my daughter is 21 months old and at present behaves in a curious way. I don't think this question is a duplicate of others with similar titles. During the day she's a sweetheart, no problems at all. We used to have no problems during the night at all, she started sleeping all night long when she was around 1 month old....
Lately this has changed.
At bed time, now, problems begin. There's a distinction: if her mother, my wife, goes to put her to sleep, the following behaviour is observed:
- she doesn't want to go into her bed
- if she does, she starts calling "mom" and "dad" (which is of course kind of cute)
- in her bed she starts crying, screaming and kicking
until the point in which either me or my wife go and pick her up (which is fine, I don't mind). If I go, in some time (sometimes even minutes) she will calm down, and finally she'll fall asleep. If my wife goes, the whole story begins again. We have asked my mother-in-law to try to put her to sleep, and, as with me, everything goes smooth.
After a few hours of sleep, usually around 5.30-6.00 am she wakes up and starts calling for mom. What happens then is that my wife brings her in our bed, where my daughter will start moving, calling, playing, screaming and eventually crying for an hour or 1.5 hours, and then she'll go back to sleep in either our bed or her bed, this doesn't change much.
Both at bed time and when she wakes up at 6.00 am she has warm milk, which she absolutely loves. We haven't tried to take that away, but I don't think that's the issue.
I do have a few ideas on my own, but I would like to see what others have to put in, before commenting (since I don't want to influence anyone).