This is the setting:
- I'm with my 6-7 years old son in a dinosaur park (in a day not busy at all, so he will not behave as a good boy just because there's people around him who could make him feel ashamed)
- my son starts kicking a dinosaur sculputure
- I tell my son he should not do that
- he asks why
What are the pros and cons of the following answers, if the target is helping the child develop in the right direction (I hope we agree that not kicking the dinosaur is the right thing to do)? Most importantly, I'm interested in the negative effects of answer 1.
- "The watchmen will reprimand you if he sees you"
- "Because I say so"
- "Because I will beat you"
- "Because other kids like you have right to ... and you should respect ..."
I've sorted them from the most detrimental to the most effective based on my personal experience (as a son, not as a parent), however I'm asking this question because I'd like to find some authoritative material about this specific topic (telling a child You shouldn't behave like this because XYZ).
Edited to add: I am not a parent (of any child), just in case someone doesn't see the the "as a son, not as a parent" part.
Why am I asking this question?
Because I seen, for real, a parent telling the child the answer 1 below, which drove me crazy.