This is weighing so heavy right now.
I had my daughter with my ex when I was 20. She is 8 now. To make things simple, my ex husband and I married at a young age and our relationship was rocky. Physical, mental, verbal abuse. He had a strong drug addiction, beat me when I was pregnant, and ultimately went to prison for manslaughter. He was sentenced 2 weeks before she was born. So I moved back in with my mom to have a stable environment and had my child. I lived at my mom's for a year and a half before meeting my now,fiance. Moved in with him when she was a year and a half and here we are almost 7 years together. He has a wonderful relationship with our daughter and she's told me more than once he is her bestfriend. My ex got released when she was 3, claiming he wanted to see her. I was hesitant and within a few months he went back to jail. He's been incarcerated the majority of her life. He's now jumping from female to female to support his drug habit and a place to stay. He hasn't reached out to me in over 4 years. He also had a son with his ex while we were married and now has a total of 3 kids who lives He is not involved in. His son actually went to foster care because he didn't step up.
We've never told her about her father and most of his family isn't in the picture.
Idk if she's piecing things together, but she asked my mom over the weekend if my fiance is her step dad.
My fiance, mom , and myself all agree it's best not to lie to her, yet I'm battling so hard inside to have this conversation with her.
What is the best way to go about this?