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Neighbor's child is trying to spend all her time with us

Background My wife and I recently moved into a town-house apartment in a large complex. We have a Husky pup that my wife walks twice a day (she's a stay-at-home) and the dog attracts lots of ...
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Toddler has a strong preference for one parent

Our almost 2 year old toddler has developed a strong preference for me. In mild doses, this was acceptable but it is getting pretty out of hand. She cries when my husband, her father, tries to hug her,...
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Co-Parenting with a Toxic Ex: How to Handle Poisoned Comments from Toddler?

I left my verbally abusive ex-wife about 18 months, in part because I could see how much of an effect all the yelling had on my now 5-year old daughter and I wanted both my daughter and my now 3.5 ...
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How to handle the situation with a 1-year-old preferring dad over mom with her suffering emotionally?

I am the proud father of a 1-year-old boy. My wife and I love him to pieces! A few months after his birth I suffered through a terrible bout of anxiety attacks. Turns out it was just my way of ...
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What to do about our 2-year-old attaching to another parent?

Our 2-year-old child just started preschool and is attaching to other kids' parents. Stuff like: Wants to hold the other parent's hand, but not ours; gives the other parent a hug at pick-up from ...
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Somewhat unemotional, destructive pre-schooler; shows no strong attachment to things. How can we help him?

My 5 year old pre-schooler exhibits some behaviors that have my wife & I a little concerned, but we're unsure whether there's a real problem or not. I'll try to summarize some of his behaviors and/...
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4 year old daughter starved for Dad's attention

My 4 year old daugther always wants my attention, and I try my best to give it to her. Either by telling stories, playing with stuffed animals, reading books, or anything else she likes to do. I have ...
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How widespread is attachment parenting?

Ever since bumping on Dr. Sears' "Baby Book" I've become interested in attachement parenting and found a lot of resources on the internet. But I'm wondering how widespread this kind of parenting ...
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At what age do children notice the absence of a parent?

This past weekend, my wife went on a retreat while I stayed home with our 1-year-old twins. Since they were sleeping when she left, there was no separation anxiety. The next morning, I changed them ...
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Custodial arrangements in co-parenting: frequency of transfers from one parent to the other

I'm in a co-parenting situation and I have the feeling our 3.5-year-old son is suffering emotionally from transferring homes too often. He spends one night with mom, then the following night with dad,...
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Strong Grandmother Attachment

I have a 2-year-old granddaughter who is so attached to me she will resist her mother, sometimes very strongly. My concern is my daughter's feelings. She already feels guilty enough for working. I ...
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Is it unusual to have protective feelings over one's child?

I'm the mother of a 9-month-old. I feel too protective of my baby. I mean I can't leave him for a minute on its own, I feel that I have to constantly watch over my precious child. Is it normal for a ...
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What's the father's role in forming attachment?

I've read some material about the mother's role in forming good attachment in children under the age of one year. My question is - do you know about the role of fathers in forming attachment? Let's ...
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How to remove a 3-year-old's "over" attachment to his mother?

We have a 3-year-old son. During the last few months we have observed him being strongly attached to his mom. Wherever he goes, he needs his mom. He cries like crazy at any time he notices she is ...
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Questions about "Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids"

I just heard about Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids by Dr. Laura Markham (on this site) and I started looking into it. I really like some of the things I've read about this approach to parenting, but I ...
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How to get my 1-year-old child to like me?

My 1-year-old son likes his mom a lot. He never wants to leave her side and this is kind of a problem for her and sort of for me. She has to do domestic work but he doesn't like to stay with me. It's ...
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How can I ensure that my daughter is not excessively attached to me?

I have been a single father to my two children- a sixteen year old girl and a fourteen year old boy- ever since my wife separated from me eight years ago and married another man. I have had extremely ...
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What is the most gentle way to break an association in a 15 months old?

We are doing a daycare transition currently. My LO is 15 months old next week. I spent all AM and lunch there with her yesterday and today. It's a family based homecare and I've only heard very ...
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Research on postpartum depression, child behavior and effective treatment?

My daughter experienced severe postpartum depression after her first birth. She took part in a PPD program and with treatment, she improved. Her son, now 9, has a history is extremely aggressive and ...
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What can I do to bond with my premature baby?

All my children were born premature, at 32, 33 and 34 weeks. As such they were all separated from me, and admitted to the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit, in humidicribs and could not be held for very ...
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What to do about my extremely possessive 3-year-old who doesn't mingle with other kids?

I'm the father of a 3-year-old boy. He is extremely possessive about his things and refuses to share with other kids. But he cries for things which other kids have. He also doesn't mingle with other ...
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Improving a parent preference?

My wife and I arrived at my in-laws today at the end of a 3 day couple's retreat away from the kids (3yr8m boy and 1yr10m boy). We were both very excited to see the kids again and wondered if they ...
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Effects of multiple new relationships (and the single parent) upon children

Background. My husband died 10 years ago. My children were aged 9, 3 and 1 at the time. I was always (and still am) probably too extreme in my stance on relationships with men, since my husband's ...
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How can I, as a father, help develop my 5-year-old daughter's self-esteem?

I was was distant from her when she was a baby till 1.5 years old because of struggling through my own problems, and eventually separated from her mother for a year. And even though I have gotten ...
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How to go about weaning a child from its "Lovey"

I saw this question posted in answer to one of the questions I posted, and suggested the poster pose it as her own question. Since she has not done that and I have been curious about what the answers ...
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18 month keeps her eyes closed when she meets new people

My daughter is very attached to my wife. She's good with me (dad) and was okay with her grandparents. But lately she cries when she meets new people and keeps her eyes closed for hours. She either ...
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Father now, earlier nursery versus grandparents now, later nursery?

Our son is 14 months old. Both the mother and I have in the last month entered full time education (I was in full time employment, she was on maternity leave). We are lucky to have my wife's parents ...
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Goddaughters can't be anywhere without me

I live in a different state as my goddaughters, but we do in person visits semi-frequently and weekly video chats. The girls, 4 & nearly 6, seem to really value their time with me, which I'm glad ...
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What is the best time for a mom to go back to work after giving birth from the psychological and healthy attachment point of view?

Given money is not a matter of concern, and the mother cares more about the health and future of her child rather than her career development/future, when is a good time for a mother to go back to ...
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How to help my 3.5-year-old daughter who's suddenly much more attached to me and cries for everything?

My 3.5-year-old daughter has suddenly become more attached to me. She also is crying for everything. Recently, she has gone on a trip with her grandmother 1.5 months back and she used to cry there and ...
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