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Helping your child deal with being bullied or dealing with your child who is exhibiting bullying behavior.

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Boy defending himself from sister, or fight back?

I've read this question, but I don't think that is the solution for my situation. My son is 6 years old, and has a 5 year old step sister. The sister is able to get under his skin very quickly - ...
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How to stop 8-year-old from instigating fights

I've been noticing this recently, and my mother-in-law just nicely mentioned it to my wife. Our oldest child, who is 8, likes to instigate fighting and yelling from her younger sisters (who are 6 and ...
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Because of bullying, my grandchild will not go to school. What can we do?

My 11yo grandchild just started high school. She went for two days and will not go back. When she was at small school she was bullied and now she's experiencing the same thing because the same girls ...
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How important is making up after a fight?

How important is making up after a fight and what are the do's and dont's? My child has recurring fights, verbal and physical, with other children in our street. Most of the children will fight ...
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6-year-old loves making her little sister cry by dialogue

We have two daughters: O. (6 years) Y. (4 years) We have the impression that O. leaves no opportunity to intentionally make Y. cry. This includes physical acts like hitting/pinching/taking things ...
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My son asks his mother not to write to teacher, should you keep his wishes?

I live in Japan and discipline is all controlled by the school teacher. My son goes to the local normal state elementary school. One boy's bad behavior is to block him from entering the classroom. We ...
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How do we help our 6 year old son with dangerous behaviors?

Our son has been making some really bad choices lately and we don't know how to help him anymore. A few weeks ago he was playing with his new multitool from scouts but was running in the yard with it ...
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Handling bullying in neigbourhood playgroup

Our street is home to a group of kids varying in age from 7 to 11 who play together in varying composition on a regular basis. The play is usually healthy and fun. They play catch, build huts, play ...
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Raising a bully proof child

My son is not nearly school-age, but my husband and I have been doing some thinking about problems modern schools face. Bullying is unfortunately one of them. How do you raise your child making sure ...
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Teen displays bullying behavior towards his siblings, and also towards my kids, how to handle?

We have a family friend stay with us. She has 4 kids. Two teenage boys (17 and 14) and two younger kids (8 yo boy and 6 yo girls). All kids except the 17 year old has been diagnosed with ADHD. The 14 ...
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Why should/not a child or teenager report an incident in school to attempt to stop the adverse behavior of another?

Say a student grabs another in an inappropriate way (i.e., lewd or malicious). Should the victim report the incident to a trusted adult? Apparently, many are against reporting lewd deviant behavior ...
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How do I deal with my son being a bully to his brother?

So, first things first; I am a step-dad. I have known the boys (ages 6 and 8 - lets call them Tim and Robert, respectively) for about 18 months now, and they do look up to me as a father figure (...
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acting instead of the teacher against bullying

I live in Israel. Here bullying is not as much on the radar as it is in the United States. For example, there don't seem to be special "bullying policies" in the schools. In fact, when I ...
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How to enable child to deal with name calling?

My 5 year old wears prescription glasses for astigmatism and they are helping him immensely and he keeps them on 90% of his waking hours. From time to time I appreciate he 'helping his eyes to see ...
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How can a long distance parent boost an eight year old's confidence (custodial partner uncooperative/negative?)

I'm a long distance father to an eight year old daughter and a four year old son, whom I see on average most weekends. My daughter has periodically lost her sense of confidence, and recently has ...
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Earning your kid's trust and getting them to confide in you and "complain" about getting bullied

How can one get their kid to trust them and confide that they are getting bullied when the kid knows the parent is dead serious, earnest, direct and will vigorously seek to resolve the matter with the ...
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How can I deal with stealing at school (by other kids)?

My 5-year-old has just started kindergarten (Australia). Today he came back home and said another bigger child stole a toy he was playing with (a beyblade). "He is such a bully, dad - he just ...
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Grandson is 7 he uses his Karate on his 3 yr old sister. Is 3 yr old too young for self-defense?

7 yr old grandson has been In karate about 4 classes now. He used what he learned on my 3 yr granddaughter.I think he needs to learn when to use what he learns. His mother lets him get away with ...
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Pacifism vs. Standing up for yourself

My girlfriend has a 7-year-old who, when angered, sometimes expresses his anger in a physical manner such as hitting. We are explaining its not okay to hit; that he needs to use his words to express ...
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My 3 and half year old boy is constantly being bullied. How worried should I be?

My 3 and half year old boy is constantly being bullied at daycare. They hit him, call him names, climb on him and harass him. I am doing everything I can to stop this, and I will continue to do so ...
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Kind of punishment appropriate [closed]

Today while at work I received a call from school.My stepson had put a chemical in another kids food. That kid was bullying my stepson really bad from day 1 of school. Fortunately the chemical wasnt ...
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Bully broke my sons bone, what next? [closed]

While at school my son has been getting bullied by a boy. They are both in 6th grade and used to be friends until recently, not the boy bullies him. Today I got a call to come get my son because he ...
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How to teach my 7-year-old daughter to not be so melodramatic when dealing with bullying and any stressful situation?

I am a single dad with a 7-year-old daughter. Her mum disappeared when she was 2. She had borderline personality disorder. My daughter has some behaviour in common with BPD such as 'black and white' ...
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How to help our 3-year-old deal with continuously missing clothes and bad behavior from another kid in the nursery?

My 3-year-old daughter has been going to nursery for a year now. We live in Denmark. Her clothes began disappearing in the day care (first a dress, then a jacket). And she was saying the name of one ...
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How to prevent my 2-year-old from being bullied by our roommate's child?

I have a 2-year-old daughter and I am currently living with a roommate who also has a 2-year-old daughter. My roommate's daughter is constantly bullying my daughter by pulling her hair, biting, ...
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How to help my 18-year-old who may be the victim of bullying?

My 18-year-old son is in high school and near graduating; like 40 days from now he will graduate. He is so smart and into business and science and gets top grades so I am thankful. He is so respectful ...
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How do you address the bullying at the daycare your child tells you about?

My wife and I put our child through daycare. There's a child with issues, who has only been there for a few months. Lately, our daughter has been telling us what that other child has been doing. We ...
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How to help our 2.5-year-old daughter deal with an abusive 5-year-old boy?

In the Kindergaden, our 2.5-year-old daughter has periodic confrontations with a 5-year-old boy, who used to hit her on the head with a toy. She is totally scared of him up to not willing to go to the ...
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How to teach an 8-year-old to navigate two groups of friends who forbid friendship with members of the other group?

My 2nd grader is coming home talking about how there are two 'teams' (her term) of girls who talk about each other, are mean to each other, and try not to allow 'their friends' to be friends with the ...
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How much should you buy for your child to keep up with their peers?

How should you go about balancing the possessions you buy for your child against peer pressure from other children (particularly at school) and parents? Many parents feel the need for their children ...
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How can I help the Bitten?

In her creche, my 2-year-old daughtergot severely bitten by three different children now with a couple of months between each incident-cluster. The first biter moved to a different creche soon after, ...
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Son bites to defend himself. What can I do?

My 3-year-old son is biting to defend himself. I received a call from the daycare today asking what they should do. My son doesn't bite at home at all, he is only biting at school. For some reason the ...
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Proper approach about teaching to not bully others

This has been in my head for a long time now. As a parent, you want your kids to have self-confidence and to stand up for themselves, because that's the general good. A shy child will have issues ...
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My child spit water in another kid's face - now what?

At a Cub Scout event, my 7-year-old slurped water from a fountain and then squirted at another kid, thinking it was funny. The other child told me about it. My son's reaction has been stoical, he ...
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1 answer
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What to do about my son constantly hurting and using demeaning words to my daughter?

I have a 6-year-old son and an 8-year-old daughter. She is constantly being pinched, pushed, shoved, kicked and her hair is pulled by him. This is amongst a consistent flow of put downs and always ...
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My 8-year-old daughter was bullied at school. What should I do and advise her to do?

My 8-year-old daughter is a soft and gentle girl. She hardly has any friends at school and most of the time plays with no one at break time. Yesterday a guy in her class hit her, punched her and ...
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How do you respond to unfriendly parent volunteers at your kid's school?

I'm starting to believe it's due to the past year's issue that we had in my child's class. A kid bullied him, but it was never caught, so the teachers and this parent volunteer (that helped out in the ...
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How do I handle my Roommates child bullying my child?

I have been living with roommates since March due to financial situations, my roommate has two children 8 and 9 and my child is 5. At first everything was great but suddenly I find myself stuck in a ...
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How to help my 6-year-old son, who is being bullied by my roomate's 20-year-old son?

I have 6-year-old twins, a boy and a girl. My son is being tormented by my roomate's 20-year-old son, with very vulgar name calling. This 20-year-old is over 300 lbs and acts out as a very ...
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How to help a bullied child (without involving parents or teachers)

A nine year old boy is often the brunt of the jokes of his "friends". The boy is cooperative, kind, and unaggressive and unable to counter the other kids teaming up to play their jokes on him. The ...
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My 3-year-old-son and his 4-year-old and 8-year-old cousins: He hits the younger and gets picked on by the older one. How to deal with that?

My 3-year-old son is hitting his 4-year-old female cousin. He is bigger than her. I am constantly on him, I have tried time outs, I always make him apologize and give her a hug, which he loves doing ...
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How to help my son to be himself?

My 8 year old son loves to play with dolls. Anything pink and sparkly lights up his heart, and he will even play dress up from time to time. He gets picked on at school for being friends with mostly ...
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Autistic child constantly mobbed by other children - what can be done?

The autistic child (Asperger Syndrome, age: 12) is constantly mobbed by other children, both in school and on the way home. It includes calling him names, mocking, showing faces, pushing, threatening, ...
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How can I help my 6 year old boy who has being bullied by one of his classmates?

My son is a very emotional kid. He falls in love/hate with absolutely everyone with ease. Recently one of his classmates started calling him "sh*t head" and he immediately started to believe that. ...
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Balance between sharing and being taken advantage of [closed]

tl;dr? see bold items... We take my kid to a library reading every week and afterwards all the kids play with toys. He doesn't get a lot of social interaction with kids his age and can be a little ...
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How to help my son to resolve the problem with school bullies?

My son is 8 and has problems with bullies in school. He is one of youngest and smallest in his class and doesn't react appropriately* when someone bullies him, and I guess that made him the target for ...
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4 year old being hit in school

For the last few days my four year old daughter has been coming home and telling me that she has been hit, and hurt, at school by a couple of boys. We don't hit in our house and she has no siblings ...
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How do you teach toddlers to defend themselves?

How do you teach kids to defend themselves, without becoming bullies? I'm talking about younger kids (1.5 to 3yo) who are not mature enough (or old enough) to take self-defense classes. My son is two ...
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How to deal with kids that bully my kids?

It was made known to me that my daughter's classmate is being racist and is bullying her at school. I've asked the principal to meet with the parent. We've met but the parent is also racist. The ...
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What makes a kid turn bully, and how to prevent him from turning into a bully?

I have heard about bullies in schools, haven't ever seen or faced them in real life though. I would like to know what makes a kid bully, and how to prevent him from becoming a bully?