I became stepdad to an adult boy (22) (I am not the biological dad). He didn't have anyone to teach him or a father-like figure since his dad passed away when he was 7.
He never went to college or university as his mom was always struggling and he is a slow learner who learns by metaphors and has been bullied and sometimes his reply was to fight the other person. He told me that he never could make a friend.
He left his first job because his colleague (Mr M.) wasn't helpful and couldn't understand what he did, so he always asked a 3rd person (Mr W) about his issue but Mr W. never spoke because he wanted to save his job so things got out of hand. One day my stepson resigned from his job as his manager really humiliated him (according to him he is always misunderstood and whenever he wants to speak up, his heartbeat goes too high and he starts to sweat and his mouth gets dry so he is out of words on what to say).
I also know he had been a victim of molestation as a teen and couldn't speak to anyone because of society. When he was kid some girl kissed him and told everyone that he forced her to kiss him which broke his heart.
I really want to help him but I am a new to kids and when I see my stepson's future I really want him to communicate openly before things escalate as he has his whole life ahead of him.
Does he need to learn communication/diplomacy or how can I make him more open to conversations when he has an issue with someone?