I'm only 13, and since I came back from Mexico (since 4 years) they have been abusive for 5 years. At first, it was all fine but then like 1 week later they became abusive. My parents are abusive my dad is always pulling my hair for something bad that I didn't even do. If my siblings do something bad, they blame it on me. I just can't handle them, sometimes I feel like it's time to run away.

Update: My babysitter already knows about this and she's trying to help me.

  • Where are you living now? Can you talk to a teacher about what is happening? At your age running away is very dangerous: there are things out there that are far worse than what is happening to you now. Apr 17, 2021 at 15:27
  • @PaulJohnson Yeah, and there are also things extremely dangerous about staying with abusive parents. Contrary to popular belief, a child will not get instantly kidnapped and murdered as soon as they are outside alone.
    – forest
    Apr 26, 2021 at 3:17
  • @forest The OP describes physical and psychological abuse which is certainly a concern but does not present immediate risk of death or serious injury. You are correct that a 13 year old is not in immediate danger the instant they step out of the door, but sleeping rough and begging at that age will attract predators. Meanwhile any authorities the OP contacts for help after running away are likely to return them to their parents. Apr 26, 2021 at 8:13
  • @PaulJohnson It will? Statistically that is not so. In fact, a child is overwhelmingly more likely to be seriously hurt by abusive parents (even parents whose abuses are currently "mild") than by a stranger. It's true that there are better alternatives than running away, but running away is not necessarily more dangerous than staying at home. The overwhelming majority of predators or otherwise abusive individuals get access to a child through abusive parents. It's extremely uncommon for them to be total strangers.
    – forest
    Apr 26, 2021 at 22:40
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    @forest The vast majority of children are not sleeping rough. The OPs best course is to get their countries child protection services involved. Apr 27, 2021 at 4:34

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I have some experience in this type of situation. The best thing to do is to talk to an adult who is NOT abusive towards you such as a guidance counselor. When talking to them, make sure to explain the full situation that you have and let them help you with the rest.


SoyokoAnis has a good answer, However let me add something to that. You should never EVER act aggressive towards them, or it will just give them a real reason to do the things they do. If you have access to a phone and its really bad, I would call authorities and tell them what your going through, I would also get video proof of them doing it to you so you have evidence.

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