This is about my second daughter, who is now 2 months old and happily smiling at me ^_^

An awful lot has happened with my 1st daughter since she was born...I've forgotten quite a bit about the ages at which infants should start turning, lifting their heads, when they should be at what weight, etc.

But something tells me my second daughter is fast. Too fast, perhaps, which is why I'm asking this question here.

She's been fast with everything so far. She was born in under 1 hour, doubled her weight in two weeks, started lifting her head almost immediately after birth (she can hold it up and control it completely now), and since a few weeks, when I lie her down in bed on her belly, she's starting to show signs of wanting to go crawling.

But here's the thing. Lately, she starts squirming and showing general signs of being displeased. There seems to be nothing in the world I can do to please her at that moment, except...help her stand on her legs. When I do that, she turns all smiles and becomes happy once again. Her stance is quite firm already; I can sometimes even let go for a sec (which she thoroughly enjoys, obviously).

Of course, as a good parent, I want to stimulate everything they indicate they are ready for. However, there's this gnawing concern I have when letting my daughter stand like that...she's barely 2 months old! I vaguely remember some doctor saying to me in the past that stimulating the legs, hips and back at too early an age can cause deformations later in life, because not all the cartilage has turned to bone.

Is this true? What should I do here?

  • 1
    I will say that as far as I can see, the advice from that doctor applies to parents trying to encourage walking, rather than assisting with something the baby is already trying to do, but if you have concerns, this would be a doctor thing, not a random people on the internet thing.
    – deworde
    Commented May 30, 2013 at 14:59
  • 1
    @deworde: In general, I agree with you; there's good reasons doctors study for so long :) However, I do think it's a might steep to pay a visit to the doctor when there isn't even a problem...Since I had a gut-feeling concern, primarily based on some well-intended anonymous advice from long ago of which I remembered a not-very-detailed fragment, I figured random people on the internet will do :) Commented May 30, 2013 at 15:05

2 Answers 2


Both my sons loved "standing" at an incredibly early age. My mother-in-law was horrified and assured us this would cause a bow-legged stance. Our pediatrician confirmed that leg or hip deformation is caused by nutritional deficiencies (vitamin D) or congenital defects, rather than too much weight on developing bones. (So the solution was to not let the boys pretend to stand when Nana was around... easy enough!) Ana's link is great for laying out the issue :) Feel free to let her stand, jump, and bounce.

Ironically, and not necessarily relevant: All that infant standing had no bearing on their eventual walking. My older son was walking at around 11 months, his younger brother waited until almost 15 months. (Their legs were equally strong, but the littler just didn't trust his balance as much.)

  • How are the sons doing now ? My 3 month old son will forget everything and smile like the happiest one on Earth when I support him to stand (on my knees). MIL throws the same lines at me. "His spine's gonna be crooked for the rest of his life" :( So am curious to know if your boys have had any issues ? Commented Jul 17, 2015 at 6:07
  • 2
    @happybuddha At 3.5 and 8 years old as of this comment, both have completely normal legs and hips. The older has been screened for scoliosis as well and is fine. (All that is based on the normal screening at regular pediatric checkups.) The older is in gymnastics and loves jumping and flips; both run and play enthusiastically. Thanks for asking for a follow-up :)
    – Acire
    Commented Jul 17, 2015 at 10:20

I had the exact same issue with my son. I Googled and found that pediatricians do not consider it problematic to let the baby hold up its own weight if it can, much to the delight of my little one. And to the horror of all other family members who come from countries where it's almost considered child abuse :)

  • 1
    Fiiew! :) Well that article really helped...This reinforced my belief that they know best :) Commented May 30, 2013 at 14:54

You must log in to answer this question.

Not the answer you're looking for? Browse other questions tagged .