I am at my wits end and I don't know what else I can do. I honestly feel like I have done everything. For the past 3 years my daughter will NOT go poop in the toilet. Dr's did say she had/has endometriosis and has been on a stool softener for the past 3 years. Her stool is very soft now with no leaking BUT she still wants to poo in her pants and doesn't seem to care at all. When she needs to go, she will sit on her foot and try to hold it in but is not able to because of the stool softener she is on resulting in MANY soiled underwear and pants all day long. I have tried rewards, ignoring the issue, punishment (taking toys away), etc. The other difficult part to this is that I feel like I have no support from my husband. He is just fine with cleaning her up and for the longest time was okay with her wearing diapers when she felt like she needed to go. So any structure I try to implement is not supported by him.
What am I doing wrong? What can I do now? I will try anything!