Questions tagged [conflict]
Habits or opinions that cause disagreement, and how to resolve those differences.
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How concerned should I be about husband's anger display around baby?
My husband got angry at me during an argument yesterday and threw his keyboard (in shattered) and ripped down the whiteboard (may have thrown it, I don't know. We had left the room) on the wall and ...
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How can I stop my parents from fighting?
I'm am 13 years old and my parents have been fighting a lot they stay up all night fighting. Most nights when they do fight I never get any sleep I just cry. I want to tell them how I feel and I tried ...
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How to resolve disagreement about having kids? [closed]
My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 1/2 years and love one another very much. My girlfriend wants to get married, and decide whether to have kids until right when we're ready for them (expect ...
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Should I push my parents to divorce? [closed]
My father suffers from depression, my mother and I constantly try to help him.
Five years ago my grandmother, that is his mother, unexpectedly died, and my grandfather's Alzheimer's became evident.
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How to deal with siblings always quarreling over simple situations?
I am a 20 year old male about to join undergraduate, living with my cousin (15 yo, grade 8) and my sister (17 yo high schooler) in a single rented room.
We all live away from home for study reasons. ...
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Parents disagree on type of music for toddler's listening
My wife and I listen to different music, and often argue about what our 2 year old son should listen to.
I want him to be closer to me, as I'm a musician and wish to work together with him in the ...
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Should a 6 year old's grandmother be kept away if she is abusive to her father?
My daughter loves her grandma and the feeling is mutual. But on occasion when my mom comes to visit, she loses her temper and she starts yelling at me. Sometimes my daughter overhears this despite my ...
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How to deal with my parents frequently getting mad at my life choices?
I’m 26 and I find both of my parents get mad at me for very bad reasons. For example, I was visiting my mom. In a mad tone she told me to stop playing a game on my phone. Just realizing it now, I find ...
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How do you respond when someone is extending unsolicited parenting advice?
I was in the grocery store and there was a child having a complete meltdown. Another woman, a stranger to me and also to the mother with the tantruming child started yelling that the mother was 'a ...
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Am I interrupting my husband's parenting?
My husband and I constantly have communication problem against parenting. Since I posted here last time about the discrepancies of parenting between us, he was so happy that someone said I should not ...
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An Adult Child and a Difficult Ex
My biological son, 26, will soon be graduating college and my wife (his step-mom) and I are throwing him a graduation party. My wife and I have had a very difficult time with his mother and her ...
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How to deal with a pre-travel conflict with my mother about overpacking?
I am 22 years of age and living at home while I finish my degree. My upcoming trip (with family) begins to take shape. I will be travelling with my mother for roughly 2 1/2 weeks (the first half of ...
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My husband and I have different opinions on parenting
We have a 3 year old cautious and sensitive boy. My husband and I often have different opinions on parenting and sometimes it led to arguments. For some reason, my husband tends to listen to third ...
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How to tell parents of guests that we had a loud fight during a sleepover?
My 9-year-old daughter had a few friends sleep over. My husband and I got into an argument in our room after we sent everyone to bed. He lost control and got really loud. He started slamming doors ...
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The right way to address someone else's child?
The other day I was in line with my twin 3/yo boys and another boy, who was probably 4 or 5, leaped forward and roared in one of their faces. On the way out, they also said he touched their hair. (I ...
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How to treat an 18 year old girl who avoids being with family and likes being with their friend?
I am asking this question on behalf of my friend, who has an 18 year old daughter. She has always been talking to me about her daughter, and whenever she talks about her, she cries.
The girl was like ...
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Father always wants to be right
I am a 22 year old living with my parents. I'm currently in quite a bit of distress as my father has kicked me out. I assume my mom will talk with him when she gets back from her night shift but for ...
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What to do when parents disagree over medical care? [closed]
What can you do when parents disagree about medical care?
In this case (friends of mine), the mother is undiscriminating about medical care. She forms highly speculative ideas about what might be ...
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What to do when there's a conflict between my husband and my 14-year-old daughter?
My husband and I have been married for 8 years. We have 4 kids (2 are from previous relationships.) My daughter is the oldest at 14. Her biological dad isn't around, so my husband is the only father ...
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how to deal with my sister
I have a sister 8 years younger than me (18) years old. My Mom and I have always tried to do the best for her and support her, however she is really rude to all my family members. She doesn't respect ...
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How to stop grandparents from acting overprotective?
I have been living with my wife's family for a while both before and after the birth of my kid, and my mother-in-law feels like she is right about everything.
My wife is also a way of nagging what ...
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How do we address other adults telling my son to ask us to bring him to their house?
My sister-in-law has developed a habit both my wife and I find annoying: in order to try and get us to come to their house more often, she constantly pulls my son aside when they're leaving from a ...
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Is it ok to disagree in front of the kids?
We have this little discussion here: Should I let my baby play with oranges?
I believe that it is always better for parents to avoid disagreeing, arguing, etc., in front of the kids, especially when ...
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How to deal with my son calling me on the telephone when he is in a fight with his mother?
I am divorced and have an 8-year-old son. Our son lives half of the time with me, half of the time with his mother. Communication between us parents is good, there is no conflict of any kind, and we ...
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How can I convince my parents to accept my approach on school?
I'm a 16 year-old junior in high school. I often spar with my parents over the fact that I'm failing many classes. The issue, however, is not that I do not understand the material; it's that "failing" ...
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I got a vasectomy after our 3rd child. Now, my wife wants a 4th child, but I don't [duplicate]
My wife and I (both 38 years old) have been married for 8 years now and we have 3 amazing kids (all under the age of 8). We really could not ask for more. Like any couple, we have gone through our ups ...
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How to convince an adult son that pot and LSD, even used sparingly is not acceptable
We have a child who has gone off to college and did not perform well his first year. We also found out during this time that he smoked pot in high school a little, and during his freshman year at ...
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Can I avoid nice clothing being a source of argument?
My middle child (seven years old) hates dressing up. Well... sort of. He likes shopping for dressy clothing (slacks, vest, button-down shirt, tie) and has a respectable collection. He'll even ...
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Is this bullying? Are we overreacting/under-reacting?
My happy, positive, loving, open-minded, outgoing teenage daughter gets along with other people very easily. She's kind by nature and cares deeply about the feelings of others. She's mature for her ...
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How do I convince my daughter to agree that I want to quit my job and not strain our mother-daughter relationship?
I want to leave and start something on my own. But my husband is not working as well and I fear my daughter will feel bad to say that both her parents are not working. What should I do? I have enough ...
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When my kids don't get along; what are some options besides punishment that can be effective beyond 5 minutes?
I have an 8-year-old daughter and a 5-year-old son. Sometimes my kids get along great, but like most sometimes they clash. I've been trying to work on substitutions to my usual model of rewards and ...
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How to deal with extreme misbehavior of younger siblings?
I have a 3-year-old, a 5-year-old and an 11-year-old who have just been the most exceptionally worst behaved children on this planet. Between the 3- and 5-year-olds, they backchat, break things, have ...
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How should I act during conflict between my child and my spouse if I dispraise the child's behaviour?
We have a lot of conflicts with our son (now 7 years old, but this was not different the years before). One common situation is: there is a conflict between him and my wife (and I'm not involved or ...
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Building a better relationship between half siblings for a more unified home?
My step son is 5. He's still struggling with the seperation of his parents. We have all been trying to reassure him in this home that he is loved. His father takes him for outings, sometimes, due to ...
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How to escape vicious circle of dawdling - no outdoor activities - conflicts ...?
I'm very frustrated at this moment.
I have 2 sweet sons (7 and 2 years old), and especially now during the winter holidays (we're all at home together, no school/kindergarden) we could do a lot of ...
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8-year-old refuses to blow his nose
My 8-year-old son constantly has a runny nose. When he sniffles and I hear it, I'll usually ask him to blow his nose. Sometimes he starts arguing and whining as soon as I ask - for some reason he ...
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How to implement natural consequences to make an 8-year-old stop being rude to a sibling?
I have an 8-year-old son, a 6- and a 2-year-old daughter. My son is a model student but really likes to argue. He's extremely stubborn and always right. When he argues with me, I'll correct him and ...
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Co-Parenting with a Toxic Ex: How to Handle Poisoned Comments from Toddler?
I left my verbally abusive ex-wife about 18 months, in part because I could see how much of an effect all the yelling had on my now 5-year old daughter and I wanted both my daughter and my now 3.5 ...
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How to resolve the conflict when my wife wants another baby and I don't, at all? [duplicate]
I'm 46 and my wife is 36. I met my wife when she was 28 and I was 38. I already had a 2-year-old child from a previous relationship at the time. When my wife hit 30, she was desperate for children, so ...
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Is there a formal term for a "I'm not your friend anymore" trait?
One time, when my wife was doing homework with my 6-year-old son, he did not want to do something so she couldn't take it and she slightly yelled at him. I sat down with him and he told me that "He's ...
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How should I handle an 8 year old lawyering and quibbling?
How should I handle an 8 year old lawyering and quibbling?
E.g., anytime he has a rule, or a task, or is told what to do, his FIRST impulse is nearly 100% to find some fault with the technicality or ...
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Is it a good approach to have a policy of apologizing for yelling at a kid?
A couple of times I encountered situation where people had a following policy
If a parent yells at a kid out of frustration with no meaningful reason (e.g. the kid just got on their nerves but ...
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How can I teach my son to behave nicely in the playground when other children make it hard?
I've been trying to teach my 3 and a half year old son to treat other children nicely and to try and resolve all conflicts without aggression, by talking. We've been talking about the issue and agreed ...
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How to deal with my teen daughter who is stealing and lying?
My daughter has been lying and stealing from us as well as someone she called her BFF. We give her consequences and she continues with her stealing and lying. Recently I found out that she was cutting ...
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Talking to a highly defensive young person
There is a particular young person with whom I have have regular interactions that appears to take every interaction as an attack. Thus if one were say "I do not wish for you to shove your things in ...
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How do I address a teacher humiliating my son by calling him a "tattletale"?
My friend recently shared this experience, and I thought it would be a good question for our site:
So, [my son] got in trouble in school today.
It seems that the kids were lined up in the hallway, ...
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Different discipline approaches by working mommy and stay-home daddy
I work at home (although me being independent is almost a euphemism for being unemployed). My wife is the primary breadwinner in our household. My wife is also currently under a lot of stress, as ...
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How to deal with the child when both the parents are not on the same page?
The kid will soon grow up to the age when she'll need to be disciplined.
My husband and I are NOT on the same page regarding disciplining the child.
I think if the kid cries because one parent has ...
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Teenage daughter and stepfather
I have a 16-year-old who has no respect for her stepfather. They hardly communicate and each time he says something she snaps or makes a stroppy or contradictory comment. He sometimes loses his temper ...
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How do I tell my parents I'm no longer Christian?
I have been going to church my whole life and faithfully following the Christian religion for 18 or so years.
I'm 20 years old, and I have been having doubts about my faith for about 2 years now.
My ...
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