My son is turning 11 months old next month, and I love him to death and back, but there's something that's been frustrating me nearly every night and I don't know what to do about it.
My son goes to sleep between 8 and 9 PM. Every night, he wakes up at around midnight, usually coughing a bit and always in need of rocking.
My frustration comes from trying to figure out what he needs to be put back to bed.
I rule out his diaper first (I change it if it is heavy and wet) and I try to rock him back to sleep if possible - but if these don't work, I try to give him a bottle to help with his hunger - but even when he seems thirsty or hungry (making sucking motions with his lips) he refuses to take the bottle, preferring to roll himself into my body and sleep.
This wouldn't be so bad - but unless he gets some of the bottle into him, he'll almost always wake up again several times after being put down, sometimes for a solid hour, before he'll either take some in and fall asleep, or simply drift off on his own (with the bottle going to waste).
I try my very best to set him down gently, even though he usually rolls himself over immediately as he hits the mattress. And I try to count to 30 to make sure he's drifted off, but sometimes after a few minutes he'll be right back at it.
My wife tries to help feed him and hold him but she's also usually much more tired than me and can't get up as many times as I do.
I don't so much mind that he does this - but I mind that it's starting to get really frustrating for me and I don't want to reflect that frustration onto my son. I love him, but I'm worried that this nightly fight to get him to sleep might be testing the limits of my patience.
What can I do to save myself some of this frustration, or at the very least manage my frustration better.