My fiance and myself have a 16 year old daughter, which was hers from a previous relationship but I've raised with her since our daughter was about 6 months old. We also have 3 other kids together, a 12 year old daughter, 8 year old son, amd 2 year old daughter.
For the past 2 years or so, our oldest has slowly gone from listening to us, talking to us about problems, etc. to absolutely refusing to listen to us at all, and going from 0-60 when we attempt to get her to do anything, telling us we are mean, horrible parents. I understand that teenagers have a hard time adjusting to the flood of hormones, high school, and everything, but this seems to be way past the norm.
For example, our biggest issue that we are trying to work through is getting her to go to school everyday. If she decides she doesn't feel good, as in even just a small headache, she REFUSES to go to school and there is nothing we seem to be able to do short of using physical force to get her out the door and on the bus (which isn't something we've ever done, just to give you an idea of the yelling and screaming that ensues when we attempt to tell her otherwise). She has missed roughly a day nearly every week of school this year.
Even when she really is sick, she refuses to tale any kind of medicine. Right now she says she is very nauseous and has a really bad headache to the point light hurts her eyes, but I suggested taking a Tylenol and Zofran that was prescribed to her. Instead, she curled up into a ball, started sobbing hysterically, and refused to talk to me any further. We are worried for her grades and for her attendance, since it's entirely possible that the school can prosecute for not sending her to school.
We are at a loss, near driven to the end of our collective rope. She has a therapist that she sees weekly, but it doesn't seem to be helping (its her 3rd different therapist, each one seems to only listen and not actually help).
Has anyone else been through something similar? Any help at all would be greatly appreciated. We mainly just want to find a way to get her to communicate, but short of that anything else would be helpful.