I care for a three-year-old child that is generally very well mannered and a joy to care for. He takes after his dad in his morning attitude though (both of them need a little time to "wake-up" even after they are awake. Of course, his Dad still has good manners, but is self- admitting that his son takes after him in this realm).
I'm okay with giving the three-year-old a little time (after-all, he is three) before he has to greet me politely - I know he will once that little brain switches on and then it is go go go with all kinds of love and good manners until about half an hour before nap-time.
However, the boy's parents are (rightfully and I am thankful for this) very concerned that he exhibit good manners toward me as well as themselves even right at the time of waking.
Should he get 20-30 minutes grace period while transitioning from sleep to wake-fullness AND transitioning from mom and dad to me all at the same time? All he does for this first thirty minutes after waking up is watch a cartoon and hug mommy and daddy good-bye (and on some mornings - though not consistently, argue with mom and dad about whether he should say good morning to any of us yet).
I think it is important to understand - I get this kid, I set my alarm half an hour earlier than everyone else in the house, so I can have a little time to wake without having to talk to anyone as an adult (of course if someone is up, I can say good morning and still function politely, but I am also not a three-year-old boy).
Once it is time to have breakfast and get dressed, then of course it is down to business and I fully expect manners - I guess I see this cartoon 30 minutes as a sort of extension of his sleep and don't mind if he pretends I'm not there until the TV goes off and he is saying good-bye to mom and dad.
I have not contradicted the parents, but I also am choosing not to join in at this point either. I feel like it is a losing battle, and it starts the morning with a bunch of stress for everyone. I wind up awkwardly being there waiting for the "good morning" he just isn't ready to give. Thoughts?