My father recently retired. Being a cinephile, he has a large collection of old film reels and has now come up with a project he wants to involve my son in: sorting and cleaning out the reels. This will involve learning about the structure of the films (film base, aspect ratio, sound or not, etc.) and not watching the films themselves.

My son is seven, but he is a people pleaser, so I am not really sure he is interested in this project. Frankly, I am not sure I would have been interested at that age. Should I agree to this project or gently tell my father that my son is probably not going to be interested and that he should wait till he is older? At what age do children get interested in historical things like this anyway?

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    Commented May 21, 2022 at 9:12

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I think you could let your son decide whether he wants to participate or not. Maybe he could try for some time and see how he likes it. Make sure that he understands that he doesn’t need to do that and can back up at any point. You never know if someone is interested in something until they try it, especially at this age. He might be interested in all these things he’s never seen before and probably never will. I get that it’s hard for him to say ‘no’ to people, so it’s important to explain that if he doesn’t like to do this project nothing bad will happen. He won’t disappoint anyone and can still spend time with his grandpa outside the project.

I wouldn’t give a confident ‘yes’ to your father either, he must understand that not every 7 y.o. could possibly be interested in film-making especially old ones and without watching them. So maybe he could include small film sessions with popcorn and stuff to make it more interesting for the kid. If your father is determent to involve your son in this project, I bet he is willing to adjust any of his plans of how to do that. Because if both parties aren’t having fun, then what’s the point of it? If this doesn’t work out now, he can wait another year or two to try again. Or start it on his own, and maybe later your son joins in seeing that his grandpa does something so interesting and attention-keeping. Kids are curious and they love doing “adult” things so your son might actually get invested in learning about films from his grandpa.

Let your son see what the reels are and if your father likes to explain things then there’s a big chance that your son’s attention will get caught and he will enjoy this activity. I wouldn’t shut this opportunity up without giving it a chance. Good luck!


Indirectly asking your youngster if he is interested is one technique to determine his interest level. For instance, you may play a game with him in which he is the grandfather and you are the child, and observe his reaction to this game. It may provide you with some useful ideas.

If he is sufficiently curious, you will notice that he tries to persuade you to assist with this work. If he is not, you may discover he has little interest in playing this game with you.

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