Hi bit of a long post.
My eleven-year-old daughter is currently waiting assessment with calms for anxiety. It’s been on going for years but starting high school really set it off again. She was confused with her sexuality, so we sat down and explained to her that all this is normal and in time she’ll know. She then said she heard me and her dad having sex one night. We explained that this is normal and that’s what married couples do. Since then, she’s been obsessed with sex. She sexualises everything and anyone, including people in the family.
We are a very open family and will sit down and explain stuff to her. She’s heard kids talking in the school about different sexual things and I’ve explained these to her.
My fear is she’s going to say something that’s going to get someone into trouble who hasn’t done anything wrong. She says she doesn’t know why she thinks like this and she can’t help but see everything as sexual. I’m really at my wits end.
Someone mentioned to me that it might be OCD linked with the anxiety, but the lies are getting really serious and she doesn’t really care who she’s hurting. I don’t know where to turn to or what to do. Has anyone been through something similar?
I’ve asked her if anything sexual has happened to her, and she says no.
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This started after she got the sexual health talk at school. For example, if there's something white on someone's trousers, she might ask if it's cum, because people at school have been talking about it, and she's been saying things like "I think I fancy my football coach," etc. I'm trying to explain that these men don't see her like that, and they're there to teach her and guide her.
Thank you Paul for posting that link to other parents child this 100% sounds like my daughter! And how it came out the blue! The lies I’ve probably worded this wrong as I meant like telling me she fancied her football coach I was scared she’d say something and get that coach into trouble etc… my daughter isn’t getting sexually abused I’ve sat most nights having deep conversations with my daughter as I say we’re a very open family and she’s with me most of the time except her hobbies! The past 2 weeks she’s been obsessed with swimming but then was coming home telling me she thought she fancied the life guard but that link Paul posted most of it sounds exactly what my daughter is like! Thank you for all your help we had a phone call with Calms and are awaiting our face to face appointment