Our first son would cry every night for my wife to come lay with him to go to sleep. At 3 years old, it continued.....every night. My son would be put to bed and he would start his whine - "Mommy, come lay with me....Mommy, come lay with me.... " (this was after we spent the time reading a good night story to him) It was now at the point (a 1.5 years of EVERY NIGHT) where I had to get up and go to his room and tell him he needed to go to sleep and mommy was not going to come lay with him.
I told him if he did not stop his crying, I was going to close the door. He did not stop his crying - so I closed the door. He then got up and opened the door and started the whole "good night crying program" once again. I of course went back and closed the door - he got up and started again.
So, I did what I could to lock the door (a friend of mine told me that he had to lock his son in his room in order to break this bad bedtime crying habit). I did not have a door on his room that was lockable from the outside - so I tied a series of neckties from the doorknob over to another doorknob. My plan was not to leave him locked in the room all night long - but to get him into an understanding of what sleep-time is supposed to be....Sleep Training - right? Well, my 3 year old son went out of his mind throwing books and everything he could get his hands on around the room.
My wife felt that this was very cruel and eventually gave in. She continued to get beckoned to his room every night so my son could twiddle her hair in one hand while he had his other hand's thumb in his mouth.
I did not think that this was cruel; however, my wife, 14 years later, is still bothered my this. Can someone kindly offer their thoughts?