessarily helpful in a ...
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My son isn't smiling back at us anymore when we pick him up from infant care

We began to send our 3month (almost 4 month) old son to infant care. The first two days are half-days only. On the second day, after we picked him up from the center, he didn't smile back at us as ...
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Rough Nose is Painful to wipe - what to do?

There is a horrible cold going around so I have a couple of rough noses that need blowing and wiping that are attached to children for whom this has been pure torture. We have used moisturizers and ...
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Settling in toddler in daycare

We've just started daycare for our 2 year old toddler, and on the first day of settling in, he cried so bitterly that he made himself sick (puked) and we were advised to take him home. And on the ...
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Does too much or too little exposure to infection affect long-term immune health?

Every time our children spend time with a group of other kids, there's at least one with the sniffles or worse. It's tempting to shield them from such sources of infection, but (leaving aside the non-...
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How to make my 20-month-old son stop biting other children in the kindergarden?

My 20-month-old son bites other children in the kindergarden. He does it in the course of play, and sometimes he bites me, too. The kindergarden teacher says, this is normal, it's just an episode. ...
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Teacher appreciation week

My 1.5 year old attends a private day-care/Montessori school. This is teacher appreciation week, and I am at a loss as to what to do to express my thanks. Since this is a day-care setting, even though ...
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How can I supplement my Pre-K child's education?

My 4 year old is in Pre-K. She is the youngest in her grade too. I have consistently had preschool and Sunday school teachers tell me for the past 2 years how mature she is in class. She shows other ...
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Two year old starting creche, completely hyper when he comes home

Our son (2 years & 9 months old) is starting creche, we've had some "introduction days" where we drop him in for a few hours each day to become accustomed to the change. Normally he's an ...