My best friend lives 2.5-3 hours away. They can't drive due to a disability. They have 3 kids under age 5 and I have a 2 year-old. We're both busy SAHM (Stay At Home Moms) but would love to hang out more. Spouse and I only have one car though, and I don't want to spend the night away from them,so I've been thinking of maybe taking a day trip out with the toddler to see my friend.
I would have to drop off my spouse in the morning at their job, and could get to the highway after, but there'd be a lot of traffic at rush hour. I could take the more scenic route (more chances to stop if toddler needs something) but that'd still mean I'd get to my friend's house by 11am or a little later, stay until probably 6pm, and presumably get back home by 9pm at the latest.
Is this too much, especially for my toddler? My spouse thinks so, and doesn't see the point since my family lives in the same town as my friend, so we can just see them whenever we're down to see my family (we try to go about one weekend a month). IDK, I guess I'm just trying to find a way to spend more time with my friend and their kids without having to squeeze seeing everyone into a single weekend, but I also need to be fair to my kid and spouse. Thoughts?