Questions tagged [crying]

Many people have questions about what amount of crying is normal, what is excessive, how to influence the frequency, or how to respond to a crying child.

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My 4-year-old refers to himself as me

Literally. Sometimes he will ascribe himself properties I have, and make me the child--he'll say "I'm a grown-up", "You can't sit in the front seat [in our car], it's not safe, I have to sit in the ...
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Should you pick a baby up everytime it cries?

My husband and i have differing opinions on this. I don't believe in the term 'spoilt'. I would be very happy if my daughter was 'spoilt' in the sense that she expects to be treated with the highest ...
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When a baby cries, should we speak to it?

My baby girl is 30 days old; she can not talk or comprehend language yet. When she cries, does it help to comfort her by talking to her? Or might our voices irritate her even more? Update: I ...
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What to do about my toddler's fixation on the smell of her mother’s hair?

I would like to help my 2-year-old daughter sleep without smelling and pulling my wife's hair. Every night, my wife gets nervous and headaches, as our daughter pulls her hair for at least 30 minutes. ...
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How to deal with my 2-year-old daughter crying and getting angry when we don't give her what she asks for?

My daughter is 2 years and 4 months old. Yesterday, she asked me to give her my phone and I told her, "No this is mine." She started crying and hitting me and then she bit me. I got shocked, then I ...
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Baby fights to get out of arms, cries when I put him down

I have an 11-month-old son. Sometimes, particularly when he's very sleepy, he will fight to get out of the arms of whoever is holding him but the moment he is put down he starts screaming and crying. ...
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Is the “cry it out” approach harmful?

We have several questions on this site that deal with infants and toddlers who cry a lot, for various reasons. Here is an example question and example answer, another answer. The topic was raised on ...
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5 year old cries every time she is told “no”

My 5 year old daughter is crying every time she is told no. It doesn't matter if it is a little thing or a big thing she is asking for--she cries. We don't give in to her crying. We have tried ...
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Is it appropriate for parents to cry in front of their children?

Sometimes a parent may be feeling sad (for whatever reason) and needs to cry. Is it harmful, or could it even be good, to cry sometimes in front of your children? What does research say?
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Why won't our infant stop crying when in the car seat?

We have a 2-month-old baby that will start crying as soon as we put her in the car seat and absolutely will not stop until she is out of it. She could be fed and asleep with a new diaper before the ...
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How do you teach a child to call for help?

We have a relatively large house. Our kids are always in earshot, but not usually in sight. The problem with this is our 4 year-old son doesn't know how to call out for help appropriately. On the ...
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Why does my child cry when her parents laugh?

My wife and I have an almost 2-year-old daughter, whom since the age of about 6 months, cries when we laugh. For the first approximately 6-9 months, this was pretty much every time we laughed. Since ...
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How to direct my one-year old baby not to do bad things

I have a one-year old baby, she is smart and loves to try everything and anything, including putting her fingers in the electricity and tasting every possible thing she finds :) How can I tell my ...
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Should I respond to “fussing” the same as crying in an infant?

During the night my 7-week-old will fuss in his sleep (grunt, flail, etc...). This fussing rarely proceeds to crying but he usually will not settle on his own. When I pick him up he will usually ...
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Why is my baby crying?

What's a good sorted list of potential causes to check when my baby cries and I don't know why? I need something I can print out in advance because I can't think very clearly once the crying starts.
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Is it okay to let a baby cry at bedtime?

My 4-month-old has a set bedtime routine and will generally go happily to sleep - but occasionally (for no particular reason) he'll work himself up into a fit and cry for long periods of time, ...
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Is there any way to limit distress when diaper changing for newborns?

To say that our four day old does not like having his diaper changed is the understatement of the century. It seems that by the time the clothes are opened, he is becoming increasingly agitated, and ...
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Is it safe to blow on a baby's face?

I've seen some parents blowing on their baby's face when crying. The baby suddenly stops crying but he looked very surprised. I wonder if this could harm the baby in some way.
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How can we explain our “cry it out” strategy to people who oppose it?

My wife and I have had success with a form of the "cry it out" strategy with our three children. I know it's not for everyone, but our household has gotten into some healthy sleep patterns without ...
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Is there any benefit to not responding immediately to a crying infant?

Crying is a newborn's favorite activity. They cry whenever they feel hungry, unsafe, or uncomfortable. But sometimes I prefer to not respond to crying as quickly as possible, in order to teach my ...
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Why is my newborn crying constantly?

my 4 week old daughter will not stop crying. We've tried everything from sucking, both on pacifiers and fingers to breastfeeding, white noise, movement, diaper is clean she doesn't seem to have a ...
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Why do babies fight sleep and how to calm them down?

My nice of 9 months is crying to fight sleep. Why does she do that? How can one calm her down? It's absolutely silly to watch :). She sits there and everything is all right. As soon as she falls ...
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Why does my 2-month-old consistently fuss at nightfall?

My 2-month-old daughter consistently fusses or screams around sundown/nightfall regardless of the sky being overcast, the lights in the house being on, or apparently any other factor. Is this common, ...
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How to cope with a crying infant in the car during short trips?

An issue has come up recently with our new son, in that he is at his most vocally unhappy when in the car. It's not 100% of the time, but it happens daily. It's only rarely because of dirty diapers ...
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How can we get our newborn to sleep at night as soundly as he does in the day?

We've just had a new arrival- a little boy, now 7 days old. During the day he sleeps like a dream. As I write this, he has been asleep for around 4 hours without really stirring at all. The only ...
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Any suggestions on how to control yelling and negativity on our part, and also teach my 8 yr old son to not feel so helpless and cry so easily?

This is about my 8-year old son, who cries easily and helplessly, mostly in response to our enforcing discipline and routine or refusing things he wants. I understand that he should not expect to be ...
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How to stop my 8 year old from crying every time she's frustrated?

My 8 year old daughters is usually very good. But in the last few months she has started to cry more and more each time she can't have something she wants. The odd thing is that it's something she ...
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Controlled crying isn't working at night. What are my options?

We used controlled crying to help our daughter get to sleep easier at 6 months. This was hard work at the time but now, at 10 months, we can reliably put her down at the end of her bed time routine ...
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Why do my children cry in my wife's arms but are quiet with me?

We have two sons, one is 1.5 years, the other just 3 months old. It's strange that my older child often wakes up at night and starts crying uncontrollably and just won't calm down and go to sleep ...
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Why would my 9-week-old refuse to nurse from breast?

My 9-week-old has recently started to refuse to nurse from the breast. She will only eat from the bottle (pumped breastmilk). She has successfully breastfed since birth, she also uses the bottle ...
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Can I figure out what my baby wants by the sound it makes when it cries?

Can I figure out what my baby needs from its crying? According to Dunstan Baby Language, the sound used before hysterical baby crying gives information on what the baby needs. The Dunstan website ...
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What to do when the pinky is the only way to soothe a newborn?

My question is: Is there any way to soothe a crying baby in the middle of the night other than inserting my pinky? Summery: Pinky method = only successful soothing found Tried the following other ...
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15 month old has started whining constantly?

I have a 15 month old little girl who up until now has been a very easy baby. Over the last month or so, she has begun whine nearly constantly. There are a few ways to stop her. Usually these ...
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Why does my baby cry when I hold her while sitting down?

It drives me crazy. Usually when I hold her in my arms, everything goes well if I am standing up and walking around in the house. However, when I sit down (because at some point I get tired), after a ...
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When and for how long should a baby and one-year-olds be allowed to cry?

So, this question is inspired somewhat by Do we Need to help a baby learn to soothe itself? as well as my own experience with other people's children and my own. Many mothers are reluctant to let ...
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My wild 3.5-year-old - have I missed out on the key years of relationship-building and discipline?

I have a 3.5-year-old son. He's bright and energetic, but I'm worried about his behavior, since it seems out of control. He was walking at 7 months. His language has always been good - he knew his ...
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My 5 year old step son has started crying about everything and wanting to go to moms

Alright, a brief background. My step son is 5 years old, starting kindergarten in the fall. His parents divorced about two years ago, they share 50/50 custody. His mother gets him Thursday evening -...
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Does a baby cry inside the womb?

Considering Music for gestation - what should baby be hearing while in the womb? that babies can hear sounds inside the womb, I also expect myself to hear the baby crying or making sounds inside the ...
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How do we get an 8-month-old back to sleeping in his crib?

Our 8-month-old son's crib is in our bedroom, and he was mostly sleeping the whole night in his crib with no issues. Due to a series of events (power outage, spending the night at relatives with no ...
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My one year old daughter keeps waking up same time every night screaming and crying

I am very confused and concerned - My 13-monthld daughter wakes up between 1:30 am and 3:40 am screaming and crying in her crib. I have tried giving her a bottle of milk, cup of water, cuddling her, ...
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How to handle day care provider that tells baby to stop crying?

I went to pick up my 5-month-old son at day care today. He attends a small day care center with a separate infant room. When I arrived, I heard one of the babies crying; she was lying on the floor. ...
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Is it fair (or adequate) to ask a 4 yr old to stop crying for some reason?

In my education, my parents never asked me such a thing. My wife, on the other hand, understands you can ask a child to stop crying (she had a tougher childhood I guess). So I have mixed feelings ...
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Is it bad practice for a parent to tell their children when they have a right/reason to cry?

I witnessed parents telling their kids that, if they didn't get hurt or physically harmed in any way, they have no right or reason to cry. I kind of disagree because one doesn't cry just because of ...
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How can I protect my ears when the baby cries?

I'm suffering from tinnitus. In my case, this is a constant, high-pitched whine. The volume is insignificant when I'm relaxed in quiet surroundings, but stress and loud noise can instantly increase ...
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How to break our infant of the habit of crying when none of us is in the same room as he is?

My wife and I live alone (i.e. no other family members) and our 6-month-old infant is quite attached to both of us. When we have visitors, or we are over to other persons' houses, he is okay to play ...
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What's the best way to deal with a toddler who cries/paddies when she doesn't get her own way?

I have non-identical twin girls, 22 months old. One of them will cry when she doesn't get her own way and she'll do it fairly quickly even if she is in a good mood. For example, if she wants a ...
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How do I help my 5-year-old daughter solve problems instead of crying

I am the lucky father of an adorable 5-year-old girl. I understand she has her own process to learn how to deal with frustration and I think it's quite normal for a 5-year-old girl to start crying ...
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Why does my 17-month-old cry in the middle of the night?

Our daughter is 17 months (500 days) old. She wakes up 2 or 3 times at night. After reading some websites, we're concerned that she might have night terrors. What could be going on? What can we do?
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21-month-old crying for hours starting at the daycare door

My question is similar to a previous one in that my 21-month-old boy cries miserably at the door of his daycare room every morning. The difference is that the crying continues all morning—at least ...
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How to remove a 3-year-old's “over” attachment to his mother?

We have a 3-year-old son. During the last few months we have observed him being strongly attached to his mom. Wherever he goes, he needs his mom. He cries like crazy at any time he notices she is ...