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During and after a separation - explaining to children who their “family” is

My wife and I are in a kind of quasi-separation that is likely to lead to divorce. She has been and is emotionally abusive (the silent treatment, projection and gaslighting being what she does most), ...
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Daughter's reluctance to come to my place during a quasi-separation - impact on social life

My wife and I are in a kind of quasi-separation situation. My wife is emotionally abusive, resorting to the silent treatment, gaslighting and projection regularly. She moved to a different city with ...
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My daughter tells me her teacher slapped her. How should I proceed?

I have a 4-year-old daughter. She goes to a small, private preschool. It is one class, all my daughter's age. There is no director; it consists of four women, who are partners, who take turns ...
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Ideas for getting my children to see my house more positively - in a quasi separation

I am in an unusual situation. I have two children, a daughter aged nine and a son aged four. I am in a long distance marriage with my wife and children in a city about six hours away, where I go ...
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How can a long distance parent boost an eight year old's confidence (custodial partner uncooperative/negative?)

I'm a long distance father to an eight year old daughter and a four year old son, whom I see on average most weekends. My daughter has periodically lost her sense of confidence, and recently has ...
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Why is my eight year old daughter trying to hurt my feelings - and how should I respond?

I am the father of two children - an eight year old daughter and a four year old son. I have been very close to them, in that they both play,share and trust me. Both also have special activities ...
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Is this a situation in which I should push for intervention or should I let it go?

Background I am a mid-older teen living at home and preparing to go to college in about a year. I generally keep to myself and only interact with my parents on the most essential topics so I may be ...
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helping a child deal with a parent who lies

I emphasise that this is a prospective question - I am asking about how to prepare for a situation that has not fully arisen yet. My wife is emotionally abusive, and while we are currently in a ...
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Explaining to children about one parent's silent treatment of the other

My wife is an emotionally abusive partner (a few details in this question). Our marriage is likely to end in the next few months, but though I have moved out we have both said that we will work on ...
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What to do when neighbor calls the cops claiming abuse? [closed]

My child recently started school at the age of 3 and has had a rough transition. She has started acting out and throwing a lot of tantrums. The other day as we were getting out of our car at home she ...
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Ideas for a poster helping kids deal with an emotionally abusive environment

My wife engages in a lot of emotionally abusive behaviour, including yelling, calling names, and the more dangerous stuff like the passive aggressive silent treatment, gaslighting, projection of her ...
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Am I really just taking advantage or is my mom abusive?

I am a 34-year-old single mother of 4. My children are 14 years old, 13 years old, 5 years old, and 9 months old. Just to give a little background, in March of 2016 my brother died suddenly on my ...
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What do I do about my abusive father?

I'm 16 years old and live in the UK. My father has been physically and verbally abusing me for as long as I could remember, e. g. he punches, hits or slaps me. It's only been reported once to the ...
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Setting boundaries with an emotionally abusive coparent - in a way that helps kids

I am married to an emotionally abusive woman (a bit more background is available in this question). I have recently been trying to implement an approach of setting boundaries (it took me years to ...
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Stories to help children learn how to tackle passive aggression and emotional abuse

I've been married for 12 years and have a daughter, 7 1/2 years old, and a son, 3 1/2 years old. My wife is a very controlling and passive aggressive person (though I hesitate to use the term, the ...
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My children's Mother's new boyfriend is potentially abusing my child

I have two sons, the eldest is 6 as this question is about him. I am separated from his mother, she has a new boyfriend and is pregnant. My son lives with her during the week and I get him 3/4 ...
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How do I tell my best friend that he is mentally abusing his small child [closed]

I have a friend who is a wonderful father.He has 2 small children; a boy (4) and a girl (16 months). He tries really hard with his children and is the primary caregiver for his children. He also ...
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What can I do about a 10-year-old who can't seem to understand that hitting is wrong?

I'm helping to raise a pair of 10-year-old twins, who I will call James and Emily. James hits his sister to get his way. If she is sitting where he wants to sit, he hits her to get her to move. If she ...
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How to keep myself safe (during pregnancy) from abusive ex-boyfriend [closed]

I am now 20 weeks pregnant and I don't know what to do to keep this baby safe from an abusive ex that thinks I lost it. He is extremely mentally unstable and has threatened both of our lives if I ...
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Should a 6 year old's grandmother be kept away if she is abusive to her father?

My daughter loves her grandma and the feeling is mutual. But on occasion when my mom comes to visit, she loses her temper and she starts yelling at me. Sometimes my daughter overhears this despite my ...
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Is yelling often at kids equivalent to abuse?

I often yell at kids to maintain some direction and discipline, having three small but active kids. Often means whenever the situation gets out of hand with kids risking harming themselves or ...
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My 21-year-old adult son hates me

My adult son, who is 21, expects me to do everything he wants. He takes no responsibility for his actions, instead always finding a way to put the blame on me and or others. For example, he brought ...
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I am 21 and I am terrified beyond belief of my father

I am a 21 year old female living in Egypt and I am beyond terrified of my own father...at least I think he is my father. To say it shortly, I think I might have been adopted at a young age and no one ...
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Is it possible for an 8 year girl to be sexually abused and enjoy it?

Due to some recent findings of something, I'm really worried my niece is being sexually abused. I honestly think she is in some sort of "relationship" with someone that she loves and trusts and doesn'...
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Should I allow my preschooler to play with other parents at the playground?

My 4 year old daughter played with another parent and his son (around 3) at the playground. They started jumping on the dad's thighs as he was sitting on the ground, so the play was physical for a ...
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What should I do before calling the police if I suspect child abuse in the neighbourhood?

I am not outside around my house often, but I've been doing a personal project that has put me just outside my front door for at least 50 hours now. While out there, at least 40% of the time I have ...
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Parenting with a formerly abused partner?

I'm not quite sure if this is the right venue for my question but I hope ya'll tolerate it. My wife grew up in a single family home most of her life with an abusive stepfather the rest of the time.. ...
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My son has been offered money by a classmate, if he would pull down his underwear

My son, B., has a close friend, G., and a class mate, M. They are all eight years old. It has come to my attention that M. has offered G. money, if G. would hit himself. G. did and used the money to ...
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Drawing the line between abuse and “roughhousing” a teenager?

While this is not anyone in my family, I witnessed a father at a party treating his adolescent daughter like crap. The daughter's kind of introverted and didn't socialize too much, but the father ...
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My partner let my children be around a pedophile

My partner and I have been together for years and we have 2 sons! His mother and father owned a house with their friend and lived there with him for 20 years and in those years this man had been ...
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Regaining the trust of my toddler

I was in an abusive relationship where my son and I were both physically abused. I'm no longer in that relationship, and children's services has taken custody of my two year old son. In his eyes I ...
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How do I help a stressed out 9 year old sleep?

Some years ago my partner, A, and their spouse, B, separated, and now their daughter, O, lives with A and me. At the time everything was of course incredibly stressful for all involved, but in the ...
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Can a punishment be devoid of any “violence”?

If parents give a spank to their child, this is considered violence and as such frown upon - and in some countries simply a crime under the law. In my observation, parents who don't want to spank ...
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When should domestic violence be reported as child abuse or neglect? [closed]

I was reading a book, which aroused this question in my mind; when is domestic violence considered abuse? In some countries (and some households), some, mild violence is culturally acceptable. In ...
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How to stop my father from physically abusing me

I'm almost 15 years old and my father frequently physically and verbally abuses me. My being chinese certainly has a factor in this, but since I live in Texas, it is not legal. Usually it is for ...
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Help - taken legal guardianship of 16 yr old sister who is moving in but already staying over with boys etc

She's getting in very deep very quickly with a boy who has been in social care a fair bit over his life and has anger management issues, she's not even fully part of our household yet. Please help (...
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How to persuade my father to stop physically abusing my mother?

In summary: I am the daughter. My mother is being domestically abused by my father. What can I do to make him stop without hurting my mother in any way? - she still loves him! Details: My father is a ...
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How do I define 'rape' to an 8-year-old girl?

If you read news and are aware of international affairs, you'll be aware that something cruel had happened in India in December 2012 that shook the whole nation. For months, this was the headlines of ...
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How can I help my daughter's depression?

My daughter is a freshman in college and was sexually assaulted/raped on campus about 7 months ago. I noticed some cuts on her wrist when she was home last weekend and she admitted that she is cutting ...
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Relevant research to support father custody for children?

I have a friend who has children who are suffering an abusive situation with his ex-wife where she is physically, emotionally and verbally abusing their children. The situation is such that the ...
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My son is 5 years old and sexually active

I am a 20 year old female student and I have a 5 year old son who is really sexually active. For instance, he kisses girls by force, he forces them to lick his penis, he "fingers" them, he speaks ...
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Should the nanny quit when the parents don't care about their dangerous children?

I have four weeks left of the worst nannying position of my life. I originally thought the job would be great, three kids that seemed a little naughty but manageable. The interview went great and ...