I am 22 years old, an only child, and haven't lived with my parents (save for the summer months) since I started college in 2017. I am graduated as of 2020 and I have a stable and well paying job in a metro area about 100 miles from where I grew up. over the course of the last year to a year and a half, my parents have gotten a divorce and split up assets relatively evenly (as far as I am aware)
The parent that kept the home paid out half of what it was worth at the time to the other parent that moved away. The problem is that now, the homeowner parent is going to sell the house in a much better housing market than there was when the divorce settlement was made. the non-homeowner is not too happy about this and the homeowner parent has asked me if they should split the profit with their ex-spouse, since it will be relatively significant.
My response was that I didn't really care, that legally it's the homeowners property now, and if the same gain in value had occurred over the course of 15 years instead of 1, I doubt there'd be any issue in the idea of all sale "profits" going to the homeowner and not being split at all. My main point was that if the homeowner felt guilty as a result, then they should resolve that however they see fit, but that it was nothing to do with me at all.
The question that I have is: Is it appropriate to ask of your child, regardless of how stable their life may be, to weigh in on such matters?
How should a child to respond and act in the wake of a divorce? What actions should I be taking to ensure that I have done my responsibility as both the child of the family as well as that of a reasonable and caring adult?