When I met my wife initially I did not know that she had a child. Over time, I learned of this news and asked her to marry me after 3 years of dating. My wife made the decision to tell him that I was his father and I went along so as to make life a bit easier for him and for the family.
When he became a young teenager, I adopted him and officially gave him my family name as he had been using it for school all along.
He is now married, did time in the Air Force and has his own kids as well. We had a falling out about a year ago and during that time, he signed up and took part in Ancestry.com and realized that there is now way that I could be his biological father. When I checked up on them through social media's messenger, he blasted me with all kinds of insults, told me that I lied to him, and wants nothing to do with me.
I raised him as my very own and his own brothers did not know about me not being his biological father as we had kept it hush hush to only a few people that knew ahead of time. I have never thought that I deserved anything special as I simply fell in love with his mother, married her, and fell in love with him as well. I understand where he would be confused and almost violated, but the things that he said to me are things that even enemies of mine have never said to me before and I am afraid that the damage done is beyond repair.
Has anyone ever had any experience in dealing with something like this before?