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The process of expressing ideas, thoughts, feelings and values so as to be understood by others

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How can I explain the negative effects of spanking to someone who isn't a philosopher, behavior specialist etc?

How can I explain the negative effects of spanking to someone who isn't a philosopher, behavior specialist etc.? I know how to cite various studies, but when spanking comes up as a casual topic, I'd ...
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How to explain the "fun parent" phenomenon to a 5-year-old?

I'm a step-dad to 3 girls under 6. The eldest is still fairly enamored by bio-dad and while I won't go into the details; he's a man-child. The 3-year-old just follows the eldest at present, but I'm ...
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How do I tell my 14 year old niece that her mom is kicking her out?

I'm a 30 year old guy, and I'm single, never had a real girlfriend to speak of. My sister's first born is in some trouble and she has decided that her daughter cannot live with her anymore (there's ...
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How can I persuade a preschooler to wear a suit?

A few month ago, I asked: Can I avoid nice clothing being a source of argument? That was mainly focused on my eight year old, and now I have a related question... but about a preschooler. Our ...
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I want more time with my wife in our blended family, but she says no. [closed]

My wife and I have been married for about 8 months. We both have two children, each. I moved into her house with her kids. I have my kids twice a week and every other weekend. I told my wife I ...
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How can I help my toddler feel confident in his communication?

My two-and-a-half year old communicates very well, and we talk constantly about things he sees, or what he's feeling, or just about his toys. However, when he uses longer sentences or words that are ...
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How should I tell my parents that I smoke?

I'm a 19-year-old man. I have a job and live with uncle and auntie, because my parents don't live in the country I live in. I don't plan to quit smoking, at least for now ,because it does have almost ...
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How can I explain to my 5-year-old that I need to be alone if I am showering?

I'm having a difficult time sometimes with my 5-year-old daughter understanding when I need privacy such as when I take a shower or need to put body cream on afterwards, dry up etc. If I explain it to ...
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Boys have crush on my 6 year old daughter

Ok so my daughter goes to this new school, and a lot of boys have crush on her. When I pick her up from the after school I see all these little boys trying to flirt with her. I'm very open minded ...
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Divorce communications - How to deal with "you're unwilling to pay" tactic?

I am sure this must be a common issue, but for some reason I can't find a way to track it down via web searches. Here are the basics: I'm divorced, male, mid-40s. I am the noncustodial parent of a ...
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7yo step-son runs away when he thinks he's in trouble

The child in this case is 7 years old. Just as an example; maybe he breaks his own toy, clearly by accident, but right after I asked him not to do whatever caused the breaking. I would like to calmly ...
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Is this bullying? Are we overreacting/under-reacting?

My happy, positive, loving, open-minded, outgoing teenage daughter gets along with other people very easily. She's kind by nature and cares deeply about the feelings of others. She's mature for her ...
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Kids (ages 4 and 6) only listen when raising my voice, tried everything, what am I doing wrong?

I hate to raise my voice, but there are certain situations where no matter how or what I say, my kids won't listen. I'm not talking about hearing what I say and deciding not to do it, they simply ...
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As a teenager, how do I communicate with my mom about her yelling?

I am 17. I have been learning to drive for about a year and a half now. I must have a permit if I want to drive, unless it has been a year or unless I'm 18. After that time I can get a license, but we ...
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How to communicate effectively with my 17-year-old daughter? And how to make her appropriately wary of strangers?

My daughter (17 years old) doesn't listen to me, but when a stranger says a few kind words to her she is like "Look Dad, he/she is such a good man/woman". I have learned that she has a boyfriend. ...
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Son (22) has to keep initiating contact between son and parents after moving out

Me being 22, I moved out a year ago (about half an hour drive away) to live with my girlfriend after I proposed too her. I always (and believe I still do) had/have a good connection with my parents ...
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Why would a 15-year-old just stop talking. Like 'Selective Mutism'?

My 15-year-old daughter just stopped talking and I have no clue why. She won't talk to anybody. She has gone to her principal about the situation. Her principal has given her permission to write her ...
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How to resolve the conflict when my wife wants another baby and I don't, at all? [duplicate]

I'm 46 and my wife is 36. I met my wife when she was 28 and I was 38. I already had a 2-year-old child from a previous relationship at the time. When my wife hit 30, she was desperate for children, so ...
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When my 4 yo has to do something he doesn't want to, he completely blocks communication with moans/cries/wails. How can I get him to respond?

It's quite a recent thing. Sometimes we have done something that we know he will like and because he's in this mode of moaning/crying/wailing we can't communicate to him at all and explain what's ...
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How to tell my teenage stepdaughter to not leave her sanitary pad open in her room?

I have a 14-year-old stepdaughter and 11-month-old twins. I am on the verge of collapse. I have told her 10 times to wrap her used pad in a piece of old newspaper and to put it in polyethylene / cloth ...
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Are bribery/threats effective and are there alternatives? [closed]

Don't bribe her (chantage / faire chanter) said my sister while I was talking to my almost 3-year-old daughter. It's bad, but what are the alternatives? I read that threatening and bribing ...
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Should I use "pet names" when talking about (private) body parts with my child?

Given some recent questions regarding sexual discussions with questions, I want to take a step back and ask a related question: Should I use "pet names" when referring to a body part with my child? ...
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Selective mutism- helping a little girl feel comfortable in my esl class? [duplicate]

I am an English as a Second Language teacher in Indonesia. Currently, in my class I have a girl who is in third grade who I think (I don’t know because there is no sort of diagnosis here) SM. I want ...
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My wife wants another baby but we are already grandparents! Help! [closed]

My wife wants another child. We have 9 already between us. Our oldest is 23 and youngest just turned 2. Our oldest made us grandparents in April and just found out that she's expecting again. I am ...
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Getting grandparents to accept parents' choices

I understand that what children are supposed to eat is a bone of contention between parents and grandparents in many families. However this is not the main point of my question. I would like to ...
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Why is my 2-year-old not responding to simple commands?

My son is 25 months old. He is very active, and he plays with his brother. If he feels hungry or thirsty he just points and sometimes he brings... He still doesn't recognize his name and he never ...
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What should I do about my pre-teen son messaging older girls he's never met?

My 12 year son seems to be growing up way too soon.. He went from playing with his Legos one day to next texting girls the next. He goes back and forth. One day he is in the shower playing with his ...
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Explaining to young children that a parent needs some "me time"

How can parents explain to young children that this is not rejection, nor lack of love? It is just that parents sometimes need time off, alone, without being contacted through any means.
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Should I stop my mother in law visiting when she doesn't respect me as the father figure?

Sadly these are her words, not mine. Why is this posted in this QA site? Because I can't see how it is good for the children that she (when my wife is not around) shouts at me in front of them; cuts ...
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Is it a good approach to have a policy of apologizing for yelling at a kid?

A couple of times I encountered situation where people had a following policy If a parent yells at a kid out of frustration with no meaningful reason (e.g. the kid just got on their nerves but ...
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Child suddenly saying things like I'm not his friend

In the last few days my 3yr has suddenly started saying things like "Your not my friend Daddy" and "Your naughty" and "I'm telling on you Daddy". At the moment it's not necessarily nasty and he soon ...
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How do I help my wife be more engaged with our child in the mornings?

My 3-year-old child wakes up after about 6-8 hours of sleep which I think is normal. I get up around that time to pick up the house, study for school, and then I head out to work. When he wakes up, ...
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What's the best way to respond when parents have kids put a helmet on a kid's head in a way that doesn't help that much?

There are a couple of things that people are told in relation to bike helmets. I am concerned with the third. The first is that everyone should wear a helmet whenever riding a bicycle (not: kids have ...
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6yo wears down people by dawdling and endless discussions - how can parents help?

A 6-years-old boy is very bright, intelligent and clever, but on the other hand he's very strong-minded and often like an absent-minded professor. The problems: he does not like other people to ...
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How to help a 4-year-old who is afraid because she doesn't know yet what she will do when she's grown up?

I have a 4-year-old daughter. Yesterday, when I was changing my daughter in her PJ's to get ready for bed she started crying out of nowhere. This was very surprising because we don't get that very ...
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How should you deal with (deliberate) selective deafness?

It's a pretty point blank question. In case you don't know what selective deafness is, here's an example: Me: "Hey Timmy, help me carry the laundry?" Timmy: "..." Me: "Hey ...
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Talking to a highly defensive young person

There is a particular young person with whom I have have regular interactions that appears to take every interaction as an attack. Thus if one were say "I do not wish for you to shove your things in ...
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How can you offer other parents suggestions without making them defensive?

Because we parents spend so much time complaining to each other sharing best practices, we often find ourselves in situations where another parent is sharing an approach or technique that we have ...
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How to help a 3-year-old with vicious temper to express his emotions in a healthy way?

My three year old boy (the middle of three boys; older brother is 9, younger brother is almost 2) is smoldering with anger pretty often. He flies off the handle at little things. I've dealt with a ...
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How much of my prior drug use should I disclose to my tween daughter?

My daughter started middle school this year (she is 11) and tonight at dinner she told me that during an assembly some teachers had shared tragic stories about friends and family members who abused ...
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How and when to disclose to children a parent's suicide?

My children's father committed suicide 10 years ago, when they were aged 9, 3 and 1. At the time of his death I did not want them to know how he died, but it became such public knowledge I was forced ...
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Techniques for handling teenagers "playing dumb" about things

It is hard to phrase this question, as it is an psychologically oblique problem. My teenage son will often ask questions or make glib observations about things, he already knows the answer to, or ...
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How did you maintain good contact when your child was far away?

My 18 year old son lives in another country. He's finishing up high school and he has a lot of things that go on in his personal life. It can be really hard to stay in touch. He rarely answers email I ...
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How to handle a 10-year-old boy who has fallen in love?

My 10-year-old nephew is doing 5th standard schooling. He is normally doesn't do too much, mostly playing video games and watching movies. His education progress is also good. Yesterday, I heard ...
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How to get a great-grandparent to use a video phone

Our child's surviving great grandma doesn't get to see our son as much as she (or us) would like. I would love to be able to setup a simple to use video phone for her to "join us" during playtime or ...
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How to talk with your teenage son when he caught you having sex with your partner? [duplicate]

My husband and I got caught by my teenager son having oral sex. I am embarrassed and I don't know how to handle it. Can you give me any advise?
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What is an appropriate age to talk to you child about alcohol?

As a father and an employee to an alcohol rehab, I'm wondering when I should talk to my son (age 9) about alcohol? I've met a lot of people who've harmed themselves with the substance but, when I do ...
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Daughter saying whole sentences at home but not in kindergarten

My nearly 3 years old daughter is capable of saying whole sentences by now and using them nicely while at home with us. However the kindergarten staff claims she speaks very little and not capable of ...
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How to talk to my 4.5-year-old daughter about death? [duplicate]

My 95-year-old grandmother is about to pass away and I want to prepare my 4.5-year-old daughter who was supposed to visit her soon. Even though she lives far away, my daughter has visited her several ...
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How do you respond to a toddler who endlessly says "why?"?

My wife and I had joked about expecting endless "why?" questions from our son while we were expecting, and I thought I was prepared for it. In fact, I thought the stereotypical constant flow of "why? ...