Questions tagged [conflict]
Habits or opinions that cause disagreement, and how to resolve those differences.
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8-year-old refuses to blow his nose
My 8-year-old son constantly has a runny nose. When he sniffles and I hear it, I'll usually ask him to blow his nose. Sometimes he starts arguing and whining as soon as I ask - for some reason he ...
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My son calls my father in law Grandpa "nonno" (in italian) and his wife (step grandma) is telling my son to call him just Grandpa now not nonno
My son has always called his grandma (my mother-in-law) the Italian word for grandma, "nonna" and his grandpa "nonno", the Italian word for grandpa. Recently my son called his grandpa "nonno" in front ...
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Is this bullying? Are we overreacting/under-reacting?
My happy, positive, loving, open-minded, outgoing teenage daughter gets along with other people very easily. She's kind by nature and cares deeply about the feelings of others. She's mature for her ...
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Is my mom overly controlling?
I just wanted some help. I’m 18.
Lately I have been really confused if my mother is overtly controlling or I’m just a frustrated teen or it is dysfunctional household.
I really don’t know where to ...
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How do I express my feelings about my 15-year-old daughter's rude boyfriend?
My 15-year-old daughter always has her boyfriend around the house and I don't like the way he talks to her and my family, as the man of the house I would like to show that I am dominant and show that ...
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Father always wants to be right
I am a 22 year old living with my parents. I'm currently in quite a bit of distress as my father has kicked me out. I assume my mom will talk with him when she gets back from her night shift but for ...
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How to bring my 23-year-old daughter to an adult discussion with me and her mother about issues?
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I was witness to a banal argument between my 23-year-old daughter and her mum which has lead to a three month impasse, whereby my daughter has installed herself in my small apartment with the ...
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Parents disagree on type of music for toddler's listening
My wife and I listen to different music, and often argue about what our 2 year old son should listen to.
I want him to be closer to me, as I'm a musician and wish to work together with him in the ...
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The right way to address someone else's child?
The other day I was in line with my twin 3/yo boys and another boy, who was probably 4 or 5, leaped forward and roared in one of their faces. On the way out, they also said he touched their hair. (I ...
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How can a much older brother gain recognition for being a de-facto father?
I'm 26 years old and live with my mother who is a single mother. She adopted two children as newborns who are now 5 years old. My mom has recently started working outside the home so now I even get ...
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An Adult Child and a Difficult Ex
My biological son, 26, will soon be graduating college and my wife (his step-mom) and I are throwing him a graduation party. My wife and I have had a very difficult time with his mother and her ...
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During and after a separation - explaining to children who their "family" is
My wife and I are in a kind of quasi-separation that is likely to lead to divorce. She has been and is emotionally abusive (the silent treatment, projection and gaslighting being what she does most), ...
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How to implement natural consequences to make an 8-year-old stop being rude to a sibling?
I have an 8-year-old son, a 6- and a 2-year-old daughter. My son is a model student but really likes to argue. He's extremely stubborn and always right. When he argues with me, I'll correct him and ...
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How to stop my son being overly sensitive of his peers?
My son (4 year old) gets on well with all of the children at his childcare and also has a smaller group of 3 or 4 close friends. However, he is super-sensitive to anything they say: not every day, but ...
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How can I make my parents understand that once I finish my studies, everything will be fine?
My parents are not highly educated. They have gone to primary school only. Also, my family's financial condition is poor. But now the condition is improving gradually. Fortunately, I am good at study. ...
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How do I convince my strict parents to allow me to do things as a 17 year old?
I’m 17 and I have my driver's license and I’m legally old enough for many things. However, my parents have not allowed me to drive ever since I upgraded from my permit to my license. I have also been ...
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How to react when two toddlers fight over the same toy?
Your children are playing happily. Suddenly, you hear them yelling and notice that they both grab on to the same toy and fight over it.
You don't know who "had it first" and, thus, has some kind of "...
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How to deal with extreme misbehavior of younger siblings?
I have a 3-year-old, a 5-year-old and an 11-year-old who have just been the most exceptionally worst behaved children on this planet. Between the 3- and 5-year-olds, they backchat, break things, have ...
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How to deal with a pre-travel conflict with my mother about overpacking?
I am 22 years of age and living at home while I finish my degree. My upcoming trip (with family) begins to take shape. I will be travelling with my mother for roughly 2 1/2 weeks (the first half of ...
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How to help a pre-schooler overcome sensitivity to social setbacks?
My son (3yrs 9 months) is bright and generally happy, but sensitive and sometimes acutely anxious. The sensitivity worries me a little for the future. If something in a social context doesn't go his ...
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What to do when child asks from older kids and they refuse
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My son is 4 years old and, as all other kids, is very fond of video games. He has a limited screen time, and currently his tablet was broken by his younger sister. He cried but then ...
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Toddler's inner conflict with himself
Our son is 2.5 years old. At this age I expected him to start disagreeing with his mother and me, but although he does, occasionally, he seems to be disagreeing with himself more. Especially when he ...
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How to resolve disagreement about having kids? [closed]
My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 1/2 years and love one another very much. My girlfriend wants to get married, and decide whether to have kids until right when we're ready for them (expect ...
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Talking to a highly defensive young person
There is a particular young person with whom I have have regular interactions that appears to take every interaction as an attack. Thus if one were say "I do not wish for you to shove your things in ...
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How to best deal with kids ringing doorbell and running away?
I don't talk with my neighbours much besides the occasional hello and wave when we see each other outside. I live in a neighbourhood of townhouses. 2 boys (age low elementary school, I dunno grade 3 ...
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Four Year Old - Won't listen, cries frequently, incredibly stubborn
I have two children, a four year old and a two year old. Both my kids are sweet and kind hearted. However, the 4yo has suffered from separation anxiety in the past and has a very stubborn personality. ...
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How to play and spend time with kids
I got a 6-year-old and 23 months old, I am guilty of not spending time with my kids because I do not know how to. My son is very good at the following instruction, I got him to switch gaming consoles ...
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Selling a house post-divorce
I am 22 years old, an only child, and haven't lived with my parents (save for the summer months) since I started college in 2017. I am graduated as of 2020 and I have a stable and well paying job in a ...
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Daughter's reluctance to come to my place during a quasi-separation - impact on social life
My wife and I are in a kind of quasi-separation situation. My wife is emotionally abusive, resorting to the silent treatment, gaslighting and projection regularly. She moved to a different city with ...
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Should I be concerned about my 6-year-old daughter resolving most of things with crying or yelling?
My 6-year-old daughter is generally a very optimistic, probably happy, smiling kid which likes to play with her sister and others. But... only until everything goes according to her expectations.
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How can I get my kid to stop whistling...so much?
I know this makes me sound like a jerk, but it feels nuanced and I really am trying to learn and grow.
Some added context:
He is using the handflute, or 'hand ocarina' method
He does it very ...
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How to stop grandparents from acting overprotective?
I have been living with my wife's family for a while both before and after the birth of my kid, and my mother-in-law feels like she is right about everything.
My wife is also a way of nagging what ...
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How to help 3-year-old stop breaking down about going to the bathroom?
My son is 3 years 11 months old. He's been potty trained for about 10 months now. Things were just fine early on, he would go potty when we asked him to with no complaint. For the last few months ...
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How do I tell my parents I don't agree with their beliefs? [duplicate]
I am a 15-year-old and this is my problem :
I was raised in an extremely Christian environment, I had no problem following what my parents and the church thought was best for me.
About three years ago ...
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How to help mom deal with disrespectful and uncooperative sister?
I am a 23-year old college senior that temporarily returned from college during quarantine. Due to logistical necessity, since my brother moved into my former room when I left, I've been sleeping on ...
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8 year old boy lying and disrespectful
Our 8 year old, talks back a lot and started lying! Last night there was an argument over him lying about taking a shower so I said, this isn't the first time this week you lied about taking a shower ...
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I'm worried that my 2-year-old granddaughter is extremely aggressive
I am very worried about my 2-year-old granddaughter (she will be 3 years old in 3 months). Anytime she gets in trouble she laughs no matter how she is disciplined. Her parents have tried talking to ...
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How do you respond when someone is extending unsolicited parenting advice?
I was in the grocery store and there was a child having a complete meltdown. Another woman, a stranger to me and also to the mother with the tantruming child started yelling that the mother was 'a ...
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How to deal with siblings always quarreling over simple situations?
I am a 20 year old male about to join undergraduate, living with my cousin (15 yo, grade 8) and my sister (17 yo high schooler) in a single rented room.
We all live away from home for study reasons. ...
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Is there a formal term for a "I'm not your friend anymore" trait?
One time, when my wife was doing homework with my 6-year-old son, he did not want to do something so she couldn't take it and she slightly yelled at him. I sat down with him and he told me that "He's ...
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My 5 years old being very difficult
My son is almost 6 and is very choosy and in everything he cries, I saw him playing in school (as U.K. school doesn't allow parents to go in and see their kids) but now I came to my home country and ...
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What is the role of parents in conflicts between adult siblings?
Trying to keep this short, the main question is really in the title..
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My sister and I have a conflict which began about eight months ago, and I am currently not talking to her. We're both ...
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Can I avoid nice clothing being a source of argument?
My middle child (seven years old) hates dressing up. Well... sort of. He likes shopping for dressy clothing (slacks, vest, button-down shirt, tie) and has a respectable collection. He'll even ...
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How should I act during conflict between my child and my spouse if I dispraise the child's behaviour?
We have a lot of conflicts with our son (now 7 years old, but this was not different the years before). One common situation is: there is a conflict between him and my wife (and I'm not involved or ...
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When should I intervene in conflicts between my children and other relatives?
I have a problem that whenever I want to speak and need to speak giving my advice, idea, or argument my heart races, hands shake and I get dry mouth hence leaving me unable to do it.
Currently, our ...
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how to deal with my sister
I have a sister 8 years younger than me (18) years old. My Mom and I have always tried to do the best for her and support her, however she is really rude to all my family members. She doesn't respect ...
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"I don't like this" vs. "Leave me alone"
My two pre-schoolers (almost 4, almost 5) sometimes play rough with each other, e.g. when fighting over some toy. When one of them asks us parents for help, it's sometimes part of the game (they want ...
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How to teach kids that loud voices are nothing to be scared of
If parents are habituated to raising their voice when disagreeing with their partner, in the presence of kids, it appears that the kids are visibly distressed due to this. It is clear that its the ...
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Older sib is emotionally abusive to younger sib. I am looking for effective strategies to prevent and ameliorate this
Emotional blackmail
Gaslighting
Manipulation
Blatant lying*
Victim blaming
Physical domineering**
*By blatant lying, I mean telling a lie that you can't possibly think the other party actually ...
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Should I tell my son about his biological father?
I am a mother of 5 children, in the order of a boy (10), 3 girls(7,5,3), and a baby boy just born a few months ago.
I met my husband 10 years ago, 7 months before my first boy was born. Before that, ...
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