My boyfriend of 2 and a half years loves my daughter and my daughter loves and looks up to him as a father figure, but he said that “i'm harder on her because she isn't my biological daughter” and that “it will make her stronger” am I suppose to be ok with this? I’m upset by this and want him to love her has his own but by him saying these things makes me feel like he doesn’t lover her as his own. Am I wrong to think that? What should I do?

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  1. Your boyfriend's comment is a red flag.
  2. Your daughter does not need to be stronger.
  3. Your daughter is completely dependent on you for her health and wellbeing.
  4. No man should be allowed to threaten your daughter's wellbeing.
  5. However you feel about this is how you feel.
  6. No one gets to judge you or your feelings or your decisions about your daughter's wellbeing.
  7. Your relationship with your daughter is life-long.
  8. Your relationship with your boyfriend is not yet a life-long commitment.
  9. Without any explanation to anyone, including your boyfriend, you have a right to choose the best option for yourself and your daughter, whether you try to work it out with your boyfriend, or you end the relationship, you have a right to act without explaining or justifying your decision(s).
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    "Your daughter does not need to be stronger." It's possible that she does. There's not enough evidence either way as to whether or not the daughter is at a sufficient level of strength.
    – nick012000
    Jul 6 at 21:14

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