My almost 3-year-old is still currently using her crib every night. Now that she's fully potty trained (day & night), we are considering transitioning her to a toddler bed, but I am wondering if maybe we should go straight to a twin/day bed because we are all pretty above average from a height perspective and would love to skip (if possible) the transition of a toddler bed to a big kid's bed so soon. Not sure if it's relevant, but my daughter isn't necessarily attached to her crib. She only uses it at night and prefers to nap on my bed or the couch.

My questions are:

  • Has anyone transitioned straight to an adult bed and skipped the toddler ones?
  • If you had a toddler bed, how long did it last before you had to transition?
  • Did you need bed rails?
  • How did you give your toddler the big kid talk about switching beds?
  • When my first son was 3 he hd a almost adult single bed. His friend was visiting and they had decided that the best "plan" was to jump from the window sill onto the bed doing a forward somersault as part of the manouver, well it was raining outside... As for the transition - he was involved in replacing the cot - which bed, how big, what color, what bed linen design? Snoopy, rockets, stars, dinosaur etc Not a problem really. As always they will be ready when they are ready - there is no absolute calendar available "one fits all" like they should do this by this age... – Solar Mike Jul 16 at 22:00

What you'll find is that it varies dramatically by the child and their sleep habits. Some children are sound sleepers who rarely move; some are rollers and will go all over, making adult-height beds challenging due to them falling off easily.

Both of my children were in "regular" beds by 3 or so. However, one of them is no longer - he now mostly sleeps on the floor, but that's by choice - he has a bed, he just likes the floor. My oldest is mostly a sound sleeper who stays in roughly one place; he rarely is out of his bed. My youngest, though (at 7) is a roller. He will go from one end of the room to the other, and if he does start on a bed odds are he's stretched out horizontally on it, and will slowly slide down to the floor then start moving on that. For him, we needed to make accommodations; we let him use the trundle bed, which makes rolling off much less of a concern, especially at 3 or 4. (He still uses it, mostly, though sometimes on an adult bed now.)

My suggestion is that if she's fine sleeping on your bed, she may be able to sleep on an adult twin bed; but make sure it's in one corner of the room, with two sides on the wall, and arrange things so she tends to be on that side of it. If you find her falling off, then you may need rails, but some kids are fine without - it just depends.

To test it, you could try using the crib mattress on the floor for a few days, and see if she's able to stay on it during the night. If she mostly is, then she might be a good candidate. You can also use the crib mattress below the bed when you do try that - a soft landing space if she falls off, or just wants something closer to the ground. Kids are soft and flexible and generally okay sleeping on the floor, after all.

As far as "the talk", the biggest challenge for us was convincing them to stay in bed, and understanding that we have to be tolerant of them walking about some - they're no longer confined to a small space. Having to learn to accept that and not jumping on them every time they're out of bed was hard, but once we learned to let them settle down by having that freedom, it was fine.

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  • +1 for the mattress on the floor to start, often times cost is a factor and parents don't want to have to pay for multiple beds they won't use – Hatman Jul 14 at 18:39

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