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Why do children act the way they do? Use [discipline] for questions about enforcing your rules.

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What are some healthy ways to control the speech of a child when parents are absent?

In Pakistan, according to Wikipedia, there are blasphemy laws which can even result in death. In the USA, where I am, we have a constitutional right of free speech, which does extend to children (all ...
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How can I get my 6 year old son to listen at school and home?

I really need help with my son who is about to turn 6 years old. He doesn't seem to listen to me at home or at school. I have been trying everything I can but nothing seem to work. Can anyone out ...
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7 year old threw her iPad in anger and it smashed

So the rule is, during and after dinner no iPad or games. I let her play when she gets home from school until tea time if she wants. That's roughly 2 and half hours but she's rarely on it for that ...
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Son was sent home from sleepover for behavior

I need some help with turning a very disappointing event into a learning opportunity. Last night my 9-year-old son was to spend the night with my neighbor's son, and the neighbor's girlfriend's kids. ...
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How to avoid food waste while not forbidding experiments with food?

To give a bit context: We are quite relaxed with food and eating. Our daughter (3 years old) is free to decide many things about eating. Most of the time she may decide what to eat (as long as she ...
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What to do about a 4 year old abusing animals? [closed]

I am extremely distraught, so please forgive my rambling and errors. Edits are welcome. Yesterday, before I got home, my wife called to tell me that she found our son choking our kitten that we've ...
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Strong-willed child? What am I missing?

My 6, almost 7 year old is so strong-willed that it's crushing me and destroying our relationship, as I'm getting to the point that I dread being around her. She can be so fun and nice one minute but ...
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At what point does confidence become obnoxious over-confidence?

My 5 year old has just started primary school, and for the most part he's taking the change from Kindergarten very well. He was a little shocked by the fact that he had to sit and learn instead of ...
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My 13 year old son is skipping school and I'm not sure how to proceed

I am a single mother, my son's father is not in the picture. My son doesn't want to go to school and is being very difficult. He says he is going, but when I get home the school tells he was not in ...
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I have a negative parent. How do I tell her to stop being my counsellor?

First off, I'd like to start by saying I love both my parents very much and I have great respect for them and what they've done for me these last 24 years. One of my parents is very negative. She ...
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how do i discipline a stubborn and angry 13 year old daughter [closed]

How do I discipline a 13 year old daughter who is very stubborn and won't listen to her parents and keeps doing everything that we don't want her to do e.g smoking, sneeking out of the house when ...
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How do I teach my 7 year old son to share things?

My son never shares anything he eats/enjoys with us. Of course, its not that we want that food item, but its just to teach him to share things with others. I have already tried: Tit for Tat: doing ...
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How can I deal with adopted son who promised to the god he believes in to never to speak until he sees mommy again, when mommy is dead?

My 5 year old adopted son is, contrary to everyone else in his entourage, religious - a leftover from his days in a war zone. His mom died some time ago - by suicide - and since then he hasn't said a ...
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Grandparents want our three year old daughter to throw tantrums like her cousin did

When my nephew was a toddler/pre-schooler, he had major separation anxiety issues and tantrums. Specifically, whenever his grandparents or we (his aunt and uncle) visited him, he'd never let us leave ...
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What to do with a 5 soon to be 6 year old that likes getting you upset?

We have a great little boy. He was absolutely perfect until he turned 5 years old. He is almost 6 now and he is just a handful. He talks back, does not listen, refuses to admit fault and laughs and ...
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How to help my 4-year-old son, who pretends play to be a girl with long hair, develop a stronger identity?

I have a 4-year-old son, who is a high functioning autistic child. Since age 3 he began wearing his jacket over his head pretending it was his long hair. Recently, my Mom gave him a Halloween wig to ...
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How to deal with my 9 year old son who is not listening to me

I am a working woman. My son is 9 and is actually a good boy. But when I am ask him to study, to complete his school homework and do the studying that I give him, he just tells me that he will do it ...
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How can I help my 6 year old boy who has being bullied by one of his classmates?

My son is a very emotional kid. He falls in love/hate with absolutely everyone with ease. Recently one of his classmates started calling him "sh*t head" and he immediately started to believe that. ...
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Boy defending himself from sister, or fight back?

I've read this question, but I don't think that is the solution for my situation. My son is 6 years old, and has a 5 year old step sister. The sister is able to get under his skin very quickly - ...
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What to do when a child gets angry while trying to lead a group?

On a children's camp we have a group of 4 boys (around 12 years old) with no appointed leader. One of the boys is naturally trying to lead the others, but they are lazy, so it's not easy for him. The ...
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Children mimic parents, but what to do when it gets out of hand?

There's this 3.5 year old that I know, who keeps saying/yelling "Listen to me" when you try to correct him. He probably gets it from his parents, who I've seen saying the same thing when they're ...
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Unsportsmanlike behaviour from my 7 year old son

My son is 7 and loves sport - and is good at it. However he often behaves badly e.g. lying on the ground when tackled in football, going in the huff and standing at the sidelines, rough-riding ...
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How do I manage my toddler's fear to use the potty?

My LO is almost 15 months. She just started walking and has been really good at climbing on chairs for a while so I figured we'd buy a potty, no pressure, just to get her used to the idea. I sat her ...
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What is the most gentle way to break an association in a 15 months old?

We are doing a daycare transition currently. My LO is 15 months old next week. I spent all AM and lunch there with her yesterday and today. It's a family based homecare and I've only heard very ...
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Forcing my sister/child to do any activities outside from school. How to approach a child differently in order to get their interest?

My mom and I are having a lot of struggle with my little sister. She is 12 years old and all of her life we have had a lot of trouble to try and get her into any activity at all. Currently she is in ...
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How do I get my 3 year old to stop pooping in his pants?

My son is 3 years and 9 months old. He has an amazing personality. In short, he takes the world by his terms. He has been working on potty training for sometime now and I understand there will be ...
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What is the proper way to praise the hardwork and patience of a child when she deserves it?

The kid is 4 years old. Since I have been on this site before she was born, I applied all the proper ways of talking and behaving with the child which are often advised here. Now, the result is ...
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Does my toddler have night terrors or anything else? [duplicate]

My daughter is 2 years and 7 months old. Sometimes at night, she starts crying badly during sleep and wakes up, but does not stop crying. She calls me mama mama and when I hold her she never stops ...
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My 3-year-old daughter, who lives with my ex-wife, put me in time out in a dark room. Shall I be worried that she imitated what's being done to her?

Long story short married for 3 years, daughter is currently 3, divorced for 1 year. This year, for Father's day, my ex-wife let me spend the whole day with my daughter, which I was over the moon ...
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How do I teach patience to my 7 year old son?

I want to teach patience to my son. How do I teach him? He always wants things done NOW. If I tell him that we will go to a restaurant at night, as soon as I am back from office in the evening, he ...
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What's the problem with potty humor?

I have two sons, ages six and eight. They're both at an age where potty humor (jokes about bodily functions, to put it politely) are the funniest thing in the world. I know that here in North America ...
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Why do I have negative feelings about my mother?

I am a 16 year old boy. My parents are divorced, my father didn't treat my mother well; he beat her and he thought she was cheating on him when she in fact never did. My mother tried to cope with him ...
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Toddler won't settle down with dad

Our child is 1.5 years old. He has been sleeping next to his mum in a crib since birth and has grown up to be very attached to her, but as my wife has chronic diseases she gets too exhausted because ...
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dilemma with my four year old only daughter re: her dad [closed]

When my daughter spends time with her dad she becomes a horrible brat on her return. I wonder if it does more harm than good for her to be with him. He is very loving towards her, but not mature at ...
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How do I tell my best friend that he is mentally abusing his small child [closed]

I have a friend who is a wonderful father.He has 2 small children; a boy (4) and a girl (16 months). He tries really hard with his children and is the primary caregiver for his children. He also ...
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Do parents get punishment too?

Just because we are parents does not mean we are infallible. We are definitely capable of bad behavior and sometimes our children see or are affected by it. If we do something wrong that we would ...
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How do you teach kids appreciation and respect for other cultures? [closed]

Recently, I was walking with a friend from an ESL group I'm in. He speaks Spanish as a first language and I speak English first. We're in a group with other Spanish and English speakers so we can try ...
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5yr old Addicted to Mobile Devices - Need Advice!

So it started when he was 2yrs old, we gave him his first bad habit.. eating while watching youtube videos. It worked, he ate well..like a zombie. (Parent Fail #1). Now at 5, he LOVES playing a ...
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5yr old son becomes much more disobedient in public vs. in private

I'm a single mom and lost my partner when my son was 6 months old. My son is going to be 5 in June and most of the time when we are alone he is a very well behaved boy. The moment we are in a crowd ...
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7-month-old boy does not want to drink

Our baby is 7 months old, we never had any major problems in feeding him but in latest month, he is refusing almost to drink any milk or water. Currently he is drinking probably around just 20-30 ml a ...
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12 year old boy is totally out of control

My seventh grader screamed "Fuck you" at me last night. I am at the end of my rope. His behavior is so bad I feel like I need to send him away to a boarding school or something because he is causing ...
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Is my stepson being exposed to something inappropriate? [duplicate]

My step son is 5 years old and spends most of his time with his biological mom. We don't agree with a lot of the things she does but I have never though there was anything not good going on. However, ...
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How do I keep my step-son in line when the Mother turns around and rewards him for bad behaviour after I had just got done telling him “no”?

It's a constant struggle keeping my 5 year old step-son in line. I want him to have manners and be respectful. I fear that once he starts school he will be in trouble all the time. I fear that my 2 ...
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My son is refusing to pee [closed]

My son turned 4 in December and is still in pull ups. This is because they are easier to change than an actual diaper. I was going through 2-3 packs of pull ups in a week, then about a week ago over ...
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6 year old is suddenly (shockingly) rude

I am not a parent yet, however, this is about "How I should behave with a 6-year-old who is suddenly very rude to me" The story: I am from India and I am Dark, (you can check out my profile) and ...
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Older sibling demands more attention

So our little guy turned 2 today. We took him and his 4.5 year old brother out to breakfast and the zoo. After nap we opened some presents and played for a bit. After dinner we did singing and cake. ...
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Are fidgets an effective tool for helping ADHD children focus?

Fidgets are small toys or gadgets that can be twiddled, poked, and/or clicked. The idea was explained to me as giving fingers something to do that doesn't take much brain power, allowing an ADHD child ...
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Strong-willed, 14 year old. Caught with e-cigarette paraphernalia and a condom

My 14yr old son, youngest of 4 (other 3 are triplets), has always been a very strong-willed kid. Over the years we have been able to channel that will thru his love of soccer. He plays a very ...
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6yo son doesn't want to return to mother after scheduled contact

Me and my wife have separated and are going through a divorce, we have two boys, 6 and 2, currently I only get to see the eldest. He stays with me from Friday evening until Sunday evening. I usually ...
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Discipline and how to properly address a 7yr old with behavior/stubbornness & crying for everything

I have had this issue with my girlfriend's daughter, mind you I have been with her for approx 3 years and I seem to have a discussion on how her daughter does not obey or respect what she is told or ...