I know this makes me sound like a jerk, but it feels nuanced and I really am trying to learn and grow.
Some added context:
- He is using the handflute, or 'hand ocarina' method
- He does it very frequently, and publicly (within our home)
- It's atonal, loud and distracting...but his skill has improved considerably over the past several months
- He can't or won't yet whistle using other methods
- It seems to be a nervous tick, he used to pop his knuckles
- We are a very musical family (he plays the trumpet with a school band, and practices at home, which I love)
- I'm not getting support from my partner on this, if anything, it's the opposite
So, what's my problem? Everyone else in the house whistles on occasion, including me.
- The frequency is excessive
- I feel as if he's doing it (sometimes) intentionally to annoy me
- When he's whistling in this way it's conspicuously clear that he's using his hands for nothing else
- in the shower?? that's just wasting water
- instead of: homework, chores, anything that might otherwise be a productive endeavor
- He complains when I put music on in the home
OK, this last point really gets to the heart of the issue for me. I try to be considerate with regards to subjecting others to "my sounds". I feel like there's a situational awareness that keeps most of us from just adding random aural pollution wherever we go. Is my playing music in my own home no different?