My eldest son will be 5 in 2 weeks time. Since our second boy (7.5 Months now) we been totally consumed by him as he demand attention. Our elder son just use to play with his switch and use to ask me to play and eventually started using iPad. I do from time to time, take him out to cycle, colour with him, teach him New tricks but I feel I m missing a lot.

I have a very rollercoaster career. Loosing job again and again. I am a web developer and since I shifted with my wife brother as they are not financial stable so I provide for them until 2 weeks back when I quit my job due to stress. I feel like I am lacking too behind in career and try to study all the time but now I got guilt. I ask myself if I am the best developer coz I don’t spend time with my son. Can’t teach him school things, can’t go out regular with him and now second son has taken most of time.

I can see in my son eyes he want time but ever since my teenage, I been sitting in front of computer all day I don’t know how to make a routine to bound with my son. His routine is turning like mine. All day tv, iPad and then sleep. I don’t want him to be raised like that. At the same time our second son is a constant attention seeker.


Sounds like there is a lot on your plate and that you’re looking for new ways to connect with your son. Kids often benefit from some structure and routine. I would suggest starting by having a consistent time carved out on a regular basis where just you and your son have time together. This can start out as 10 mins every Saturday, for example, or a couple afternoons twice a week - whatever fits in your schedule. Is there something that you enjoy doing? Perhaps this is examining maps, going on a nature walk and looking for creatures, imaginative play, etc. Maybe it’s something you are curious about that your son has expressed interest in. I’m sure your son would enjoy having some one on one time with you.

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