Questions tagged [bedtime]

Getting kids ready for bed, and making them stay there. See the "sleep" tag for questions on issues while they're asleep.

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What can I as a teenager do about my insanely strict parents?

Before I start this, I just want to let everyone know that even though my parents can be completely clueless about parenting at times, I still love them very much, so don't go commenting that I'm "...
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Why does my infant wake crying the instant we put him in his bed?

This is probably a classic but here goes. Some time between midnight and three my 9 month old will wake crying. Often he is hungry or has gas and can be fairly easily consoled and falls asleep in our ...
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What are some do's and dont's for an effective bedtime ritual?

I think most parents agree that it's helpful to follow some fixed ritual when putting a child to bed. What elements in such rituals are particularly useful, and what should be avoided? There are ...
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Bedtime for 12-13 year old girl

My 12-13 daughter currently goes to bed at 9:00 PM but lately she's been asking to go to bed at a later time, like 9:30 or 10:00 PM. I know she'll be starting high school soon and might need a later ...
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Is it too late to read for my baby?

We have created a bad habit of our baby watching TV at a very young age. He is now turning 1 this month and he starts to babble on some words. I am a first time mother and I have been anxious about ...
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Should 18+ kids still have a tight schema for bed and PC-usage?

I'm not a parent, or in any parenting position. I am however kind of worried because of some rules in the house. I've been 18 for a few months now. And I still have quite a tight schema for bed and PC-...
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Is putting a 9-year-old to bed early abusive?

My 9-year-old goes to bed between 6:00 - 7:00 pm, though she doesn't go to sleep for an hour or so later. Her teacher was "very concerned" about us putting her to bed so early and commented that it "...
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How to calm a toddler before bedtime?

I don't know about older children, but toddlers often get more agitated as they get more tired and by the time they are in bed it can take a while before they actually sleep. I often read that taking ...
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What age do you stop reading bedtime stories?

I don't mind reading Cat in the Hat, but my 1st Grader still wants books to be read as part of the night time ritual, even though she reads them fine herself. But Ready Freddy is no fun to read out ...
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How do I help a child overcome fear of ghosts?

About a month ago we got two foster children, ages 9 and 7. The younger one often has nightmares, and in the daytime has many fears. She won't take a bath by herself and she is afraid of mirrors. We ...
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Should I have the same bedtime as my sister?

I'm a 13 year old girl and share a room with my 9 year old sister. Our mom always sends us to bed at 8:30pm, although I'm 4 year older. My sister is nagging that she can't sleep alone. 8:30 pm is too ...
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How can we get our son to stop sleeping in our bed?

My son is 2 years old and he sleeps with us in our bed. We have tried every possible way of getting him to leave our bed at night, and I'm getting nervous about him growing out of it. My wife and I no ...
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How can I get my 4.5-year-old to stay in bed at bedtime?

Lately my 4.5-year-old son has started getting back up after bed time. Frequently we will go through the entire bedtime ritual, including a bath, pajamas, brushing teeth, books, and then being tucked ...
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Baby always rolling over and ending up sleeping on his stomach, is it dangerous?

Our 3 months old baby is very keen on rolling over and being on his stomach. Most of the time he automatically rolls over in a few minutes after we put him on his back, including during bed time. Is ...
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How should I wake up my 4-year-old in the morning?

My 4-year-old is like I am: she hates to wake up. I completely empathize with her, and I have horrible memories of screaming battles with my parents waking me up for school. How should I go about ...
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Our 4 year old won't fall asleep until 11pm

Our 4 year old doesn't like to sleep. I know that sounds like what every kid says, but let me clarify. She doesn't cry at bedtime, she just won't sleep. We start to get her ready for bed around 8pm. ...
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Toddler does not want to fall asleep

My 2½ year old son does not want to sleep, regardless how tired he is. He will do anything and everything he can think of, just to avoid falling asleep. It usually takes 1-1½ hours (sometimes even ...
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When should I transition a 2 year old toddler from the cot to a bed?

My son turned 2 today, and we have been considering for a long time to transition him to a bed. Specially since he already sleeps in a bed at the daycare. I am afraid that he will not want to stay in ...
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How do I stop yawning so much when I'm reading bedtime stories to my kids?

When I read books to my sons, I get an overwhelming urge to yawn. I'm generally not tired around the time the boys are going to bed, and I don't think I'm bored while I'm doing the reading. I'm ...
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Is it okay to let a baby cry at bedtime?

My 4-month-old has a set bedtime routine and will generally go happily to sleep - but occasionally (for no particular reason) he'll work himself up into a fit and cry for long periods of time, ...
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When upgrading our toddler from a cot to a bed, how do we keep him in his bed?

We want to convert our son's cot into a bed this weekend (starting Friday evening). We think it's time to transition because he often tries to climb out (but fails yet), and during daytime playing he ...
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How do you stop a toddler from trying to get into bed with her parents in the middle of the night?

For a few weeks now my 2 year old daughter has woken up in the middle of the night crying for mom or dad. This started out when we took off her diaper and she would cry to go to the potty. She picked ...
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How can we explain our "cry it out" strategy to people who oppose it?

My wife and I have had success with a form of the "cry it out" strategy with our three children. I know it's not for everyone, but our household has gotten into some healthy sleep patterns without ...
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How to deal with a 3-year-old very high energy child as a single mom?

I have a 3-year-old who just loves to push my buttons. I'm a single mom who has him every night, but while I work he goes to his father. His dad says he tried to follow the same discipline and naps ...
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How can we end nighttime 'comfort' nursing?

My wife and I are just finishing up a 4 week trip home to visit the grandparents (we live in Australia, they in North America). We have introduced the unfortunate habit in our 10 month old daughter ...
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Why do babies fight sleep and how to calm them down?

My nice of 9 months is crying to fight sleep. Why does she do that? How can one calm her down? It's absolutely silly to watch :). She sits there and everything is all right. As soon as she falls ...
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My 8 year old son won't fall asleep

We put him to bed at 9pm and he stays up til 1am or later. When I go to check on him he is always playing with his hands and sometimes talking. I ask him why he is awake and not trying to sleep and he ...
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If you can't spoil a newborn, when "can" you spoil a baby?

So I heard you cannot spoil a newborn. While I don't take it 100% at face value I do believe attending her needs is more important than worrying about spoiling her. Now the question is, when can a ...
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Help! My 7 year old won't go to bed early, or get up early

This is a struggle every night, and every morning. We start around 7:30-8:00 PM..."shower time" and the struggle starts. She's got school the next morning and I'm trying to get her showered, and ...
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7 year old demands to go to sleep at 5:00 pm

My 7 year old son (and his brother, 5 sometimes) in winter generally demands to go to bed as soon as the sun goes down. We really wish he would stay up to 6:30-7:00 or so because when he goes to bed ...
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Bedtime vs amount of sleep?

I am a single dad who has custody of my 11 year old daughter during the school year. During the summer, however, she stays with her mother in another town. I have become concerned about the lack of ...
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How to motivate yourself to read stories to a kid whom you know cannot understand and respond accordingly?

From: How to read an English story book to the kid when we don't talk in English at home? If you start immediately, it won't matter what language you're speaking; either way it will be babble :)...
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What light colors will help calming down before bedtime?

I just bought a color led strip (like similar to this one) and installed it so that the ceiling can be lit with any color. We're making experiments on which color would have better effects on calming ...
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Preparing quality bedtime stories

When I was a child I enjoyed my mom's bedtime stories so much, and even now I can still remember some of them. Now it's my turn to pass such a wonderful experience down to my daughter. However I am ...
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Toddler and Reading

Ok, I'm struggling to read to the little'un. She loves books, in that throughout the day she will go and fetch books, and sit with them and turn the pages. The book might be upside down, but hey. Big ...
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Why does my toddler cry when he's put to bed?

My son is nearly two years old. We have had a solid bedtime routine forever, and we make sure to wind him down before bedtime. Lately though, he doesn't want to go to sleep. He follows the bedtime ...
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Is there a "better" time for parental absence?

I'm wondering if there is any research about if there are better, or at least "not so bad" times of a child's development for a father to less available. (Not completely absent, but time would be ...
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How can we get our toddler to accept bedtime?

Our 2 year old daughter gets really upset whenever sleep/bed is mentioned. She usually wakes up about 7-8am, has an afternoon nap around 1-2pm (duration between 1-2 hours), and goes to sleep at ...
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Is a Set Bedtime Appropriate for Teens?

For teens, in this case a rising Junior in High School, is it appropriate to set a bedtime for him of 10PM? How does this compare with the majority of teens?
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Toddler Plays in Bed and Won't go to Sleep

I have a 2.5 year old daughter. She sleeps great once she's asleep. We do the nightly routine and put her to bed. She gets into bed after story time and cuddles her stuffed animals and closes her eyes....
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How to read one book to two children on different levels at the same time

We have 3 children so they outnumber us. Part of our bedtime routine involves book time. Once upon a time, this meant Mr. Dad reads to one kid and Mrs. Mom reads to the other. That's not really an ...
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Why is my toddler having trouble sleeping?

My 3-year-old son and has lately been having problems sleeping. I've heard kids his age are supposed to sleep around 10-12 hours a day, although I'm no sure. He used to sleep in the afternoons but now ...
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Preparing toddlers to sleep in a hotel room

My two toddlers love to play together. At bedtime, when we have them together for the quiet part of bedtime (pajamas, story, lullabies), they wind up bouncing off the walls. And the bed, each other, ...
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why does my toddler's sleep schedule shift week by week?

My daughter is 15 months old, and for a good while now she will sleep through the night. I wake up with her in the morning and can't help but notice that she'll sleep until 7am for 3 days in a row, ...
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How can I handle my toddler's bedtime-avoidance tricks?

My son is 2½ years old and he thinks he's figured out a smart trick to avoid having to sleep. Our responses sometimes work, and sometimes they don't. Even when they work, it's time-consuming and ...
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How do I prevent my child from becoming frightened by "scary" stories?

I have a ten year old child who gets spooked to tears to sleep in his room alone because another child at school told him a nonsense story about Slender Man. The child added a few bits to the myth, ...
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6-year-old bed wetting

It seems that most questions on this site about bed wetting involve toddlers. My 6-year-old daughter (almost 7) still wets the bed almost every night. After she was potty trained (a long, difficult ...
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What's the best way to deal with bedwetting?

Our toddler is bedwetting a lot, and we are unsure how to deal with things. We haven't told her off for it, but we're not sure what we should be doing. Would telling her off just make things worse? ...
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How important is it to brush infant's teeth before vs. after the goodnight milk bottle?

My little guy gets a bottle as the last thing before we put him to bed, it greatly helps him to wind down and relax for sleep. As the teeth start coming, we realize it's important to brush his teeth, ...
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A natural vs more rigid bedtime for a three year old

Some background, my wife and I largely follow best practices when it comes to our child's bedtime routine. We start at the same time, go through the same calming routine, and for the most part haven't ...
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