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Our two and a half year old daughter has had a strange fear of slides and swings for some time (maybe half a year or more). She doesn't dare to slide alone, only if someone holds her hand, except for very small slides. And even very slow swinging is too wild for her and after few seconds she has enough. Compared to other children, she is a real coward and hardly dares to do anything. But she is very skillful e.g. at climbing.

In the garden she has a great playhouse with swings and a slide and had already done it all by herself and loved it and also swung wildly when she was younger, but not anymore. In winter, of course, we did this less often, but were still often on playgrounds and the like.

About our daughter: She is generally very reserved and cautious, rather introverted and thoughtful, but makes a very intelligent impression on us, among other things because she is already very developed linguistically. If you want to know anything else, please just ask.

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    "Compared to other children, she is a real coward and hardly dares to do anything. But..." Maybe this is said in jest, which is fine when talking about your child with other adults. But... I hope this isn't your actual thought/belief about your daughter. No matter how jokingly or lovingly it's said/implied, she'll pick up on the fact that she's not "x" enough for you, which is not a good thing to feel. What I'm about to say may sound like a lecture, but please take it how it's meant (something to think about)...
    – anongoodnurse
    Apr 12 at 19:16
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    I don't know of anyone who asked to be brought into this world with promises made to their parents in return for the work and expense of being taken care of for 18 years. You and your SO made her; she deserves to be loved completely for who she is (not what she does or doesn't do) while you are teaching her about how to live. So if you label her a coward, even just in your mind, try to reframe it to something more neutral or even positive. My more circumspect/responsible kids never broke bones/needed stitches/drove drunk/caused me to lose sleep, etc. ;)
    – anongoodnurse
    Apr 12 at 19:20
  • So, in your garden she swings and slides without any problem? So it's a problem with other swings and other slides?
    – JonTheMon
    Apr 12 at 20:40
  • @anongoodnurse I'm totally onboard with what you're saying and that's my line of thinking as well, thank you! But it's sadly what other people are labeling her.
    – Manuel K
    Apr 13 at 11:55
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    @ManuelK - What other people are saying shouldn't matter if it's not true or important. let them raise their own kids.
    – anongoodnurse
    Apr 14 at 8:18

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