Questions tagged [behavior]
Why do children act the way they do? Use [discipline] for questions about enforcing your rules.
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Son was sent home from sleepover for behavior
I need some help with turning a very disappointing event into a learning opportunity. Last night my 9-year-old son was to spend the night with my neighbor's son, and the neighbor's girlfriend's kids. ...
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How can I prevent my 8-year-old from spending time with his bad friend?
Backstory: My 8 yr old son is a bright, gentle, etc, kid who attends public school. My wife and I have no TV, we disallow violent games (simulated killing is not allowed), we don't have video games, ...
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Why don't children know why they do things?
I have a 7 year old son. He routinely disobeys instructions, I am not some strict task master that is always asking him to do stuff but I need him to listen to the things I ask him for his benefit as ...
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Grandparents want our three year old daughter to throw tantrums like her cousin did
When my nephew was a toddler/pre-schooler, he had major separation anxiety issues and tantrums. Specifically, whenever his grandparents or we (his aunt and uncle) visited him, he'd never let us leave ...
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Is bribing children with cash incentives a good idea?
I pay my 5.5-year-old $1 if she sleeps in her own bed and take $1 in rent when she sleeps in our bed.
I've also taken to offering her $1 to pick up her 2.5-year-old brother's Lego messes.
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How to answer my 5 year old why I can tell her what she has to do, and why she can't tell me what to do
In the morning there are lots of things to be done before heading off to preschool. I'm acting like a policeman every morning to get those things done and to push my child to go out. Every day I have ...
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My 4-year-old refers to himself as me
Literally. Sometimes he will ascribe himself properties I have, and make me the child--he'll say "I'm a grown-up", "You can't sit in the front seat [in our car], it's not safe, I have to sit in the ...
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12 year old boy is totally out of control
My seventh grader screamed "Fuck you" at me last night. I am at the end of my rope. His behavior is so bad I feel like I need to send him away to a boarding school or something because he is causing ...
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Should I be restrictive in my son's interest in electricity?
My 12-year old son has had an interest in electricity for several years now. However, lately his experiments have been becoming more and more extreme. For example, he routinely looks at videos online ...
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Should I really be insisting that my daughter finish eating her meal?
Like many young children, my 4.5 year old daughter will often stop eating her supper (6 PMish - she has breakfast and lunch at daycare) and say she's not hungry. My instinctive initial response is to ...
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Do parents get punishment too?
Just because we are parents does not mean we are infallible. We are definitely capable of bad behavior and sometimes our children see or are affected by it. If we do something wrong that we would ...
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How should I inform parents if their children are bothering me?
Today, on the bus, I was seated a row behind a mother and her young daughter (I guess about 5-6 years old), and the child just couldn't stay quiet: she was singing constantly, saying "byebye, please ...
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Why does my daughter smile and start to laugh at me when I am noticeably really angry at her?
My daughter is 11 years old and has been diagnosed with high functioning austism along with sensory processing disorder. I am a single father and have raised her alone since she was two years old. We ...
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My son is 5 years old and sexually active
I am a 20 year old female student and I have a 5 year old son who is really sexually active. For instance, he kisses girls by force, he forces them to lick his penis, he "fingers" them, he speaks ...
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How to get my younger sister to listen?
Not a parent but a big sister to an 8yo, I'm about ten years her senior.
Mom has left for a month (caring for her parents) and with dad working it's up to me to make sure my sister is doing ok. Every ...
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Should I let my child play with gun toys?
I've noticed a great many parents do everything within their power to prevent their children playing with toy guns and weapons. As a 30-something, I grew up with toy swords, bows and guns, action men (...
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Is it possible to spoil a child, but still teach them not to behave spoiled?
My 9-year-old stepson has terrible tantrums. I was abused as a child and used to act out as a result. Teachers and other adults were very hostile to me and failed to recognize my cries for help. So ...
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3 year-old boy wants constant attention, hits and deliberately poops in underpants when he doesn't get it
I have a nearly 3-year-old boy whose energy has become near-limitless, coupled with new neediness, aggression, and defiance. He wants to run around and be played with for the entire day. He is unable ...
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How can we discipline a strong-willed, misbehaving 5 year-old?
My 5 year old son receives and fears punishment but repeatedly exhibits the same unacceptable behaviors. He's always been strong-willed, and is usually the kind to view a statement like "Don't do ...
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How to handle my little brother's addiction to videogames?
Here is a bit of context to start with:
I live 150 km away from my little brother. My father got remarried to another woman, with whom he had my little brother (let's call him 'Marc'). Since we grew ...
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Why do I have negative feelings about my mother?
I am a 16 year old boy. My parents are divorced, my father didn't treat my mother well; he beat her and he thought she was cheating on him when she in fact never did. My mother tried to cope with him ...
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How can 7-year old defend himself when toddler is hitting?
I am a mother to a 7 year old boy and I have a friend who has a 2 years toddler. Both my friend and I try our best to use the Conscious and Peaceful Parenting Approach.
Her little daughter is lovely ...
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Why is trying to talk children out of how they feel a bad idea?
The article 7 Parenting Essentials says,
Accept your children’s feelings.
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Instead, comfort your children and let them know you love them, rather than try to talk them out of how they ...
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Do most 2-3-year-old toddlers deliberately disobey?
We have two daughters, 2 and 3 years old, 13 months apart.
Our oldest has over the past several months taken to the "I'd rather do precisely the opposite of what you just asked me to do" mindset. ...
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My 2-year-old son supervises me after asking me to do something for him, does this suggest lack of trust?
Since his birth I've done my best to make my son trust me completely as I see it the only way for him to let me make decisions on his behalf and tell him what's right and wrong. However he supervises ...
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What are some suggestions for punishing a child? [closed]
My daughters are clearly pushing the boundaries lately. They are trying to find out what is possible. I am really looking into ways to setting the boundaries. A friend recently suggested creating a ...
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Why does my baby grind her face into my shoulder?
During episodes of fussiness, my 6-week-old daughter has started grinding her face into my chest or shoulder. She shakes vigorously from side to side like she's trying to burrow out the other side. ...
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Is it normal that my 2.5-year-old son still likes breastfeeding?
I have been breastfeeding my son since he was born up to now at 2 years old. I noticed that he really enjoys being fed and playing with my nipple. When he gets upset and I hold him, he will put his ...
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How to instill scepticism towards authority, albeit in a healthy way?
I have a nine year old son. I personally believe kids should have a healthy scepticism towards authority, and should question stuff before blindly acknowledging and obeying it. However, I'm not sure ...
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How do you handle unsupervised, poorly behaved children in public play areas?
This is closely related to this question. However, that primarily deals with interactions at relatively controlled, private functions. This question is more focused on the feeding-frenzy style chaos ...
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How do you handle poor behavior by other people's children?
I believe that interacting with a variety of other children at social functions is an important part of childhood development. However, there seem to be a lot of children who are... how shall I ...
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6YO over-reacts to minor problems
Most of the time my 6YO daughter is quite happy and fully of energy. However when minor problems occur she over-reacts. i.e. falls down on the floor with her head in her hands and wails and cries. She'...
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How do you handle grandparents who spoil your children?
Our parents suddenly don't apply their rules in our upbringing to our children. On the contrary.
How should we deal with this? Do we just let it be, or should we discuss the matter. I understand ...
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How to deal with my 12 year old son being allegedly caught cheating at school
My son, 12, is a good student who always gets A's. He takes his schoolwork very seriously and does his homework on time.
Today I received a shocking call from his teacher that he was caught cheating....
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How do you feed a picky eater?
Dinner with my 5-year-old is an ordeal. I do not want to cook separate meals. How do I stop the fighting at dinner and get them to eat?
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How to deal with a teenager who wants his parents to buy him everything his friends have?
How do I teach my son the value of money and to differentiate between a need and a want?
The problem I am facing is that he is 19 years old, not 5 years old. He is my youngest son and to be honest I ...
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What to do when my 3-year-old holds poop in and won't go in diaper or on potty?
My son is almost 3 (33 months) and for the past few months, he has been holding his poop in, to the point that he won't go for many days a time. When this started, the doctor advised us to give him ...
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In Rural India; 14 yo daughter broke her friendship due to her feelings on homosexuality. What to do?
How do I help my daughter understand that being lesbian or gay is normal and as acceptable as being straight?
I have a 14-year-old step-daughter who has come here 20 days back to visit us. We live in ...
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How to tell my 4-year-old son not to get hyper with his uncle or anyone except parents?
My brother in law is a cocky, arrogant person. The way I see it, my son plays with him and they laugh and play really loud, but suddenly he has change of mood like flicking a switch. As 4-year-olds do ...
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Should endless "but what if" questions be encouraged or discouraged?
Should this behavior from a child be encouraged or discouraged:
They ask you a question, you answer it, but then they ask
but what if [insert clause here]?
You answer again, but they ask
but what ...
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To what extent should an (almost) two year old be able to lie still on command?
My daughter will be two years old next week. Today she went for a check up with her cardiologist to get an ECG. She refused to lie still during the procedure, getting upset and crying, and was ...
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How to get my 4yo daughter's fixation on my belly button under control?
I don't know where to begin with this question. It's awkward and to be honest, it makes me feel rather uncomfortable. Simply put, I'm led to believe that my four year old daughter is obsessed with my ...
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Why are parents so concerned about profanity around their children?
I've spent some time around parents of children in the 2months to 6 years range. And both were quite diligent about having me watch what I said, in particular around profanity.
Why the concern?
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Why my kids don't get excited to see me
We have been living with my wife brother for 3 years now, My kids are very excited whenever their uncle comes from door and not me. This sort of hurt, not sure why but what my kids (almost 7 and 2) ...
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My 5 year- old daughter is constantly defiant!
My 5-year old daughter is very defiant.
It started getting bad about 6 months ago. She doesn't do what she is told, and any time she hears the word "no" she throws terrible, dramatic fits, screaming ...
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Why do kids pick up on violence in cartoons/movies?
Why is it that children seem to pick up and mimic even the tiniest examples violence on TV?
It's like a golden beacon of what not to do and they seem to be just magnetized towards it.
Let me try to ...
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6 year old is suddenly (shockingly) rude
I am not a parent yet, however, this is about "How I should behave with a 6-year-old who is suddenly very rude to me"
The story: I am from India and I am Dark, (you can check out my profile) and ...
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Get around peer's mind games gracefully
What shall my 2.5-year-old son do in the situation when his peer plays naughty games with him?
My son meets regularly with a toddler girl (3yo); his friend, our neighbor and a follow-mate in ...
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Is this normal that my 5 years old kid keep thinking about the bad things
We have a 5 years old girl. 2 years ago we have immigrated to a European county. She is going to school here and she learned the new language excitingly fast. We have another 3 months old girl as well....
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How do you stop a child from talking back without discouraging them from asserting themselves?
Our 3.5 yo is starting to talk back to us in the typical futile yes/no/yes/no pattern of opposites. The other day it was hooking his straps on his car seat; I asked him to put his arms in (like we ...
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